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162: 2025 Yearly Themes

 

00:00:00   It is time once again for a yearly theme. Yearly theme episode 2025. So in case you're new to

00:00:08   yearly themes you would like a refresher, allow me to provide you with one. What we recommend here at

00:00:14   the Cortex Podcast is setting a theme for your year. Instead of new year's resolutions, which we

00:00:20   can all agree are bad, we recommend that you set up a yearly theme that will act as a guide for your

00:00:26   life throughout that period. So I want to give the key example, this is the easiest example, I think

00:00:31   we give this one every year. Instead of saying to yourself, "Oh I want to read more books, I'm going

00:00:36   to read 20 books in 2025," that's bad. Because if you read 19 books, hooray you've read 19 books,

00:00:42   but you didn't read 20 and then you failed your new year's resolution. What a failure. Indeed. So

00:00:48   we, and your year is ruined by that, absolutely ruined. But we would recommend that instead you

00:00:54   would set a year of reading. Because if you have year of reading as your yearly theme, any reading

00:00:59   that you do throughout the year is positive. Like you may decide you want to read biographies,

00:01:04   that might be where you want to start, "I have a bunch of biographies that I want to read,

00:01:07   I want to read those this year." But then halfway through the year maybe you get big into science

00:01:11   fiction. It's all reading, so it's all part of your year of reading. Yearly themes are broad,

00:01:17   they're adaptable, it's something that helps you shape the decisions in your life and it acts as a

00:01:21   guide for you. It is not a destination, it is not a fixed thing, but it's something that can help you

00:01:26   when it comes to making decisions. Like if you're maybe picking up the remote to turn on Netflix,

00:01:31   why don't you pick up your book instead? Because it is the year of reading and your yearly theme

00:01:35   will nudge you towards the thing that you're looking to do. Yeah, you really want to have it

00:01:39   be that there's not a fail state. I actually heard a great tip from someone who did do a year of

00:01:44   reading and they came up with what I thought was a genius thing, which was simply tracking

00:01:50   word count. So it's like, ah, it encouraged the ability to be reading a book and then go,

00:01:57   "This book is terrible, I don't want to finish it." But you still get to count like how many pages,

00:02:02   roughly how many words was that, and that's what they were tracking. Love it. And actually a thing

00:02:08   that changed over time was they realized, "You know what I actually want to read more of? I wanted

00:02:12   to read more long form articles," is what they were telling me. And it's like, ah, and that

00:02:17   totally worked as well. They were just tracking like, "What's the word count that I'm reading

00:02:21   on a bunch of like well-written articles that I like online?" It's like, and all of that just

00:02:26   worked in year of reading. And they felt like, oh, this really did encourage them so much more

00:02:31   than if they had set out a particular goal of, "Oh my God, I'm going to read X books per month."

00:02:38   It's like, ah, no, that's not actually what you want to do. Like you can find the change halfway

00:02:42   through and just roll with it. Your yearly theme can be about whatever is important to you. It's

00:02:47   going to help something in your personal life, your professional life, maybe both. It will always

00:02:52   act as a guide, something for you to think about every day. Your yearly theme provides you with

00:02:57   a framework in which you can consider any new opportunities, how you're spending your time,

00:03:02   how you're making decisions. You know, sometimes you may be posed with a decision and if you feel

00:03:06   like it can affect and change your yearly theme for the positive, it becomes something that you

00:03:11   can take on for your year. It's just a tool that helps us change. And it's hard to recognize change,

00:03:17   but I know as we're going to go through this episode, as we do every year, that my yearly

00:03:22   themes, especially reflecting on them too, they act as this way for me to be able to see,

00:03:27   how did I do over this year? Did I make the impact that I was looking for? They're just a truly

00:03:33   wonderful tool. It's been life-changing for me to think about my years this way. And we hope that

00:03:38   you'll join us. Mike, what was your 2024 yearly theme? My theme for 2024 was the year of people.

00:03:46   So essentially what I set out to do for this year was to think about ways to find capable people who

00:03:54   could help me with my work, to help me push my work forward, but not always with me being actively

00:04:01   involved in the work being moved forward. And so I knew I needed more help to start to take my life

00:04:08   into some places that I wanted to go to. And that meant that I also needed to be able to let go a

00:04:13   little bit more and seek help from some experts. And I'm very happy with the way that this year

00:04:18   has progressed. The way that I saw my ideal scenario of work occurring about me being

00:04:26   involved really came to be this year. And so I want to run through with you, Gray, a few key

00:04:31   areas, like looking back over my year of the year of people. So a lot of this has been enabled by me

00:04:38   hiring a new assistant. So I have a new virtual assistant and she has been helping me with various

00:04:43   projects throughout the year. But we have a call every Monday, which is called the Air Traffic

00:04:48   Control Meeting. And this is all about helping me build better structures and kind of like a

00:04:54   better flow of my work. Just on a fundamental level, it's been really helpful to have someone

00:05:01   who I talk through my work with, who's just there to listen, ask questions and see if things could

00:05:06   be done better and to maybe challenge me a little bit if I seem to be doing something that is not a

00:05:12   priority or I'm doing something that really I should do later or I should have done sooner.

00:05:17   Like it's good to have someone take that external view of my work and kind of be a positive critic

00:05:24   of it. This is a relationship that is developing in that way, right? Because she has to really

00:05:30   understand a lot about my habits and what works for me and what doesn't and over the space of a

00:05:35   year. And we've learned a lot together so far. But then also having her then help build me some

00:05:41   systems. A lot of it has been in Notion, as I've mentioned before, and then having her coordinate

00:05:46   with other people to progress the projects on my behalf has really been amazing. There's stuff

00:05:51   that's happened this year. It's all mostly Cortex Brown work and I'll get onto why in a bit, but

00:05:56   it's stuff that I would have had to have given up on if she wasn't pushing it forward because I

00:06:02   didn't have the time to progress it, but it was stuff that was important. I think it's been helpful

00:06:07   in me assessing some priorities. It's also been helpful in me realizing something. One of the

00:06:13   things that has been a... We've spoken about it a few times on the show over the last year or two

00:06:18   is we're calling it Stacked September, but it's really Stacked Q4. And in 2023,

00:06:26   I thought, we thought it was just an anomaly. That the year had just conspired in such a way

00:06:36   that towards the end of the year, everything was crashing together. This year has proven to me

00:06:42   that no, that's going to keep happening every year. And it's starting to establish itself as

00:06:48   a bit of a pattern. And this is a combo of things. So it comes from my podcasts. So this show,

00:06:55   our two biggest episodes of the year happen in Q4 and they take a lot of work to really do them

00:07:01   the way that we want to do them. And it's also some of my other shows. We have special episodes

00:07:06   around the holidays. There's also just a lot of live stuff that's going on around this period

00:07:10   of time, but then also running a product business. I think we thought we could maybe be some kind of

00:07:17   unicorn business that didn't have to worry about Q4 as being so important, but yeah, Q4 is super

00:07:23   important. And so this year has kind of helped me highlight that. And I've been looking at that and

00:07:29   I know that's going to be a focus for the next, for every year basically of doing a better job

00:07:33   of planning that. But that has really taken me having this like bird's eye view of my projects

00:07:40   to realize how these strands were coming together that led to this being a very, very, very busy

00:07:46   time again at the end of the year. You feel like you have a better understanding of it because of

00:07:50   the air traffic control meeting? Is that like, is that what you're saying? I could see it happening

00:07:53   again. Right. Okay. Yeah. As things were starting to unfold, I could see it. And then now that I

00:08:00   have like the groundwork of this system, it's how I know it can be better next time. Because like,

00:08:04   for example, we now have tasks for like, it's kind of coming around to like April, May and it's like,

00:08:09   all right, what's happening at Christmas? And like really making that like a priority then rather

00:08:15   than in July or August as it has been before. Because really it's just one of these things.

00:08:21   If we just gave ourselves one month more, like as a runway for taking it serious, then the situation

00:08:28   right now would feel a lot easier. I think the vast majority of the year of people has been

00:08:35   related to Cortex brand because it is the growing part of my businesses. Like Relay is 10 years old

00:08:41   this year, which is being an incredible thing of its own. And I have definitely taken the time this

00:08:47   year to think about the people that have gotten me to this point. Like from the people that I work

00:08:51   with to the people that listen to my shows. But Relay is established. There are a bunch of people

00:08:56   who know their roles and we've been doing it for 10 years. So at this point it is a somewhat stable

00:09:03   business from an organizational perspective. But Cortex brand is growing and has grown in complexity

00:09:13   and possibility quite a lot in the last 12 months because the Sidekick notepad has been a great

00:09:19   success for us. Like it's proven the business as being a business and it isn't just like a fluke

00:09:26   that we had a journal that people like. But it's proven we can have another successful product,

00:09:31   which I think in turn proves to both of us that oh this can actually work. And so we've kind of

00:09:37   put our foot down on that like pedal to the metal or whatever the phrase is. And that takes a lot

00:09:44   of effort. And so it has required for us and me especially to work with more people to try and

00:09:51   take it where we want it to go. Yeah it's interesting. I think I hadn't actually quite

00:09:55   realized like what is the big thing that the Sidekick notepad did is it proved like ah we've

00:10:02   done this twice so it wasn't just a fluke. The second time was even more successful than the

00:10:08   first. And it's like yes that has directly fed into a whole bunch of growing Cortex in lots of ways.

00:10:16   It's like yeah it's like we've talked about it but I think that just really clarifies the thing of

00:10:21   ah what has happened? Why does Cortex need more people? Why is Mike having the year of people?

00:10:27   Is because what are we aiming to do? We're now aiming to have something that is much more like

00:10:32   a repeatable process because we have repeated it once. And that's just so structurally different

00:10:39   from the very first time of doing these kinds of things. Yeah so like one of the things that I

00:10:44   really wanted to do this year was improve the imagery that we use on product pages and on our

00:10:50   social media and really kind of try and like get a feel. And I started working with a selection of

00:10:55   content creators like a lot of people that I found through the keyboard community because they know

00:10:59   how to take photos of things on desks. I'm only laughing because that sentence makes it sound like

00:11:06   how hard can it be to take a photograph of a thing on a desk? It sounds so easy until the moment you

00:11:13   try it. Like I've got like post-traumatic stress disorder from just some of the very short shots

00:11:19   that I did for myself for the journal of like and I have all this equipment. I was like oh my god

00:11:25   just like getting a video shot of this journal to look good is impossible. So that's why it's like

00:11:30   yeah you need people who this is the thing that they're doing because it is surprisingly deceptively

00:11:38   hard to take a good looking photo of a thing on a desk. Yeah and through this process we found a

00:11:42   small team that we're now working with to kind of really revamp the imagery. And it's been really

00:11:48   great because this has been for me an example of finding really talented people who and this is one

00:11:58   of the things that I like about collaborating with people in general is sometimes you know what you

00:12:04   want you just don't know how to communicate it. You have like a feeling for how you want to create a

00:12:09   project to come to life but trying to get from step a to step f is very complicated. Like you know

00:12:16   where you are now you know what the end result is but like how do you get through the many decisions

00:12:22   that you have to get through. And I found this to be really great because I feel like I've found

00:12:28   people who truly understand how I see our products and then are helping us communicate that visually.

00:12:37   Because we sell things that are tactile and it's hard to get that across in visual but I think that

00:12:44   they're doing a very good job of helping us bring that to life and it's definitely taking us to a

00:12:49   place that me and you could not get to on our own right like as described like we've both tried and

00:12:55   we've both done an okay job but it's not good enough it's not good enough to really sell what

00:13:00   we're doing very much like this will do kind of stuff which is really not what we're trying to

00:13:06   portray if like good enough. Yeah the escalation was I need something that can work right now and

00:13:16   then you made the pass and it's like you were going to do it and you made it look much better

00:13:23   but there's still that next level of like does this look truly professional and it's like ah

00:13:27   that's what you need a professional for is yes is the progress of like I tried it it's like I cannot

00:13:32   possibly do this you tried it you're like better but still not what we're looking for so yeah it's

00:13:37   like more people just have to come in to be part of this. And then it's like the communication and

00:13:42   the sharing of it right like content has to be written we have an email newsletter now which

00:13:47   unbelievably we did not have until this year we're like taking social media more seriously rather than

00:13:51   me just remembering to post something every now and again like and that takes people that takes

00:13:56   management and it takes planning that takes copywriting that takes testing it takes sending

00:14:01   and that I am involved but I am not responsible for these things which is the way that it has to

00:14:08   be because there's there's zero way that I would be able to do this alongside Relay that is two

00:14:16   probably more than full-time jobs together if I was trying to do all of these things and so

00:14:24   being able to get a team it was like nobody is full-time on Cortex brand but I think now there

00:14:31   are about eight people that work on Cortex brand and last year it was like two and a half so like

00:14:38   we're really trying you know but like this is what it is taking and it has been for me so rewarding

00:14:46   and interesting and thought-provoking to work with all of these people right so there's me and you

00:14:54   but then there's also these other people who are like outside and they ask questions of us right

00:15:00   and then we have to try and explain to them and it helps me rethink stuff and reshape things there

00:15:07   are days now where I'm having meetings with like three or four people multiple meetings like three

00:15:14   or four meetings with different people who are all really engaged and active and trying to push it

00:15:18   all forward but the thing that has been the most amazing is it's happened there are meetings and

00:15:24   working sessions that are occurring that I am not involved in like they're just happening we have

00:15:31   two people working together on a project that we care about and neither me or you are involved in

00:15:40   the work that is being done and it's just happening honestly like this is what I wanted

00:15:45   I didn't know that I could get to this point this year because that felt like so much effort

00:15:52   in trying to bring together the people that I felt would work together and I'm so pleased that we've

00:16:00   been able to do it and then I've been able to set these people up give them what they need

00:16:04   and kind of just trust them to go out there and do it and it's hard right it's letting a little

00:16:10   bit go I mean I had this last year which kind of bled into your people like letting go the edit of

00:16:16   this show you know it's been an incredible like benefit from my life and it was the same as all

00:16:22   of the other like editing projects that I've given away over years is you are letting go a piece of

00:16:28   your creativity but you're letting it go to people that you trust and they can go away and do

00:16:34   something with it and get it to a point that you couldn't get to or get it to a point that is just

00:16:40   what you're happy with but then you were able to put your time somewhere else and not be actively

00:16:46   involved in it so this is one of these things where you know I worked for a big company and

00:16:52   I knew what this stuff was like and I used to sit in meetings or tell people and everyone go away do

00:16:57   their thing come back the reason that this is so amazing to me is like this is my stuff now

00:17:04   you know I have these businesses now where they're full of people working on their creative projects

00:17:11   and working on projects that I care about and making it happen and putting it out there like

00:17:17   I've been so happy with it with the way that this has gone and I feel like this is one of those

00:17:23   themes where they're not all like this but I've had a couple of these in the last few years where

00:17:29   the effects of the theme are felt for a long time afterwards like I don't need to have the same

00:17:35   like focus next year on like thinking about people because the people are already there now

00:17:41   we're all got our projects we're all working away we've set up what we need to do and now it just

00:17:47   continues moving forward and yeah one of the things that I was pleased about that came in

00:17:52   unexpectedly through the year but again it ended up being something that I could think about because

00:17:57   of my theme was the way in which I allow people to contact me right so bringing in all these people

00:18:05   one of the downsides of it is there's now a lot of people who need a lot of things from me

00:18:10   I think this ended up coming out as a frustration in the year of like I was kind of fed up with my

00:18:16   email and the notifications that I was getting and you pushed me to really rethink a lot of that

00:18:23   and that has been like a great thing of like okay I'm bringing more people in more people need

00:18:28   things from me I've got to work with more people how can I be the most effective for them and for

00:18:34   me and a lot of that is in setting up boundaries guidelines for how communication is done and that

00:18:42   has been like a great thing for me to consider as the year has gone on I've been really happy

00:18:46   with where I am with that now it's funny you got there because my brain was reaching for the same

00:18:49   word of like boundary issue as we spoke about it at the time it's a big identity issue was like

00:18:56   recognizing a change in role and a change in like how you need to work I think that that kind of

00:19:02   stuff can just get quite sticky in your brain and then it does action out as as a kind of boundary

00:19:09   issue of like oh when am I going to be available when am I not going to be available I think it's

00:19:14   a genuinely big deal that you were able to do that and that it worked so well for you I think

00:19:21   it's because you were truly open to like doing this and reassessing and recognizing like where

00:19:27   you are I'm feeling so happy for you in this moment because I didn't realize until just now

00:19:32   that there's a way in which this could have gone in the reverse because by bringing on more people

00:19:40   you could have started to tell yourself a story that this is the year of people I need to be

00:19:47   accessible to these people I'm hiring them like and the moment that they haven't gotten a reply

00:19:53   from me we're just like burning time where they're not doing something like there is a very valid

00:19:59   story you could have told to keep yourself in the same role that you were in 10 years ago in a way

00:20:06   or like not the same role but the same actions and it's like ah that's not really what you needed

00:20:12   so I feel like doubly pleased that you were able to do this because I just I didn't even realize

00:20:16   there was like a there was a real danger here that I wasn't picking up on so I didn't really

00:20:22   think of it either but then when I did start considering these changes it also the other part

00:20:28   of it is I don't want to model upon the people that we're working with that they should be

00:20:34   available to me 24/7 right right like this is a consideration that now we're working with more

00:20:42   people I want them to see that I am not always around in the same way that I don't expect them

00:20:48   to always be around also and so like that is a new area of moving into that like the more people that

00:20:56   you work with or that you have performing work for you setting the expectations and the models

00:21:02   and the behaviors are important you can choose whatever you want right yeah but I choose this

00:21:09   way right like it because it's up to you right like if you decide that the people that you want

00:21:14   to work for you should be available to you 24/7 and you say to them that's what you expect and

00:21:20   they say I'm willing to do that that is a choice that everybody is making I don't believe that that

00:21:25   kind of choice leads to very good long-lasting productive relationships so I choose the other one

00:21:32   right so for me it is that I want people to set their own time they're available to work for me

00:21:39   when they are but they also understand that sometimes there are projects that are important

00:21:42   right and so like that's really good like to have the kind of flexibility to two and throw

00:21:47   and that they get that from me as much as I get that from them that it's just about communication

00:21:52   that you know you can do whatever work you're going to do in the time frame you're going to do

00:21:56   it that we agree to but every now and then there might be like a project where it's all hands on

00:22:01   deck and we understand that and we've all spoken about that like I like that kind of flexibility

00:22:06   in my work and to find people that want to work with me that way is really good okay you know I

00:22:10   also just realized Mike what are you doing you're setting company culture right there's more people

00:22:17   so this is again another one of these phrases that I can have rolled my eyes at previously but it is

00:22:23   trying to get in at an idea now that there's more people and because you are the primary interaction

00:22:30   point for them like you are setting the culture of how does this work is everybody expected to be

00:22:37   available at all times or is that not the case can we have this greater asynchronicity and it's

00:22:43   like yeah this year of people you are the only person because of your role at cortex who can

00:22:49   truly set that culture as like people have to see you doing it they have to see you not being

00:22:57   annoyed if there wasn't an instant response they have to see you not replying immediately through

00:23:03   your year of people and people management it's like ah you are creating the communication culture

00:23:08   at cortex but it's funny because this has also changed me and you and how we work though too

00:23:13   so the way that me and you would discuss products is very similar to the way that we work on the

00:23:19   podcast where it's once a month for a very long time right that's what we would do and so we would

00:23:26   we had like a separate meeting once a month and we would talk for hours and hours and hours and

00:23:30   hours going over absolutely every possible thing but as the year of people was unfolding and I was

00:23:35   bringing in all these people I was realizing that worked for me and you it does not work when there's

00:23:40   a whole team and so now we meet weekly with our respective assistants and we have a very quick

00:23:48   meeting and we go for everything we get the decisions done and we're in and out because

00:23:52   that is what the rest of the business and the team now requires because you know people can't wait

00:23:58   for three weeks for me and you to sit down for four hours to talk about something like it doesn't

00:24:03   it just doesn't work like that anymore and so it's also changed that up too which I think is good

00:24:10   that like communication it's good it's it's forcing a different way for the two of us to work together

00:24:14   which is just very abnormal to how we work together normally and how we've worked together for so long

00:24:20   but I've found it to be very beneficial I think. On a funny meta point like doing this theme episode

00:24:28   it's always interesting to me how I was like ah because you and I don't really talk about this

00:24:33   through the course of the year there's always this way in which I feel like oh a bunch of things come

00:24:38   together for me in these moments and this is another one of these things of like ah your correct

00:24:45   desire to increase like the communication frequency that we have about Cortex brand it's like that is

00:24:52   being driven by the fact that there are all of these other people as well again obvious in

00:24:58   retrospect but because we we sort of stay away from these topics in some way it's like this is

00:25:02   where it just like really becomes clear it's like yes yes it's about clearing the path not just for

00:25:08   Mike but like Mike as the person on top who is also like making the decisions and communicating

00:25:15   to everybody else about like what needs to happen and this is the reason that the communication

00:25:20   frequency goes up is because it is a natural byproduct of more and more people coming on board

00:25:26   the other byproduct for me which was something that I thought would occur and has definitely

00:25:30   occurred is that like the year of people has also created like the year of systems along with it

00:25:35   and this was I think really shown in the state of the apps episode where I had so many team and

00:25:40   communication apps because if you're going to be working with people and sharing documents and

00:25:45   sharing work together it requires a way of working which has to be different right like the way in

00:25:52   which there are meetings that weren't happening before that people were sharing documents back

00:25:56   and forth that there is planning there are deliverables there are agreed upon things you

00:26:02   know there are voices flying around like it requires more administration but that is part

00:26:09   of running a distributed team like this and it's been very interesting to watch it unfold I

00:26:15   continue to feel I think as I always will that like none of the tools get me where I want but

00:26:21   it it feels like that is just what team communication apps are always about yeah yeah but I

00:26:28   think I've found in notion a tool that works well enough for getting most people together and I

00:26:34   actually think what has been very beneficial about notion specifically is so many people use it for

00:26:41   their own stuff that it becomes a tool that a lot of people are very comfortable with using for work

00:26:50   stuff because they understand how to use it yeah I guess that makes sense not the same as some other

00:26:55   tools that I've used like different communication apps or different like project sharing apps

00:27:00   that because people build their own personal knowledge management systems in notion that

00:27:06   they're more used to using it like I feel like out of everybody that I work with I understand how to

00:27:11   use notion the least because I never did anything like that but I have the parts of it that I need

00:27:17   and it's been very very effective for me and then just like one like personal note on this like

00:27:23   so year the weekend was 2023 and that was a lot about establishing better relationships with the

00:27:32   people that I care about in my life and I've kind of brought that forward to the year of people and

00:27:37   I I feel like with some of the additional structure that this year has provided me I feel like I've

00:27:43   been able to be a lot more emotionally available to people that need me in my life and it's been

00:27:50   challenging at times to get all of my priorities in order but I think something I've been happy with

00:27:57   this year and I want to continue again further is to make sure that I am doing this like being

00:28:05   available to people that need me and reaching out to people one of the other things that's kind of

00:28:11   come along this year is I have realized I'm a very bad texter now I know that must seem insane to you

00:28:17   gray so I would say that it just makes me feel terrible about myself but like I can believe that

00:28:25   though I feel like this is a byproduct for like many successful and busy people can actually be

00:28:30   quite bad at this kind of base level human communication sometimes I often feel like I'm

00:28:38   thinking about somebody but I don't contact them like I don't communicate with them and I've been

00:28:45   working hard at this this year because it's not something that I want to do it's just I don't know

00:28:51   what it is I just like I think oh I wonder how such and such person is doing or I wonder what

00:28:55   they would think about this and then it just ends there like I don't actually do the thing

00:29:00   and I've been trying to reach out to more people this year and I really want to do more of that

00:29:06   and I think that my 2025 theme is going to enable more of that and so that's just like a little

00:29:12   byproduct of a thing that's came out this year what I've been thinking about people is that

00:29:16   there's also a lot of people in my life that I care about and I kind of want to make sure I'm

00:29:20   doing a better job of checking in with them so that's the year of people I mean it sounds like

00:29:24   it went really well hey look themes can't fail but this one succeeded you know okay there's the thing

00:29:29   I always talk about like ah the themes can't fail this is one of my favorite things about this but

00:29:35   there is a little bit of like ah but I feel like it's slightly different for us doing the podcast

00:29:41   because we're talking about this but we also have to kind of like we're meta thinking about it in

00:29:46   the context of the audience and like uh what seems to work and what doesn't so I do think we kind of

00:29:52   have to focus a little bit more on the like success or failure part than a person actually doing this

00:29:59   would however I do also say that we get the benefit of actually doing a real deep reflection

00:30:04   yes yes that is true but I think it's why like when I'm listening to you all I'm hearing is like

00:30:10   ah this seems like it was just a real success and that last point of it that you just made like on

00:30:16   the personal side about being more emotionally available to people that feels to me again like

00:30:21   just the kind of thing that I really love that can come out of these themes it's like was that

00:30:24   was that an explicit goal no but it's a thing that developed through all of these interactions and

00:30:30   like just causing your brain to think about like what am I doing in these different interactions so

00:30:37   I could not be happier for the way that this has sounded like it went for you

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00:32:50   our thanks to fitbod for the support of this show and relay so gray what was your 2024 theme so my

00:32:57   2024 theme was year of small improvements it's a funny thing often i'm i feel like i'm the weird

00:33:06   one with the names of the themes yeah you are yeah you don't need to feel like that uh how dare you

00:33:13   my god this is an entirely subjective feeling it's nothing to do with the reality of i always pick

00:33:19   weird names or i always over complicate the names or all these kinds of things year of small

00:33:24   improvements is better than what you wanted to do which was quality of life update not even year of

00:33:30   that was your original pitch for 2024 so we at least found a decent name rather than what you

00:33:37   wanted to go with that's why i was like i was sort of working towards that's like it's very

00:33:40   funny in retrospect it's like yes i came to the show with this idea of like what do i want to do

00:33:45   i want to do a quality of life release and in the show bumbling around we eventually stumbled upon

00:33:52   i think you were the one who said it like year of small improvements which i did like but in that

00:33:57   show i kept feeling like slightly grumpy like i cannot really um i'm not really expressing the

00:34:04   kind of thing that i want to do here but in retrospect that seems wild to me now because

00:34:10   like year of small improvements is i think a really good name like i feel like this is one of

00:34:17   the years that i have most intensely resonated with the name itself and it's quite interesting

00:34:24   like there's a thing that i'm really tuned into when i'm talking to people especially people who

00:34:28   are more on like the periphery of my social groups like people i know but don't necessarily know well

00:34:33   what phrases do people react to like or like what sequence of words are kind of like getting a

00:34:39   response out of someone where you can see someone's like interestingly intrigued and i think year of

00:34:44   small improvements has got to be one of the ones that i feel like most intrigued other people like

00:34:50   i felt like almost everyone i mentioned to it like resonated with that quite strongly and so

00:34:56   i wanted to mention that now because at the end of this section it's like ah there's something i want

00:35:01   to say about the year of small improvements as a theme if people are considering it but i just

00:35:07   noticed that and i was like ah i loved this name i felt like oh this actually really did get right

00:35:15   at the core of what was i thinking about last year and what was i trying to do and fundamentally the

00:35:23   position that i was in was i was feeling like i was like ah cortex brand had been growing like

00:35:29   there's a bunch of stuff going on and like business life and personal life and i felt like ah i've

00:35:35   built up kind of like um what people sometimes call like technical debt it's like oh you're just

00:35:41   trying to solve a problem in code right now and like ah but it's like is this the perfect way to

00:35:47   do this no you're just kind of getting a thing done right now it's like oh is this thing set up

00:35:52   the most optimal way no but you just need to get it done right now and i felt a little bit like

00:35:57   oh i had kind of recognized that i had built up a lot of this like technical debt in life none of

00:36:04   it's a big deal but in the aggregate it all matters and it was our episode that we did

00:36:10   about state of the hardware that really got it in my brain of realizing like oh i'm going through

00:36:16   when we were thinking about all of the stuff in our lives and it just really had me recognize like

00:36:20   ah i have not done a true and deep physical and mental sweep of my environment in a long time and

00:36:32   no surprise as a result there's a lot of small frustrations and frictions in like the physical

00:36:38   and virtual worlds that is like ah it's just annoying like it had gotten to a point where

00:36:43   it's like i need to look at this in aggregate and boy i feel like this has just been one of the most

00:36:53   like successful and impactful themes that i have done in a really long time and i kind of like that

00:37:02   it has had that impact when it is also the theme that was targeting the smallest thing so my my

00:37:09   idea was with a lot of this is like ah what is the plan the plan about like year of small improvements

00:37:15   is it's not even necessarily about adding things into life it should be the opposite it should be

00:37:22   about simplifying it should be about making things smoother that's why i was trying to go with like

00:37:27   the quality of life release idea like you're not adding major features you're just trying to make

00:37:33   everything a little bit nicer so i've come to think when we talk about themes this one that i

00:37:39   have done what i'm going to do next year so i've been trying to kind of think about how

00:37:43   there's kind of like five broad families of themes that you could maybe fit everything else into and

00:37:51   i didn't realize it at the time but year of small improvements was a variation on what i think is

00:37:59   one of the best themes just year of intentionality so many people pick that one being like intentional

00:38:06   like focusing on something being present like that is like a very popular theme for people yeah and i

00:38:11   think there's a good reason for that like we get a lot of positive feedback when people do that one

00:38:17   and so it's like oh i kind of backdoored myself into a intentionality family theme with year of

00:38:24   small improvements that's what it was and i just didn't know and so i felt like i had an entire

00:38:30   year what i was doing is like kind of viewing myself from the third perspective a little bit

00:38:37   and be like ah notice what you're doing look at the thing and like re-evaluate each part of it

00:38:45   every time and this goes from like business processes it's like oh we're having a having

00:38:50   a meeting about like what's going on with the business it's like okay how did this meeting get

00:38:55   set up was it smooth could it have been done better is there like a better order that we

00:38:59   could have arranged things to even just like the thing that i really started with was a lot of like

00:39:06   stuff in the house like just notice the high contact items that you're interacting with

00:39:13   that's a kind of small improvement is this door handle that you work on every day slightly sticky

00:39:20   why don't you just fix that right now and that's what i felt like i just kept doing oh these light

00:39:27   bulbs do you actually like the way they look in this bathroom notice that it can catch your

00:39:33   attention like look at the light bulbs and then re-evaluate if i uh if you were starting from

00:39:38   fresh is this what you would want to do and so that's how i found myself really just like moving

00:39:44   through the world and it's just been fantastic and so like one particular area which i mentioned at

00:39:53   the time was like oh this is a thing that i want to do and it's a perfect example like how does

00:39:57   stuff build up slightly slowly was just looking at my wardrobe and realizing oh of course like

00:40:04   over the years you just naturally build up a bunch of one-off items and so then you have like a

00:40:09   closet and it's got a bunch of shirts in it and and it's like do you like all of these shirts do

00:40:14   you like all of these items is this what you would do if you were starting a closet over like probably

00:40:20   not you could probably rethink this and so uh backing up what's the thing that i'm aware of

00:40:26   for like the person hearing this none of the individual frictions or like minor frustrations

00:40:33   in life or like the squeaky door handle does it matter no it doesn't but in aggregate they do

00:40:38   and there's the flip side of this of like oh do i like my socks it doesn't really matter

00:40:46   but in the aggregate it does and this is the experience that i keep having with like various

00:40:52   areas of like things that i have noticed and paid attention to over the course of the year it's like

00:40:56   uh make some small improvements here you make a small improvement there and at some point it kind

00:41:02   of flips it crosses a line where now like ah the aggregate of all of these changes has really made

00:41:09   a difference and like oh in my wardrobe that is one of the areas where it's like i can feel this

00:41:15   so strongly getting rid of some one-off shirts that i don't like and then i'm not going to wear again

00:41:19   trying to simplify down the actual items does any of these steps do they actually matter no but in

00:41:26   the aggregate it's like they create something that just feels different and so that is like the

00:41:32   experience that i've been having in like so many physical and virtual areas is like think this over

00:41:39   from the start again as example with the clothing one of the things i was thinking of is i should

00:41:46   just have all of my clothing optimized to be good clothing that i could take while traveling why am

00:41:54   i going to have different kinds of clothes of like these are the clothes that i normally wear and

00:42:00   these are the clothes that i will pack for trips i was like because maybe if i just think about it

00:42:05   i can find clothes that fits both of these purposes and then i've simplified something

00:42:10   down like in the future i have removed a kind of like oh where's the other thing that i use less

00:42:16   option it's like no no just try to make it simple try to make it work better and again does that

00:42:22   matter no but in the aggregate it does for me anyway i feel like it makes a huge difference

00:42:28   to get those kinds of things running very smooth so i mentioned the clothing one because i think

00:42:34   it's an easy one to think about at the start of the year when i was thinking about like oh

00:42:38   uh we're going to talk about this at the end of the year i had this idea where i was like i have

00:42:42   a cute idea for what i'm going to do for a year of small improvements i'm going to this is crazy

00:42:48   now i'm going to make a list of each small improvement i've done over the course of the year

00:42:54   and i thought that could be like a funny update at the end i realized after like three days it's

00:43:01   like no i am aborting this project because it's like the whole point of it is it should be an

00:43:07   extremely large number of small changes and it was just going to be like this endless list of like

00:43:14   things nobody cares about but just stuff i noticed and changed when you started talking about it was

00:43:20   like oh i hope he has a list but then in hearing you mention it now i realized that that actually

00:43:26   goes against the theme because like yes one of the things that is really interesting about this

00:43:31   theme is that we all have these projects in our lives usually around our homes where it's like

00:43:37   i gotta do the thing right like i got to do the thing and we don't do them because we don't want

00:43:46   to do the thing because the thing is boring annoying it gets in the way of us doing other

00:43:51   stuff but with the year of small improvements you get the extra credit of doing the thing for

00:43:57   your theme right so you're like oh look at me i'm such a good theme boy i'm doing the light switch

00:44:03   right but then if you then had to write it down in a list now you've made it back into boring again

00:44:09   that was exactly what i i felt straight away it was like oh a big part of this is about finding

00:44:14   ways to reduce friction and this list trying to keep a running list is introducing friction

00:44:21   that's what's happening here it's like ah it's just a small point of they don't have this extra

00:44:27   thing because i feel like it really does sound crazy but uh it's like oh mike trying to fix the

00:44:34   house and my wardrobe and a bunch of stuff on my computer and also business checklists and all of

00:44:40   the rest of it i feel like it created an intensely present mind focus all year because i was really

00:44:49   aware of the way only way this works is when i notice i do the thing essentially right away

00:44:56   because that's the whole problem like you just said it's like you have these mental loops of like

00:45:00   i need to get to that at some point and that's like the whole thing i was trying to fight against

00:45:06   is like don't do that just notice the thing but when you are constantly doing that it creates a

00:45:14   very very now focused like what is happening presently right in front of me kind of mental

00:45:22   space and that's also where the list in a very very small way was like kicking me into some kind

00:45:28   of like forward future there and it's like no no no don't also now be thinking about how are you

00:45:34   going to talk about this in six months at the end of the year like stay noticing stay paying

00:45:42   attention like i see how the intentionality comes into it right because if you're focused on fixing

00:45:50   the things when they come up you end up in this loop of like why did it just come up like if this

00:45:57   is the thing that's been broken for months why am i noticing it now like what is happening right

00:46:04   now that is making me realize i do need to set up the ftp server the way that i want it to be

00:46:09   i do need to do my gmail rules correctly like what is the thing that has made you realize that and i

00:46:17   guess there are other things that can come out of that of like the fix can actually be larger than

00:46:22   small like i don't know if anything like that came up for you this year but like something you start

00:46:26   thinking like oh this is just a small fix and then you're like oh actually there's something bigger

00:46:31   here that i would like to address than a tiny thing or whatever oh yeah exactly like that is the thing

00:46:37   of like often what catches your attention is like related to other things like that's why there is

00:46:42   very much like present focused thing there like keep yourself in the mental space i just didn't

00:46:48   realize how much this is addressing some kind of like small problems build up precisely because

00:46:58   you're like can't do that now so the only way something like year of small improvements works

00:47:04   is you have to constantly remind yourself do it now like do the thing now i mean like one area

00:47:14   where this is just like the real madness is i wanted to properly sort out a bunch of automations

00:47:23   the way things like work automatically in my life of like i know that there's so many little things

00:47:30   i can just make smoother through some minor automation but this is the whole thing it's

00:47:36   like ah but in the moment automation might be the most pure example of this why do you notice

00:47:43   a thing can be automated because you're trying to do the thing right now and so what will always

00:47:51   happen is you go like ah i can do the thing right now fast or i can try to create the automated

00:48:01   version of this and it is going to take longer and so you almost always go like i'll just i'll do it

00:48:07   next time or i will do it later and you don't and so that was another area of like i was quite aware

00:48:13   of like noticing myself using my devices how am i doing things and just being deeply aware of the

00:48:20   way that like this can be automated so you don't have to do that and if this automation is ever

00:48:27   going to exist you have to do it now you will never do this in the future it will always be

00:48:33   like a fleeting thought you have of like every time i sit down to do the writing stuff like why

00:48:39   am i manually arranging where i want all of the windows to go and what music i want to play and

00:48:45   how i want the house lights to go it's like there's actually like six steps that i want to do every

00:48:52   time i'm like opening up obsidian to work on a thing it's like i can just have that happen

00:48:57   hearing you say this because i'm thinking of all the things like i have like window management that

00:49:03   i do with moom and i have it set up into certain sections right but there is like a couple of extra

00:49:11   sections i'd like to add but i'm like i'll just drag it yeah but like that's it though right that

00:49:17   thing that you're saying right there is the thing that i kept bringing myself back to all year like

00:49:24   i just realized right now i reached for the language of meditation because like this is

00:49:29   what people talk about with meditation which again i tried like didn't really work for me

00:49:33   they're always like oh the whole trick is you've like got to keep reminding yourself that there's

00:49:38   some point of focus you are bringing your mind back to and i have uh just realized it's like

00:49:44   that is what i was doing all year it's like why does this feel like it was a meditative year in

00:49:49   a way because that is literally what was happening a constant reminder to like be in the present and

00:49:57   notice things that could be easier notice things that could be simpler look at you find a

00:50:03   mindfulness through the help of automator and shortcuts yeah it's like uh guys the the path to

00:50:10   enlightenment is not through following the breath the path to enlightenment is shortcuts but yeah so

00:50:15   this is another one of these like oh i will not uh i will not possibly go into like the absolute

00:50:19   boringness in some ways of like what are these automations because they're all so very specific

00:50:24   but there was a thing of just like what really helped was again knowing for years but never fully

00:50:33   bothering to do the thing of there's always a even in automating stuff there's always a sloppy

00:50:39   fast way to do it and then there is the proper long-term way to do it and like the proper

00:50:46   long-term way to do it is designing basically everything as a sub function you have an automation

00:50:52   that does a thing but it is also designed so that it can be a sub function of some other automation

00:50:59   so you can just like roll this in to everything else that happens and i guess the example that i

00:51:06   will give is related to when we were doing state of the apps i was going through all of my focus

00:51:13   modes and it's like ah we all like to have a good laugh at gray it's like why are my focus modes

00:51:18   so crazily complicated this year the reason is because of this automation focus and because of

00:51:27   designing a bunch of different things as sub functions of each other it ended up being much

00:51:34   much easier to very quickly use the focus modes as a tool like how to set up things and so it's like

00:51:41   ah i designed a like what should my phone look like now shortcut what should my mac look like now

00:51:50   keyboard maestro shortcut basically the same idea and that is a thing which is like oh i can create

00:51:59   this as a function that can be called by any other automation so when i'm doing anything else i can

00:52:06   just run the like what should the phone look like now automation and that one will automatically

00:52:11   change every single possible setting that i do want to be different in a particular mode

00:52:16   right then so you're not doing the like fast and sloppy thing of like i i'm doing an automation i

00:52:22   want something to happen now it's like oh and what else do i want to have happen i know what i want

00:52:26   to have happen i want the computer to be in light mode at this moment not dark mode that's what i

00:52:30   want and so you like manually put that in it's like no no no the long term correct actually

00:52:37   simpler way is just call the sub function that says what should the computer look like now and

00:52:43   that deals with it it deals with it every time in the same way in all cases so you don't end up with

00:52:51   a bunch of technical cruft all over the place where you've got random shortcuts like randomly changing

00:52:56   settings and then you can't figure out like where is this happening why is this it's like no no

00:53:01   do the one thing that does it properly it looks like what time of day is it where am i what is the

00:53:07   current focus mode what is the previous focus mode what is the timer that is currently running

00:53:15   and what is the previous timer that was running it's like those pieces of information answer every

00:53:20   single picky question about what do i want my computer to look like but you can never get it

00:53:26   right if you're doing it the sloppy fast way every single time so that's the automation stuff that as

00:53:33   you can imagine actually took up a huge amount of time kind of thinking about it but is also the

00:53:39   thing that was paying the biggest dividends it's like i actually feel like we talked about the

00:53:45   difference between programming and automating in previous years and how they are not the same thing

00:53:50   but i do think this year i have gotten about as close as one can to programming in terms of

00:53:56   automating what i'm doing on my computer and the dividends to me are just like off the charts this

00:54:02   is like absolutely pleasing to like get up in the morning press like a single i'm up button and like

00:54:10   20 things happen from like what's the temperature of the room supposed to be like what timer is

00:54:15   currently running what are all the lights what does the phone look like is the car getting ready

00:54:20   to go somewhere because it knows like what day it is and where i'm gonna go the directions are

00:54:25   automatically there the thing starts getting the temperature right it's like all of that happens

00:54:29   and i just press it like i'm awake thing that calls a bunch of sub functions that can figure

00:54:34   all the rest of that out it's like fantastic just sort of like a quality of life friction reducing

00:54:39   perspective so yeah there's a bunch of other like minor stuff it's like i've done just major cleanup

00:54:45   of a bunch of again like the digital areas of my life doing the thing of like re-evaluating the

00:54:49   businesses like none of those are are particularly remarkable i think the other area of thinking

00:54:56   about small improvements and how can i change things was also just around my health and exercise

00:55:03   and diet and all the rest of this and i was kind of applying the same sort of thinking of like

00:55:08   what can be simpler what can be easier what reduces the number of decisions in terms of

00:55:16   food and fitness and as a result this year i lost 50 pounds and in preparation for this episode i

00:55:25   went through like my health data and as long as i have worn the watch i have never been as physically

00:55:33   fit as i am right now i was like i was actually kind of shocked to see that i thought like oh

00:55:39   surely i was like better off like when i first bought the watch it's like oh no no i've like

00:55:45   gone better than the point that i was like years ago when that watch like first showed up and

00:55:50   there was no point in the middle where it's like all of the metrics are in as good of a spot as

00:55:54   they currently are and i feel like more than anything else i'm very aware when like the

00:56:02   listeners hear these sorts of things there's a question of like what is this like action out to

00:56:07   and particularly because my kind of work has what it can describe as a huge amount of latency that

00:56:17   changes take a long time to show up like it's not fast work things are very slow and also things

00:56:25   that have changed take a long time to actually show up and so i'm very aware that people are

00:56:30   always a bit like like lol what's really happening over there but that's why the health one is like a

00:56:36   place that it's like oh the impact was actually much more immediate and like quite visible very

00:56:42   fast of friction is a much bigger deal than people think minor complications are a much bigger deal

00:56:51   than people think and by focusing on that it's like oh my god the health stuff is just unbelievably

00:56:59   improved over this same period of time like i look at photos of myself now versus a year ago and it's

00:57:05   like absolutely shocking the difference in my appearance between those two points in time it's

00:57:10   like and this wasn't even the primary goal of this theme it's kind of like a byproduct of what

00:57:16   happened and just do the thing of like notice look and re-evaluate as a loop that is applied just

00:57:26   constantly throughout my day to every single part of what i'm doing so yeah in conclusion i think

00:57:34   i'm not sure how good of a job i have done talking about this because it's like oh this is a theme

00:57:39   that uniquely has touched basically every single area of my life in some way i'd have to go back

00:57:44   through the rolodex of themes to double check but like oh this is easily top three like most

00:57:50   impactful themes that i have ever done but what i want to say to anybody listening is precisely

00:57:57   because i people were like resonant with this theme people really liked it i feel like i just

00:58:02   want to say though that i think in our pantheon of themes this is not a beginner theme i think this

00:58:09   is not a thing that is good to do as your very first one because i think if you are doing it

00:58:16   right it will be surprisingly all-encompassing and also it is a theme that ends up needing like

00:58:25   a lot of space in your life and i think if i didn't happen to have like a bunch of time as a

00:58:32   result of like the travel where i was out in the west for forever uh like a bunch of other reasons

00:58:36   like i don't think that i would have been able to do this properly like without a lot of space in my

00:58:42   life to do this like evaluation to be able to take the time to like do that quality of life release

00:58:50   of like get things in order and i will also say i guess again there's like a comparison to

00:58:57   meditation here which i think i've heard like beginners talk about like oh it can be quite

00:59:00   tiring i do feel like while this theme has been amazing it has also been in many ways quite tiring

00:59:08   to be in this little like constantly evaluate loop because just making decisions all the time or like

00:59:16   rethinking things from the start is quite a lot just like mentally to be doing and to constantly

00:59:22   bring yourself back to so that's why i've been thinking about this for like the last month of

00:59:28   like oh i'm probably going to be selling this theme quite hard in a way of like ah this is

00:59:33   easily one of the best and like one of my most favorite themes uh just absolutely love it how

00:59:37   on earth did i not like the name at the beginning i don't even know that seems ridiculous now

00:59:41   but also feeling like with that hard sell i feel like it's not a beginner theme if you're thinking

00:59:48   about this like it probably shouldn't be the first time you try to do this and also i think you

00:59:53   should just be kind of cognizant of the sort of year you expect to be coming up like don't do this

01:00:00   in the middle of like what you know will be some frantic time i think it could just go like really

01:00:06   badly if you tried to do this in a year that you knew was like a crunch year for some reason that's

01:00:12   like a thing that i just feel quite strongly is like i just don't think that would work

01:00:16   i think that is oppositional to being able to do this well it's almost like uh if you had a

01:00:24   theme that was something like a year of serenity but you absolutely for sure knew that like ah my

01:00:29   next 12 months are going to be a complete disaster right it's like that's just a terrible mismatch

01:00:35   that's what i'm feeling is like i just the thing that i just wanted to kind of like signpost with

01:00:39   this as a theme it's like the year of travel but the government took women passport you wouldn't do

01:00:44   that perfect yeah yeah well i would say for this though right is to bring it back to your beginning

01:00:49   which is if you've listened to this and you're like this sounds really great then what you

01:00:53   probably should do is a year of intentionality which you can bring some of these elements into

01:00:58   and i was just doing something real quick and it's reminded me of a thing i have a friend for the

01:01:03   show ian who was thinking about his yearly theme with his partner which was great and he was telling

01:01:09   me that he was using chat gpt to help him workshop his theme this is a new thing that i will actually

01:01:15   recommend to people that they could do for this year which i would not have recommended in previous

01:01:19   years of like if you if you need somebody to help you come up with a yearly theme you can talk to

01:01:25   the llms they have language like this is what they do and what i like about these tools is that you

01:01:32   can have a two and throw with them a little bit so i want to just give you very quickly if you would

01:01:38   like to think you would like a year of intentionality here are some things that claud

01:01:42   recommends that could be as part of a year of intentionality it could help you break free from

01:01:47   mindless habits and routines deepen your relationships by being more present reduce stress

01:01:53   by saying no to non-essential commitments like you don't have to if you're being intentional it's not

01:01:58   going to bother you if you say no you can improve focus by eliminating some distractions and then i

01:02:04   would add on to that of like you can do some of these little things like gray is doing of like

01:02:08   here's the thing that is frustrating to you and you want to fix it and you can better manage your

01:02:12   energy and avoid burnout with this so i think these tools can be good of like hey i'm feeling

01:02:17   like this i'm feeling like that help me come up with a yearly theme it could come up with some

01:02:22   stuff for you because these llms have ingested the entire internet they actually have a pretty good

01:02:26   grasp of yearly themes but if you need to give it some prompts like you can recommend like if you

01:02:32   reference this show it surprisingly knows quite a bit about yearly themes like you can just kind of

01:02:40   prompt the tools in that way and they can help you there's an interesting connection there like which

01:02:45   at the beginning when you were talking about the things with resolutions and how we don't like you

01:02:49   don't like resolutions i was thinking oh i feel like culturally people aren't actually better at

01:02:55   this idea of like recognizing that the resolutions are some kind of bad way to do this and without

01:03:00   being too egomaniacal about it i do feel like we have had an impact on that talking about like why

01:03:06   this doesn't work and importantly what is an alternative and i feel like ah is that crazy maybe

01:03:12   but the very fact that you're right the llms do have some kind of knowledge in this area is like

01:03:20   oh right because they've hoovered up everything like it is out there in the world as an oppositional

01:03:25   idea to the resolutions so yeah that's interesting i think also if if people are going to try that

01:03:31   like with something like i would at this point in time i'd recommend claud in particular i think is

01:03:35   the best at this kind of like soft thinking language and stuff i think it's good to like

01:03:43   i would suggest you should probably ask it to ask you questions like i find that just yeah but i

01:03:50   find that very useful of like try to zone in on a thing that you yourself might not be thinking so

01:03:58   just off the top of my head i'd probably recommend a prompt of something like you tell it like i'm

01:04:02   working on it i'm working on my themes you know it's like you know the style of cortex blah blah

01:04:07   blah and then i probably start with something like please ask me like the 10 questions that you think

01:04:15   will help you zero in on the most useful theme to me right like that's the kind of thing if i was

01:04:22   going to try to brainstorm with claud i would probably do that that'd be my suggestion for

01:04:26   anybody thinking about this because yeah i can sometimes ask like quite surprisingly insightful

01:04:31   questions i never thought to have it ask me questions that's really cool i like that as

01:04:35   an idea because you're essentially then you're feeding the context right like that that's what

01:04:40   you're you're helping it do and so like you're giving it some information that it can then try

01:04:45   and scour the internet to give you more good recommendations i'm coming to this because i think

01:04:50   it's a variation on the thing that is a hundred percent for sure useful which is on some of the

01:04:56   like script or writing work i've tried different variations of this kind of thing of like ask me

01:05:03   a question i'm not thinking to ask about this script like trying to go into those kinds of

01:05:10   things or like what is a question that you could ask which would most clarify the most confusing

01:05:19   point in this script like that kind of thing of like prompt it to give questions that are

01:05:24   clarifying i think is quite helpful but um i think that's really great advice mike and uh yes i feel

01:05:31   i feel kind of like uh much better now like yes that's exactly the thing it's like ah people

01:05:35   year of small improvements absolutely fantastic intermediate to advanced theme if you haven't done

01:05:43   something like this first this is where i was focusing on the family of themes the actual place

01:05:48   to start is year of intentionality and think about what does that mean for you that's the version if

01:05:56   you were like interested by what i said today i think that is the thing that you should try

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01:08:09   continued support of cortex and relay so what is your theme for 2025 then okay so often when i

01:08:20   think about what is the theme for next year going to be i frequently feel like i want to do what i

01:08:26   just did again it makes sense sometimes why i want to do that's like ah thing has just been very

01:08:30   successful what if it was more like keep doing it more it's like no no no that's not the thing to do

01:08:36   two years is too long of a period of time for something like this it's just like it's no good

01:08:42   but the reason i was thinking about this concept of like theme families is i think the actual thing

01:08:49   that i've been trying to get at many years is something much more like do you want to stay

01:08:54   within the same theme family or do you want to move to a different theme family that's what i

01:09:00   think i'm actually like getting at a lot of times just kind of off the top of my head i guess i feel

01:09:05   like most of the themes probably fit into these categories of like okay they're an intentionality

01:09:12   theme you have themes that are novelty themes right stuff is new and different i think you have

01:09:19   themes that are about like stability versus change like are you trying to make things like more

01:09:28   stable and solid or are you trying to like mix things up or do you have some theme that's like

01:09:33   about growth i feel like those are probably the ones off the top of my head that i feel like

01:09:38   80 of things might fit into one of those categories and so like you're really really

01:09:44   asking a question like when you're doing the next thing is like uh if you've had something like

01:09:49   stability do you feel like you now want to move into something that's in the novelty area i don't

01:09:54   know maybe we can workshop this a bit more about like what they actually are but that's the thing

01:09:58   that i think i'm often trying to like resolve for myself do i want to stick in the same family

01:10:04   we don't want to move to a different family and this year once i thought of that it's incredibly

01:10:11   clear to me they're like ah i want to stick in the same family of theme i want to stick with

01:10:16   something that is intentional and as is often the case i feel like i'm going along through the year

01:10:25   and it's like what's what is the theme i don't know and then it just like ah it arrives and you

01:10:31   go ah yeah i don't choose the theme the theme chooses me but so the thing that i noticed was

01:10:38   just like a phrase that kept kind of like popping into my head as a byproduct of doing the year of

01:10:45   small improvements and the phrase was am i running the routine is this a day where i can run the

01:10:54   routine and so what i mean by that is as the year went on there's obviously less things that i'm

01:11:04   still changing or like things that i'm making small improvements to because i have changed a

01:11:09   bunch of things already there's only so many things you can change there's only so many

01:11:12   automations that are actually worth doing and so there there started to become a kind of transition

01:11:17   particularly like in the last maybe two and a half months or so of noticing something like ah i feel

01:11:25   like i'm slightly in a different mode today which is something like run the routine actually i'm

01:11:31   suddenly self-conscious because i'm realizing it's like i guess the actual theme name is like

01:11:35   year of the routine but in my head is like i just always uh always have to always have to be weird

01:11:41   with the theme names and make it difficult it's like the actual thing that i'm resonating with

01:11:45   really hard is like run the routine i mean it could just be the year of running routine

01:11:49   or running routines or just a year of routine that works yeah year of routine is the thing

01:11:54   also how quickly did that become one of those words where saying it didn't feel right anymore

01:11:59   you know you say a word enough and it loses it routine goes real quick i just realized that

01:12:04   wow i only said it like three times and i felt like i was saying a french word i've never said

01:12:09   before yeah i wonder uh there's got to be some rule right like the um semantic satiation is

01:12:15   inversely proportional to word frequency has to be the thing like routine is not a word you would

01:12:20   very often say back to back a bunch so it's got to see way faster that's what it's got to be but

01:12:25   yeah so that's what i was thinking about and it also felt like oh after this whole year about like

01:12:32   simplifying and streamlining i think i was partly resonating with this very hard because what i

01:12:38   actually wanted was a simple and small theme i did not want to have another new

01:12:44   decade's dawn of the new year i didn't want to do these things and that's why i felt like ah this

01:12:50   thing kind of came to me of what am i naturally trying to do i'm naturally trying to do something

01:12:55   that is in the same family and i feel like year of small improvements naturally leads into this

01:13:03   just as with like ah with the health stuff if you are making small improvements it has to cash out

01:13:10   into change and so that's what i felt was kind of like happening a little bit with year of small

01:13:15   improvements it's like where is this all cashing out it's cashing out in a higher number of days

01:13:21   where i feel like i am running a smooth routine this is a thing that exists because i have made

01:13:27   a bunch of small changes that is the intended consequence of making all of these little changes

01:13:34   but i just wasn't thinking about it at the start it's also one of these things like i specifically

01:13:38   didn't want to go back and look i know that i tried something like this in a previous year i

01:13:45   had a similar like i want to just like run a routine kind of theme didn't have those words

01:13:50   i do have this memory like that was one of the ones that when we talk about like what is success

01:13:55   and what is failure i feel like that is probably one of my like failed hardest ones i feel like i

01:14:00   had a very disruptive year i don't remember the details and i was like i don't really care anyway

01:14:03   it's a very like future focused but i think my feeling is like i tried to do that out of the blue

01:14:10   and this is actually the kind of like set up to the next thing it feels like this yeah you should

01:14:15   be able to do routine more easily now if you've taken a lot of minor frustrations and speed bumps

01:14:20   out of your way yes exactly like that's the thing that should be happening and it's the thing that

01:14:24   i noticed was like actually starting to happen but so what i wanted to do is like ah what i want to

01:14:29   do like what does this phrase mean to me it's like it does mean two things it means a kind of narrowing

01:14:36   of like year of small improvements this is not what i'm doing anymore but that mindset is being

01:14:42   somewhat redirected towards like what is the better day this is where i keep finding myself

01:14:50   like really circling these thoughts of what is the ideal sort of day that i want to have like back to

01:14:59   back like right from the start right to the end and very critically not like an aspirational i put

01:15:07   this on the calendar i can't wait to do uh eight hours of writing today kind of like unrealistic

01:15:12   expectations things like no no the real deal of like look notice observe like re-evaluate all

01:15:20   these things like pay attention to the real details of like what works and what doesn't

01:15:25   and i feel like i have the initial framework of this in place already but this is the thing that

01:15:31   i want to really dial in on as like the thing that i am redirecting attentionality to this year so

01:15:40   that's the high level part of what this is and then just on a lower level of like what do i

01:15:45   expect that that kind of means is i feel like with year of small improvements i like i really

01:15:51   rediscovered the love of a slightly absurdly long checklist of like here are the items that you're

01:15:58   doing in exactly this order in in the day it's like that is the kind of thing that most people

01:16:03   look at it as being like quite ridiculous but is the thing that to me is obviously so helpful like

01:16:10   work out the exact order that you're doing things and that was one of these things like oh i didn't

01:16:14   even realize i had kind of lost that at some point i wasn't really doing that as aggressively as i

01:16:20   was before and so that's part of like ah this is what the intentionality is focusing in on it's

01:16:24   like i'm running with the routine i'm doing the thing but i'm also noticing it's like is there a

01:16:31   different sequencing of these events right does it make sense if this goes before this and the

01:16:37   other thing that i just want to say here that like i am very aware of and i want to make clear for

01:16:40   listeners again if they're like thinking about something like this is the key thing about this

01:16:46   stuff is the reality of it like it sounds so inflexible but the important thing to me is like

01:16:54   run the routine means like the routine has to be adaptable to whatever else is going on and there's

01:17:02   a big difference between like this is the minimum viable amount of stuff that you do on even the

01:17:08   most disruptive days like making those decisions in ahead of time that makes a really big difference

01:17:15   thinking about like oh even what is the routine on an off day there is some ideal number of things

01:17:22   you should be doing even on a day that you're relaxing and like that's where i want to really

01:17:26   focus my attention towards like thinking about how does this work and just really zeroing in on like

01:17:33   run the routine pay attention to the real outcomes of this how does this actually work are there ways

01:17:41   that this can be improved how can it be made sure to be flexible and not fragile so that is what i

01:17:48   am focusing on in 2025. So from a practical perspective is it the case that you were like

01:17:55   building a bunch of new checklists that enable you to get work done in a way that you find efficient

01:18:03   or like what are the things that you're hoping are going to fall out of this by the time that the year

01:18:08   ends? This is actually a byproduct of like oh just simply getting better at a bunch of automation

01:18:12   stuff is the things that i have already started to work at is okay so like high level what am i

01:18:19   trying to achieve with tools like omniFocus and tools like my calendar which i've also done a

01:18:24   bunch of like make these more visible i talked last time i think about how like oh with the new

01:18:30   kind of omniFocus i'm basically always having it available on my watch like there's the top two

01:18:34   items that i'm looking at like you should be reminded of these things i've just made my

01:18:40   calendar much more visible of like what is it the thing that you should be doing at this point in

01:18:44   time but the frustrations that i've always had in the past with this kind of stuff is it's like a

01:18:51   house of glass in a way it's like oh you design your ideal day but then you wake up an hour later

01:18:57   or like something else is disruptive and now like the reminder system is subtly off from where it

01:19:04   should be because like you're an hour behind or like some other kind of disruption occurs and so

01:19:09   on a real practical level the thing that i am focusing the intentionality time on like get this

01:19:16   to work right that i have a basic version of right now is this kind of like flexible routine i made

01:19:25   an off-handed remark uh forever ago we were talking about like siri intelligence thing of like

01:19:29   what's the thing that i really want is like i want to be able to tell siri to like clear my calendar

01:19:33   nothing's happening today i said that because i was already at that point in time kind of working on

01:19:38   an automation that i can be like what kind of day is this is this the kind of day where i actually

01:19:43   just want to clear everything is this the kind of day where everything started like two hours later

01:19:49   and i just want to like re-evaluate and figure out what is the minimum viable thing it's like my

01:19:55   calendar and my top two checklist items should always represent the real reality of what i have

01:20:03   pre-thought should happen under these circumstances and i think that is functionally

01:20:09   impossible to do with extant tools because you don't have the ability to say like automatically

01:20:17   push all of this stuff oh actually i need to compress like work and exercise time into a

01:20:23   smaller thing now because i have been delayed or whatever so turns out again it's like it's

01:20:29   mindfulness in the same way the thing that should happen is i'm like trying to lock in a loop of

01:20:34   at every transition moment it's like i should be looking at the calendar or list and that calendar

01:20:42   or list should accurately represent what a past version of me has pre-decided is the optimal thing

01:20:49   to do under these circumstances and that includes the considerations like you are sick and cannot

01:20:57   work right now or like other sorts of things it's not the like feel bad because you're not doing

01:21:03   what you had as the ideal day make sure this really cashes out because there is an answer

01:21:09   to something like oh you're having an off day what is the correct sequence of things you should do

01:21:15   in an off day and those sequence of things can be like what steps are you taking to recover and so

01:21:22   that's how i'm focusing on this is i feel like this is the missing part that i've just honed in on

01:21:30   so most people talk about the routines they're intrinsically talking about a kind of ideal day

01:21:37   when most tools are trying to assist you in getting things done they are implicitly setting

01:21:44   up an expectation of the most perfect thing but i think there is a way to do this which is more

01:21:50   accurate toward reality more accurate towards what is the like possibility of options of what

01:21:57   is occurring in a particular day and so on the details level that's what i'm focusing on it's

01:22:04   like that is what i am doing is like notice is there a mismatch between what you feel like you

01:22:09   should be doing and what the checklist is saying notice it's like oh yesterday's routine like i

01:22:15   ran the routine but i just don't feel like it went well why like what could be different about the

01:22:22   sequence of steps what was different about the starting state pay attention to like all of these

01:22:27   little parts in a very intentional way and that should cash out and like achieving the things that

01:22:35   you want to do in the same way that like all the small improvements really cashed out quite

01:22:41   directly into huge health improvements and other improvements and just like reducing the friction

01:22:47   of my life so that's the details and the high level is just like this concept of like i should

01:22:54   be running the routine it should be going smoothly notice when it doesn't and there isn't any kind of

01:23:02   like blame or feeling bad about yourself for not doing the optimal thing it's about onboarding what

01:23:09   does that mean what is the optimal thing to do in a suboptimal state but i've had more than enough

01:23:17   of me in a row here mike i want to know what are you doing in 2025 anything new on the horizon

01:23:24   what's happening what's going on what's your theme oh boy so oh man i have waited for this

01:23:33   for a long time this theme i've set months ago i've known what my theme was going to be

01:23:40   i live my life online and have done so for like 15 years and i share a lot it's kind of what i've

01:23:49   always done but i've had a huge secret that i've kept from the world and it's the biggest secret

01:23:57   i've probably ever kept from listening to any of my shows i am so excited to share that i'm gonna

01:24:05   be a dad congratulations mike thank you it's a big moment it is the biggest most life-changing moment

01:24:15   a human can have oh man you can take your time on this because it is a big deal i will also just say

01:24:23   at this moment it's like uh many times i don't know what is coming up on my seerly theme for the

01:24:31   record i did know that mike was having a baby so i'm publicly congratulating you here but for the

01:24:38   listeners i did know this wasn't a complete surprise to me i think i would have been absolutely

01:24:43   appalled that would be like you know there are a lot of things that when you work with someone

01:24:49   from a creative perspective that you kind of you want to keep the real reactions for the show this

01:24:55   would be one of the worst things i could do to you especially because okay so the next part so my wife

01:25:01   edina is expecting a baby girl and she is due in february so it's so soon this is the other part

01:25:10   of this like this has been a really long journey for us for many years full of lots of downs so

01:25:17   this was something that when we were getting around to telling the world like this is the first place

01:25:24   in which i am speaking about it i wanted to feel as confident as someone can feel and everything

01:25:30   has been great my wife is doing fantastic and i'm so proud of her she's taken this so well and is

01:25:38   doing an incredible job yeah so it's super soon this has been so hard to keep to myself i even like

01:25:46   now feel weird talking about it because it's like i have spent so much mental energy to not slip

01:25:54   up for the last seven months to not share this information so like it's a weird thing for me to

01:26:01   even talk about but yes yeah it's very counter to you but like i feel like you did need to do that

01:26:06   like that was an important thing to do but that's also why it's like this is a big release to be

01:26:12   able to just like say this publicly to have the announcement to be able to accept congratulations

01:26:18   from the world about becoming a father again i'll say it again like it's just it's like such a big

01:26:24   deal i'm so happy for you it's been a long road to get here that makes it even so much more of a

01:26:29   big deal now that it's really happening so because surprisingly no one my 2025 yearly theme is the

01:26:35   year of fatherhood that is the theme name that's really beautiful some themes skew more personal

01:26:42   some themes skew more work this is the most personal any theme can be for me in the sense of

01:26:50   like every decision in 2025 goes through how will this affect my ability to be a dad right i mean

01:27:00   and this is for me not just new stuff this is all stuff so this year was originally called the year

01:27:08   of priorities this was when we were still hoping that this would happen for 2025 before we were

01:27:16   lucky enough for it to happen for 2024 because i was really still hoping that this would be a thing

01:27:21   for us and priorities is kind of the biggest function in the year of fatherhood so i expect

01:27:32   that my becoming a dad will be all-encompassing for probably the rest of my life but like

01:27:43   especially for 2025 and so i know i'm gonna need to spend a lot more time mentally assessing what

01:27:53   has to be done what is the most important thing who does this as like it is a general rule for a

01:28:01   lot of things that are going to be coming my way next year especially new stuff but even the older

01:28:06   stuff because for 2025 being a dad is the absolute most important thing to me above everything else

01:28:14   everything else and like if i want to start this new chapter of my life correctly i think that has

01:28:24   to be the thing now the next year could throw any amount of challenges at me what this doesn't mean

01:28:32   is that like i'm not gonna work in 2025 because i want to be a dad like it might mean the challenge

01:28:39   requires more work because it's important for my function as a provider for my child right so like

01:28:47   it doesn't mean like all of my time is going to be focused on the baby even though that is what

01:28:52   i want it to be it is just that like what is the best decision i can make in any moment to best do

01:28:59   for my family but this impacts like everything i do in my work how much time am i spending on my work

01:29:06   where am i working when am i working all of this stuff is going to become the priorities but also

01:29:12   like i don't really know how much time it takes to be a dad right i expect a lot of it i expect

01:29:22   sometimes more than i think sometimes less than i think i don't really know so like i also feel like

01:29:27   again unlike a lot of yearly themes this one is so unknown for me because i have no experience with

01:29:34   it none where like i might have experienced some things before like i've worked like year people

01:29:40   i've worked with people right the year of the weekend i've taken weekends you know like i have

01:29:46   never been a dad like i don't know what it means yet and so like there's a lot of like nebulousness

01:29:52   to it that's the thing that's fundamentally different here and the way that i think about

01:29:56   this and the way that i've talked with people about having children and like talking to parents about

01:30:00   the experience is there is some aspect of this that is fundamentally unlike any other human

01:30:09   decision and unlike any other change you could go through you can pick any of the biggest other

01:30:17   things it's like what's probably the next biggest one is getting married but even that is like i've

01:30:23   had a girlfriend before right like you have some mental framework for what this is and i think to a

01:30:29   greater or lesser effect everyone who becomes a parent goes through a kind of phoenix-like moment

01:30:37   where like some part of the old you is like burned away then there's a new part of you that takes its

01:30:44   place and that is just a shift that happens but it's also why it makes it very hard to forward

01:30:52   project about what is this going to be like what is this going to be like in terms of the practicalness

01:30:59   of your life but also what is this going to be like as the literal experience of you it's the

01:31:06   most uncertain thing to try to think about how it's going to be you mentioned a word there that is in

01:31:13   my mind a lot which is uncertain looking ahead at the next year like one of the things that i am

01:31:20   feeling more than i have ever felt is uncertainty and the effect of that uncertainty

01:31:27   like this time of year is always a strange time of year especially a content creator who sells

01:31:34   advertising as advertising focused businesses that you don't really know what your next year's going

01:31:39   to look like and you don't know until you're pretty much into the next year but i know it's

01:31:44   getting harder that is a function that has occurred for like two or three years now every

01:31:50   year it's getting a little bit harder and the feeling of uncertainty right now is much stronger

01:31:57   in me because of the effect of failure honestly right like that feeling to me right now is much

01:32:02   much stronger than it has been before because the ramifications for failure are bigger now yeah

01:32:08   you've increased the downside of failure massively that's that's what it is yeah it's like every

01:32:13   business and every life is a narrow walk across a vast canyon but you have made the canyon much

01:32:20   vaster that's what has happened like the way i've kind of been talking about it like you know me and

01:32:26   adena have made these choices together about the life that i live and you know the way that our

01:32:34   money is made as a family and kind of like we take the good and we take the risk and we take the bad

01:32:41   right like that that's the thing that we decided together my child has no say in this right so like

01:32:48   things going wrong in our family as a source of my if something goes wrong in my business

01:32:54   she had no say in that so like that that is like a thing that is really weighing on me a lot so

01:33:03   i am going to try my best next year to find stability in my work and in my income where i can

01:33:13   like this is something that i don't have a full plan for and i've been trying to think of things

01:33:21   to make it better but it's this is very difficult i mean one of these things is developing cortex

01:33:27   brand more for the future you know the further we go down this the better it can be as a business to

01:33:35   help kind of like level out any bad times in advertising and stuff like that right like it

01:33:40   becomes kind of like a part of my overall puzzle but the other thing is like i want to focus more

01:33:49   on membership next year the direct support that i get from the listeners of my shows of this one

01:33:56   and of the other shows that i do that have a good direct support model that is very reliable like

01:34:03   people become members and they stay members for a long time or if people leave we get new people to

01:34:08   come in and that reliability is more reliable than the advertising market which has various

01:34:13   fluctuations just in the market each year there is fluctuations so like they are micro and macro

01:34:20   fluctuations so that is something that i want to put focus on but this is also heightened by the

01:34:27   fact that i want to take paternity leave and i'm going to take paternity leave so i will be away

01:34:32   from my businesses and won't be able to focus on them in the same way so that is like a here is just

01:34:38   a set of things that i'm feeling i don't have any beginnings of solutions for them really but they're

01:34:45   just things that i've identified what i consider to be a concern like a threat and i can see the

01:34:51   two areas in which i could make an impact but i don't as of yet really know what the solutions are

01:34:59   for them and or if they'll even need to be solutions but i have other areas that i i'm

01:35:06   considering and i'm thinking about i wonder what my schedule is like for a family yeah where is it

01:35:14   good and where is it bad like for example i work late a number of evenings is that bad i mean

01:35:23   probably like probably in the long term but maybe not because i also only need to be at the studio

01:35:30   three or four days a week and i also don't need to be here all day so i think that there's going

01:35:36   to be an element of like time shifting like i might spend more time with the family in the

01:35:42   morning because i'm sure i'll be awake earlier and like i'll have more time and we'll maybe leave for

01:35:48   the studio midday and then work until the evening there's a lot of things that i'm wondering about

01:35:55   how i move stuff around and maybe condense things more than i've done before so like sometimes i

01:36:02   will come to the studio i'll be here at like 10 and i will leave at like seven but there might be

01:36:08   like an hour or two in the middle where i'm like hanging out or i'm playing a game or something

01:36:13   because i've done my morning work and i still have my evening show to record but there's just time in

01:36:18   the middle of the day where i can imagine that it might turn into a scenario where that kind of

01:36:25   middle time doesn't exist anymore it's done before and that's my home time and i get to the studio

01:36:31   say at two o'clock in the afternoon and i do all my work and record my show and leave that like

01:36:37   my time here may become more condensed and purpose driven for at least for show stuff because they

01:36:45   are very structured very understandable and kind of reliable in like the way that my work days fit

01:36:53   i don't really know yet but i know that that is something that i want to focus on and kind of like

01:36:59   there being an intentionality to that honestly like yeah if i'm at home i'm at home if i'm at

01:37:05   work i'm at work and kind of like making sure that there is a very good divide between these things

01:37:11   so that when i am in these two locations i am doing the best things that i should be doing when

01:37:17   i'm in these locations right so not working at home and not kind of like not working at work

01:37:24   the difference from a normal year of priorities is again like a normal one you're just sorting

01:37:32   for yourself but this is like ah i was thinking oh it's just simply good because it's the biggest

01:37:38   change in priorities that can possibly happen but what it also is is it is the addition of like

01:37:45   other people's priorities in such like a deep way that yeah i think while everything is is uncertain

01:37:54   and unpredictable that basically has to translate into something like all of your priorities that

01:38:01   existed before they have to become more efficient to make space for these other things and so yeah

01:38:10   like you're thinking about the time of the studio that really makes sense like i was i was kind of

01:38:14   thinking like oh i know mike really likes to have these breaks like it works it sounds like it works

01:38:17   really well for you but this is one of these cases like ah yes but i think he's right that is going

01:38:22   to almost certainly have to change because you need to make the per hour time at studio

01:38:28   more efficient in order to be able to do all of these other things like what will be the bigger

01:38:34   priority playing 30 minutes of the new call the duty campaign or spending time with my child

01:38:44   right like and you know who knows different times of the year depending on the day there may be a

01:38:50   question there right like yes of course mike each additional hour of anything has a decreasing

01:38:57   marginal utility like that is just the case you're not going to spend all of your time with your

01:39:02   child nobody does that it wouldn't even make sense to do but the flip side of that is like ah the

01:39:10   first quality hour with your child is like probably insanely valuable on any given day and

01:39:16   that's a thing that's like ah you just have to think about that in a way of like how does this

01:39:19   fit into your life the boundaries thing that i was talking about from year of people that is

01:39:28   part of this you know like setting these boundaries part of the reason that i set the

01:39:34   boundaries that i wanted to set was because of this so i knew this was happening then and so

01:39:39   you know kind of laying the groundwork for i may be less available what is the right way to deal

01:39:47   with that like that's part of it and then the second part of this was one of the reasons i

01:39:52   wanted to bring in my assistant was for stuff like this is trying to get someone to a place

01:39:56   who can maybe answer questions for me to others because she understands what's going on oh this

01:40:02   is why i got the small iphone i need to use my phone in one hand i wasn't putting those puzzle

01:40:10   pieces together of course all right that makes sense i've been keeping this in my head for ages

01:40:14   of like oh i've got to remember to mention this yeah this is why i got the small iphone this year

01:40:18   because it's harder to use the big iphone with one hand and i'll be using my iphone that's really

01:40:23   funny i was i was thinking before like what what an end of an era of mike going to small phone

01:40:28   this really um retroactively put some additional context on like uh yeah it sure is the end of an

01:40:34   era mike can't count on using his phone with two hands anymore i love it that's great like i have

01:40:41   a lot of little bits to this too right like the year of people and and putting people around me

01:40:46   to help me take an extended parental leave one of the things i've been thinking about and i might

01:40:50   do this or we can maybe talk about this i'll get back to this another point my assistant said to

01:40:55   me you know when you're on parental leave you could just give me access to your email and i

01:40:59   could just read it for you and like my initial feeling to that was oh god no someone reading

01:41:05   my email and then like the more i thought about it was like there is absolutely nothing wrong with

01:41:09   somebody reading my email mike 100 you should do that yeah that's a no-brainer yeah you should do

01:41:14   that it was just one of these things where like she said it to me and like i couldn't believe that

01:41:18   somebody suggested it but then by like two minutes later i was like no this is like a really good

01:41:23   idea so like this is something i'm thinking about so stuff like that but yeah there's a lot of other

01:41:27   little bits right health and fitness you kidding me i mean i gotta live forever now uh so that has

01:41:33   become like a thing that i'm thinking a lot more about finances in general like i gotta be more

01:41:39   responsible like it's kind of like responsibility is part of it too and health fitness finance is

01:41:43   like responsibility because i am responsible for another person like in a way that i have never

01:41:49   been responsible before especially because especially at the beginning she won't be able

01:41:53   to do nothing she can't do nothing and so i have this responsibility to her and so i'm starting to

01:42:00   think about different areas of my life differently like in a way that you know i have lots of friends

01:42:07   who have kids and they would make decisions and i would kind of be like why are you making that

01:42:12   decision that way and now i'm starting to realize like oh they were being responsible parents

01:42:17   i was going to ask for an example here but it sounds like this is a broad category of they

01:42:22   were making a slightly boring feeling decision yeah is that what you're getting yeah yeah like

01:42:27   why won't you take that trip now you know or like come on how hard can it be no there's just being

01:42:33   responsible parents so i retroactively apologize to all of my friends who have children this is

01:42:39   without a doubt the most north star-iest north star theme that i've had yes yes this is how i've

01:42:45   often explained what a yearly theme is it's like it's just this thing and you're just always moving

01:42:51   towards it it's up in the sky it is your destination it's how you find where you gotta go

01:42:55   you're never gonna get to it like but it guides you like some themes that i've had they have a

01:43:03   result in a way that i could imagine like oh if i do this stuff i reckon i could be this person

01:43:10   at the end of this year i have no idea what this looks like and also it's not there is no world in

01:43:18   which this is just like oh this is just like a one-year thing you know no no no this is a theme

01:43:24   that is about crafting the newest biggest most permanent part of your personality and your

01:43:34   identity it's not a one and done theme by any measure it's the first exploration of what does

01:43:42   this mean for you how do you change what are you changing in your life but it's different from

01:43:48   other things because it is a new identity that will just be unchanged and i'm excited for that

01:43:56   like maybe this is terrible but like as a content creator i'm also excited about all of the ways in

01:44:02   which i'm going to have a new perspective on things and there will be an element of our

01:44:07   audience that i will be able to relate to differently and they will relate to me differently

01:44:11   the way that i think about the work that i do is going to change and i'm intrigued to see how all

01:44:17   of those things kind of shake out as well like i do not know what 2025 is going to look like all i

01:44:24   know is that fatherhood is the guiding principle upon which all decisions and considerations have

01:44:30   to be made so i can't wait oh god i'm so excited like i you know i'm sure people i know i'm gonna

01:44:38   get into this in more places and in more ways over the next few months or whatever but i am not scared

01:44:45   about being a dad like i have no apprehension for it all i'm incredibly excited i wished i didn't

01:44:51   even have to wait you know like i i've been ready for this for months i want it to be now i'm happy

01:44:58   to get the last few months of my marriage the way that it is right now like i'm happy to be living

01:45:05   in that before it changes forever but we are so ready to be parents and i'm so excited and i'm so

01:45:15   pleased that i get to share this with everybody yeah i can't wait listener i think this year more

01:45:24   than maybe any other year you could feel how big and impactful themes are mike and i have done this

01:45:32   together for so long and i continue to be surprised and delighted at how much this can really

01:45:39   improve our lives how much it can be used as a tool to like focus your thoughts in a long way

01:45:47   over a long time this is our pitch to you that you should try a theme and if you want to try a theme

01:45:58   we do obviously suggest that the best tool for this is the theme system journal i always like

01:46:04   to say you can do this with anything but we have designed the journal to be the best tool that can

01:46:13   help you in the way that you want to think about progress and check back in on your theme

01:46:21   over the course of a year what i like most about journaling around my theme every day is it doesn't

01:46:29   let me forget it so every day i sit down my theme system journal and each journal page is divided

01:46:36   into four sections and i write down things in these sections that are repeatable and chosen by

01:46:43   me of how my day has gone and then in the back of the journal we have an area called the daily

01:46:48   actions which is almost like a habit tracker and these are some things that i kind of tick off each

01:46:53   day that if i hit each 10 of these things and i have progressed my life in the way that i want

01:46:57   and then the way that lines up to my theme what i also love about the theme system journal in this

01:47:04   way is it sits on my desk and it is the constant reminder of my yearly theme it is a flexible

01:47:10   adaptable high quality journal it supports you throughout the year the structure is designed to

01:47:15   grow with you it can evolve as you do as your theme may shift and change it's fine because you

01:47:23   set your own pattern with how you journal every day we're not forcing you to do anything you can

01:47:29   just choose to do it however you like every page has a perforated corner for you to tear out once

01:47:35   you complete each page which is very satisfying but also makes it incredibly easy to pick up where

01:47:41   you left off now as gray mentioned it is essentially just a nice journal you can do this with any

01:47:49   journal and we have tons of information about the theme system journal and about how we journal with

01:47:55   themes at theme system.com and you can go and read all about it now we made the product that

01:48:00   i think best reflects this and so i recommend that you give it a go but hey if you already have a

01:48:07   journal that you want to use you can use that too yeah and i will also just make the pitch for what

01:48:13   i know is a certain kind of listener who's going to be interested in trying this and wants to just

01:48:17   do it digitally again it's totally fine like if that works for you you do that but i think

01:48:22   especially for anyone who's doing this for the first time the presence of a physical object in

01:48:30   your life that is like on your desk or in some other visible place i think you just cannot

01:48:37   discount the impact that that has and it's one of the reasons why it's like i love that we made this

01:48:44   journal because the physicalness of it really matters it is a facilitator to go with my own

01:48:52   theme for the year i think it reduces friction to simply have that thing on your desk in a visible

01:48:59   place you have a pen nearby and you write in it and again they like the act of writing with your

01:49:05   hand on an actual piece of paper does something different to your brain it forces you to slow down

01:49:12   it forces you to really think about it i feel like even the moment of when you like open something up

01:49:17   that is paper it's like it's a small bit of preparation for your mind to be like hey we're

01:49:24   going to do this thing now and it just like gets you in a different mode so that's also why i feel

01:49:30   like if you're doing this for the first time i highly recommend you do it with a physical journal

01:49:38   one that you like or one that we have purposefully made to do this as well as possible it absolutely

01:49:47   makes a mode shift where you become reflective when you put down your phone or you move your

01:49:54   keyboard or you even close the notebook you were previously using to open your specific journal

01:50:00   like it really makes it intentional and i think that you can make your theme an intentional thing

01:50:06   by reflecting on it every day of a theme system journal so i said you can learn more at themesystem.com

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