65: Goals Are Dumb
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So we're over an hour late starting today on our recording. Would you like to tell everybody,
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Gray, why that is?
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Gray Miller It was a snow day!
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but it doesn't have to be a lot, right, for it to make a big difference.
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But it's very cold here right now and there is some snow.
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As always with these things, uh,
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if you post on the internet that your city has snow and things are closing down
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people from the Northern Arctic wastelands will get in touch and they'll tell you
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about how you don't know or understand what snow is, right?
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That that your baby, it's like, this is, yeah,
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I know that there's more snow in places that are colder. That's,
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It's never the question. It's entirely a question of how economically feasible is it to keep
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a whole fleet of snowplows at the ready to get your city clear of snow? And the answer
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is if you're London, where it didn't even snow last year, you just don't have any plows,
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right? Like you have nothing, right? You just don't have anything. And so then when you
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do get every two years, one inch of snow, everything shuts down. But most importantly,
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I woke up this morning, I saw that there was a lot of snow.
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I immediately opened up Carrot Weather and saw that there was going to continue to be
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a lot of snow.
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And I immediately declared it a grey industry snow day.
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I was like, "Nope!"
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Year of order, routine establishing in the morning, right out the window it goes.
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I just ran into the streets and it was great.
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I spent all morning wandering around central London enjoying the snow and it was glorious.
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But I did send you a message as soon as I possibly could.
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Like as soon as I popped up into Foggart Square, I was like, "Oh!
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It's not a snow day for relay industries.
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Myke's still gonna want to record the podcast."
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So I sent you a message to try to give you a heads up that I was going to be almost certainly
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late coming back, which I was.
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But I liked that you attempted to sweeten this by sending me picture updates every now
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and then of the interesting things that you were finding around London.
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Well, I thought you're probably sitting at home in the relay company that is not having
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a snow day and having a sad at the office day. So I thought I was going to brighten
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your morning with pictures of me frolicking in the snow. I thought you would enjoy that,
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I did not and have not had a snow day. It's been snowing for a few days. I have not left
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the house even though I love snow. There are a few things in the world that I love more
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that are naturally occurring than snow because it's so rare for me that like it's a real
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treat but oh yeah i think throughout this episode there is going to be a theme and the
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theme of this episode is mike mike feels very overwhelmed right now with work so i have
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a i have a character flaw in that when i feel very busy if i leave the house it's like i
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I have committed a crime. I have to be here and it is the only way that I can feel okay
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because if I leave I have neglected the mountain of work that I have to take care of. So I
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have not left the house yet. I believe as we're recording this today that when Adina
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comes home she's dragging me out of the house she's bought me a scarf even
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because she's unhappy with the fact that I have not left the house this week to
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play in the snow which would bring me great joy but right now I feel like I'm
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not allowed to do that I too had a mountain of work to do and I don't feel
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guilty there's no kill there's no kill over there no this is a thing that is is
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is very hard to do, but I'm always really glad when I do it, which is
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intentional playtime, or intentional goofing off or relaxing time
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where instead of what is very easy to do, like, "Oh, I should be working,
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but somehow I'm Mario Karting. I don't know how this happened."
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And it's like, "I'm not fully enjoying the Mario Kart
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because I know that there's something that I should be doing,
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and I'm just sort of here procrastinating."
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That's the worst because you're not enjoying the activity and you're not getting anything done.
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But that's why this morning is like, "Oh, woke up? Boom. I'm the CEO. I'm declaring it's a snow day."
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No work can happen on the morning of a snow day. So there's no guilt at all. Nothing is even
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possibly going to happen. And I feel like that's the best way to enjoy a thing is to mentally
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cordon it off as work can't possibly happen while it's snowing outside. Everyone knows that.
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So there's no guilt because I couldn't be answering emails this morning. It just couldn't happen.
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What annoys me the most is that I feel like I had gotten better at that. I feel like I had gotten a
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lot better at being able to say to myself, "You know what? I'm going to sit down and play Nintendo
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for a while and it's going to be great." But I've been going through some transitions business-wise
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this year that seemed to have upended everything. I think that my company is at a stage now where
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there's just some changes happening, like we're old enough that just different types of things
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are going on and it's all good stuff. Like all of this work, this additional work is being generated
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because of good things and the stress that I'm going through is because of the additional work,
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not that anything bad is happening, right? Like it's that kind of stress. It's an overwhelming
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rather than a desperation type stress. So I and I have not yet adjusted to this new
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world and right and I'm and I am trying to do some things to help me adjust but right
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now I'm not doing a very good job with it.
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I'm sorry to hear that Myke. Overwhelmedness is maybe one of the much more harder things
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to deal with because it is that cloud, that feeling of "oh there are so many things,
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it's very hard to get a handle on" but you know I really think Idina needs to take you
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on a snow day.
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Yeah, yeah I know, I know it's tricky.
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Let me tell you actually, let me tell you about something that I started doing which
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which I'm hoping will help with this.
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I have started a journal.
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Okay, I'm going to need a lot of details on what this means to you.
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Yeah, I know.
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Because I've basically gone anywhere from dear diary to writing down minute by minute
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what I'm doing.
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It is an all-encompassing term which these days means more and more and more.
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So I have in the past looked at journaling systems. I am a big pen and paper nerd. I've
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mentioned this on the show before, but this is a thing that really is one of my big loves
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in life is pen and paper. I have an entire podcast dedicated to it. It's called The Pen
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Addict and I will put a link in the show notes in case people are interested. We are about
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to hit our 300th episode. It is my longest running show that I have ever done. It's weekly,
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So, you know, it's a lot of pen and paper news.
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So that's the thing that I love very much.
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So I've been very aware of journaling systems.
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You know, bullet journal is a big one, right?
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And I actually know the guy who made it.
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His name is Ryder Carroll and he's a great guy.
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And we've kind of been going along with his journey
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over the time that he created the bullet journal
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'cause we first found out about it before it was nothing.
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Right, it was just beginning.
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And now it's like a huge, huge deal.
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- Yeah, but also, bullet journal, in my mind,
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at least from what I know of it,
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bullet journal is not a journal at all.
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It's a task management system.
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- It is, yeah.
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- This is why when you say you started a journal,
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I feel like I need to know
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what it is that you're talking about.
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- Exactly, so this is it, right?
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Like, this is it.
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The term journal means so much now.
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But I was saying, like, I have looked into bullet journaling
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and I was considering it as a thing,
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but it didn't do, for whatever reason,
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it wasn't doing what I wanted it to do.
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And then a couple of weeks ago, I had a call with my new friend, Mr. David Sparks.
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And he was telling me that he had just started journaling himself, but decided to just create
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his own system, which focused on things that matter to him.
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And I was like, oh, okay, that's probably what I should do.
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Like why focus on somebody else's system when I don't need a to-do list on paper.
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I already have one of those, right?
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So I figured I'm going to focus on what I want to do.
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And I've been keeping this journal for just over a week.
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And every day I sit down at one point and I write out the headings of the things that
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I want to focus on in that day.
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And then later on in the evening I'll kind of complete it.
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So let me tell you what my system includes.
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So I sit down with a double page in a notebook and I write down a bunch of headings.
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One of them is priorities, one of them is called one good thing, I have one bad thing,
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what did I learn, what am I looking forward to, and then what pens did I use.
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I use two pens every day.
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Because this is also a way for me to use my pens more, which is nice.
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So yeah, so priorities, right?
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Okay, yeah, let's run through these one at a time.
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Priorities. This is in essence like to-dos, but they are much broader and much more simple.
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So like every day I may have 10 tasks say that I want to, my to-do list that I want to complete,
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right, in Todoist. But they don't actually all need to be done today, right? Like that's not
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how my system works. Sometimes I have to-dos in my project manager, knowing that they won't be
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done today but I can do a little bit of work towards them today and then reschedule them.
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But my priorities are the things that by the end of the day today I will have 100% wanted to
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complete these things. So then when I'm coming to the end of my day and I'm looking at Todoist and
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and I'm moving seven tasks to tomorrow.
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And I get that feeling of like,
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did I actually do anything today?
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I can refer to my journal and tick off the things
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that I've done and be like, oh, these were the things
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that I actually achieved.
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I set out to achieve the most important things
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that I needed to do today.
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So it's like a sub list.
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It doesn't bear any kind of control
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over my actual to-do list system.
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It's more like pie in the sky type stuff, right?
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Like these are things that I want to do and they can even be non-work things.
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And they are a lot of the time non-work things.
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Stuff that I wouldn't actually have in my to-do list.
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So like I'm going to write one in right now as we are talking
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because I add to my journal throughout the day and it's going to say
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"go out in the snow".
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That's going to be added to my priorities list for today.
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and then later on we'll go out in the snow, but that's never going to find its way into Todoist
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because it's not part of my system, right? Yeah, and it also doesn't...
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in the structure of using something to manage projects, it doesn't really make sense to make
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a project which is called "Myke is exposed to snow because it's good for his mental health"
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and then an action which is called "go outside" or like that doesn't make it... it's too heavy
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weight, right? It's way too heavy weight.
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Well, let me rephrase that. It's not good for the way that I have my system. Some people
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may do that, right? But that doesn't work within the way that I think about tasks, right?
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But when I'm looking at my priorities for the day, then yeah, maybe that works. So then
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I have one good thing and one bad thing. So every day I try and write down one good thing
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that happened and one bad thing that happened. And I included the bad thing because I included
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the good thing. I didn't want this to just be like an idealistic view of my life because
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bad things happen, right? And I didn't want this journal to just be like, "Oh, everything's
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so amazing!" Right? Because it's not like that. It's not how life is.
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Okay, so already we're getting into a little bit of a different function of this for you,
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which is the idea that this is a thing like a traditional diary that you might look back
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on as a record of what was going on in your life.
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That's why the one bad thing is there because it lets you know what's going on.
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I highly doubt that I will even keep this journal when it's finished.
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I'm not an archivist or stuff like this.
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It's more just as a way for me to reflect on something.
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So by writing it down it's like acknowledging a thing happened or a thing didn't happen.
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honestly like the one good thing none of this stuff has I don't feel like it ever
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has to be completed right if I don't have a bad thing I'm not gonna write it
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like I'm not gonna magic something up but the idea for me is more just like a
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way to just reflect on things a little bit more just so I can focus on like
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what good things did happen today and my idea for this is like moving into the
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future, if I feel like I've had a really bad day, why don't I try and think about
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if there was a good thing and it might help me feel a little bit better. And the
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reason I'm doing this is because of one of the things I learned about myself
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through time tracking of understanding I feel like I've been very busy but what
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do the numbers say? Sometimes the numbers say no you haven't so then it's
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like okay well let me try and think about that why do I feel this way if I
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have something that tells me it's not this way so it's like I might feel really
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bad today but maybe that's just the last half an hour as opposed to the entire
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day so that's kind of what the one good thing one bad thing is is meant to be
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for like acknowledging that there is both but also giving me a way to think
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about what my day was actually like because I've noticed this about myself
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that like I can have a perfectly good day but then things can ruin it like
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something happens and then I'm in a bad mood right and I'm very aware of this
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and believe that I think I would be overall more happy if I didn't dwell on
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on things as much. So this is me trying to curtail that a little bit by having more of
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a structure, more of a system around good things that happen. And actually the next
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two parts of the journal also enforce this. So one of them is "What did I learn?" And
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this serves two functions. One of them is, basically for the entire time that I have
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known Adina, if she wants to talk, if we want to have a conversation but we don't have anything
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to talk about, like if we're hanging out, we're just chatting, she will say to me, "Tell
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me the three things you learned today." And that has always been a strong exercise for
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me that I fail at a lot of the time.
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Yeah, I'm gonna say even as someone who makes a real effort to try to read and expose himself
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two different things. What are the three things you learned today is a tall order?
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So it's tricky because I know that there are things but I just don't remember them. Or like
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at that moment I can't think back to like the specific things that I went "huh" about today.
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Right? There must be more than three every day. So I've always found this an interesting thing
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and a thing that I've struggled with, but I thought it was a nice framework to try and
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write some stuff down.
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Where I try and write down a number of things every day that I have learned.
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But this is a very open thing where it can be like facts, something that's changed my
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mind or even just a thing about myself or a thing that I found interesting.
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It can be literally anything, but it's just three things that have kind of been in my
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mind today is kind of how I approach this. So it can be like something pithy, like something
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that I just think is kind of weird or funny, or it can literally be like, "Oh, I found
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out this thing about the crown jewels today." You know, like, so three things that I consider
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like notable pieces of information for one reason or another that I have accumulated
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over the day. And it can be three things. It can be six things. Sometimes it's one thing
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or two thing. Right? Like it doesn't really matter, but it's more just what did I learn?
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And it can be any amount of things, but I try and aim to do three, but most days get like two.
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Right, yeah.
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And this is again another reflection thing, like me trying to focus on some stuff that's
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happened in a day and just trying to note down some notable items. And then the next one is what
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I'm looking forward to. So something that's on the horizon that I'm excited about. And
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I have a little personal rule of I can't repeat the same thing over two days.
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Right, so you can't say like, I'm looking forward to my upcoming wedding. And you can't
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use that for the next six months. It's more day to day. So like, I can have
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something that I'm really excited about, which is happening on Saturday, and I could
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write it on Monday and Thursday for example but it's more just like I can't write what
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I wrote yesterday it has to be different today and that's purely because sometimes there'd
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be something happening on Saturday and I would write it in every single day and I feel like
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that that's that I'm cheating.
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Yeah I think that's cheating the idea of what you're trying to go for there.
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And then the last section is writing down my pens but you don't need to know any more
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I want to know much more about that.
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Okay well one thing is, like the looking forward to, I use two pens, one pen to write the headings
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and one pen to write everything else in, like the body of everything, and I don't use the
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same two pens in a row either.
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I have to use different pens every day.
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Right, so this is a mechanism to help you rotate your pens?
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Yeah, to enjoy my hobby more.
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The image in my head is of a monk typesetting a book, you know where they have the uppercase
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and the lowercase of all of the letters and they're working at a big down.
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Like this is my image of you writing out the journal, is you have this array of pens neatly
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stored in front of you, and so you just select from this big array of pens.
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Is that what's actually occurring?
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I typically will go to my office and pick two pens from my kind of top pen selection,
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which I keep on my desk at all times, and then take those to somewhere else in the house
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and write out my journal.
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Alright, that's nice.
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That's nice.
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So you move around in the physical space to do it.
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And then I keep the journal and the body writing pen with me kind of throughout the day and
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will add to it where I need to.
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So you're a week in.
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How do you think it's going?
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It's become part of my routine already, which I'm very surprised about.
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I have a daily task in Todoist, right, to complete the journal.
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But it kind of gets to a point in the day where I feel like, oh, it's journal time.
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Like, and it's not about me being reminded.
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Like, I just feel like, oh, I need to complete the journal now.
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Or one thing that I've been doing is like I get to a point in the day, I'm like, what
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shall I do next? And like, oh, I know what I'll do.
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I'll work on my journal.
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So, you know, it is a.
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It is a part busy work exercise, right? So it's like a work-crastination type dealio,
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because I'm sitting and I'm kind of doing a thing which isn't real work and it's kind of maybe
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putting off real work for a few minutes. But it's also a thing which is helping me think,
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which I like. Yeah, I'm gonna disagree with you there. I think that's entirely a category of real
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work. In my time tracking system, I have a category that I call "metawork" and that's
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what I would classify this kind of thing as. Is it work like editing a podcast? No. But
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it's work like sorting out your brain and what you're thinking about and what you're
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paying attention to. That is a kind of work. I like this. You seem to be very hesitant
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to let this count, Myke.
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- So this again, this has been a trend
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of my most recent busy time.
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I'm trying to really focus on my to-do list as the work
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because there's already so much in there.
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I don't need to also consider everything else work as well
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because then it's just too much.
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It's too much work.
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Okay, so you don't want it to count as work because you feel like you already have too
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Okay, yeah, then it's not work.
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Then it's just a personal project of yours.
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This journal is a counterbalance against the overworking, right?
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We're just gonna take this activity out of this arbitrary set of labels and oh look,
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we lifted it up and we put it down here in this other set of arbitrary labels.
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It's different now.
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It's a totally different thing.
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I'm sorry Myke, it's not work at all. I didn't mean to even suggest that. I take it all back.
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I take it all back.
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A lot of my busyness is self-imposed and I'm very aware of that and I'm trying to
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find ways to counterbalance it, to kind of counteract it, to break my thinking a little bit.
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Like I am a busy individual. I do have a lot of things going on,
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but I know I'm not as busy as my brain tells me I am.
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Right and you know that because you do the time tracking.
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That's one of the many valuable things about doing the time tracking.
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So right now I'm just trying to identify what is making me feel this way.
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I mean, because there are days this week where I've been working a lot and my time tracking
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reflects it, like abnormal amounts of working hours. And that's fine. I understand that.
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I know what's going on. It's all good. But just the overall day-to-day feeling that I've had
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for maybe the last two weeks of this complete overwhelmedness, like I need to try and
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I need to try and ascertain why I'm feeling this way when a lot of the things that's happening,
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not everything, but a lot of the things are on the kind of like the general schedule of things,
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the general kind of flow of time. And I have some additional projects and stuff like that,
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but logically they shouldn't be making me feel like how I feel right now. So I'm just trying
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to work out what is going on and the only thing I have right now is this journal. It's
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my only idea so I'm just really focusing on that which is why I wanted to bring it to
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discuss today.
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You're holding on to this journal real tight because it is the only thing that is keeping
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you afloat in the vast ocean of your work that stretches in every direction.
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Well, I'm going to say
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that I think it's a good idea
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I'm not going to
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poo-poo your journal
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One of the reasons I will not
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poo-poo your journal is because
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something similar to this
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I always just feel really hesitant to talk about it because there's something so...
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There's something so touchy-feely about this that I find myself a little bit repulsed.
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But I have totally done this kind of thing and I have definitely found it a helpful exercise at times.
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So, yeah, like, I'll pull up what it actually looks like for me, but sort of like, when
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would it have been now?
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Maybe like a year and a half ago now at this point?
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I was sort of going through a bit of a rougher time, like, you know, we touched upon some
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of those things, like some of the recurring health issues for my wife and a few other
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And it was just like not the best time in the world.
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And this was one of the first times I tried this kind of thing because a friend of mine
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had recommended it to me and he's like, listen, you're going to feel really stupid doing this,
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but you should really try it and it's a good idea.
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I was like, okay, fine, I'll give this a shot.
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And I did like the, even the way you're laying out your journal, I ended up doing something
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that was very similar and I felt so dopey about it because it's like okay in your little journal
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here's what you're going to do you're going to write down three things that you're thankful for
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as like oh god am I doing am I doing like a gratitude exercise here the answer is yes yes
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you are doing a gratitude exercise it's like okay fine so I'll write down like three things that I'm
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grateful for and then sort of like you're talking about with the priorities just three
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things that I can do that will make the day a good day and then at the end of the day
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I would just come back to that list see how things had gone and also just again add like
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what were some good things that happened during the day right that's all it was it's like
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Like a way of starting something, answering a few questions, setting up the course of
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the day in my mind with what are the top things that I want to do as opposed to what is the
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big ball of stuff in my task management system, like just pick three things, and then simply
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at the end of the day reviewing the situation.
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And I did this for the first time when I was on a Greg-cation in an undisclosed location
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in Fynn-Oscandia.
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And it was stupidly effective.
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So effective, I can't believe how effective it was at just changing my mental framing
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and also helping just make it really clear about "I only have so much time today, what
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are the things that I really need to do?
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And so I'm going to try to focus on those things.
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So it's not that far off from what you're doing.
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I did it for a while.
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It is something that I have found nearly impossible to make stick as a part of a regular routine,
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even though it's a thing that I in theory would want to do.
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I find that I can only really maintain it when I'm in a particular focused or almost
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somewhat isolated state of mind.
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So it's like I am on a graycation.
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I am on like the corporate retreat for one.
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And I don't know, there's, I talk about going on these corporate retreats for one thing.
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It always, always sounds kind of silly, but it is, they're weirdly mentally draining and
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they're very mentally intensive,
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and I feel like there's something about having
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this little thing running in the background of like,
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oh, you're gonna review a little journal
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at the end of the day, that is very effective,
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but I have just not been able to make it last,
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because I almost find like it's too mentally tiring,
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even though it doesn't seem like it's a big deal.
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But yeah, so I've done that.
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I've done that almost every time I go away on a corporate retreat. I've sort of over
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the over the time I have modified it to add a couple of more questions or little little
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spaces. So it's sort of developed into this thing that I now call a like my bookend journal.
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So it's like the day starts and the day ends with looking at just these couple of pieces
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a paper. But yeah, I never look back at it. It's not a thing that's any kind of archive
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for me. It's just entirely a thing that, like I'm on the trip, I have my iPad and the pencil,
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and I just fill it out on some fake paper that I had designed for me, which I mentioned
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a while back. And I have a pen.
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Why did you do that? I just had people stop asking me for the designs the first time around
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because you said you were going to share them and you never did.
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I have plans to share them at some point, but I just realized as I was discussing this
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what I didn't want you to have in your mind, Myke, was the romantic idea of me with a quill
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pen and a piece of paper working on this thing.
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Do you really believe that I for one second thought you were doing this on actual pen
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I don't know what's in your head.
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- I knew this was on,
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'cause you spoke about having this paper before
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made for you by a mysterious individual
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that I assumed that you were doing it there.
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- Yeah, that's where it still is.
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- I am happy to hear that you have found
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this kind of thing effective too.
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It is interesting to me that you seem to speak
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really high of it, but can't find a way
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to integrate it into your life on a more permanent basis.
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That's kind of surprising to me.
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it seems like counter to the types of things that you usually do, right?
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Find something to be really useful but not like force it.
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B: Here is one of the things, this actually kind of rolls up into year of order a little bit,
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which is the reason it works when I'm on a great occasion is because I always treat it as
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I wake up, I get some coffee and I sit down with this thing,
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and I have some blank space. One of the questions I've added over time that I find useful is just a
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big blank area that just says "What's on your mind?" and I just sort of write some things down,
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just random free form like "What am I thinking about?"
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- Oh, that's nice.
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- Yeah, it's surprisingly illuminating to just sit and have a blank piece of paper in front of you
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and just wait and see what thoughts surface and just go.
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Just write them down and it's almost always just kind of
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nonsense but very often it will get to things like
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what you're saying here, like I'm feeling overwhelmed
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but not about anything in particular.
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And it's like, oh that's interesting, why?
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Like let's try to figure this out a bit more.
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But on the great occasions I treat it as the first activity
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in the morning and I'm able to work it into a routine then,
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but in my regular working schedule,
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so like now when I'm back home, I'm in London,
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and like before I was going to my previous office,
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and now I am going to the glass cube to create things,
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which I think in my mind, I think it's now
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because I've decided that's where creation
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is going to occur, like it's gone from the glass cube
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to the glass forge.
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the glass forge in the year of order.
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Like I like these, I like all of these things.
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But it just doesn't fit in the schedule
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because I know on my regular life,
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the most important thing, the thing that I try to optimize
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for is wake up, take a quick walk,
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and then get right to a computer
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to work on a script for a video.
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Like I've gotta make that transition as smooth as possible.
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And doing the journal puts me in a very different kind
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of mood, it puts me in a much more pensive big picture mood,
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which is not the frame of mind for,
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I wanna start revving this engine to get some work done.
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And so I've just never quite figured out how to make it work
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in a regular routine for me otherwise.
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So it has ended up being just largely like a
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Gratation kind of thing for me and and that's how I use it
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But that's kind of why I was curious like you're a week into it
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And I think um I don't think I have ever done it for more than 10 or 14 days in a row
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Which is about the longest of the longest Gratations
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And then after that it falls apart very quickly when I get back to my regular life
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Feel like I'm gonna have better luck than you
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because of the secondary purpose that it serves in my life mm-hmm, which is
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the act like the action of using my pens because that that brings me joy so like
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I I get something out of it which is separate which is like a feeling of
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happiness for you for being able to act on a pursuit that I love mm-hmm so like
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that's an additional benefit that I get from this then then what then what you
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would get but I am I'm happy to hear that it is something that you do as well
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just because then I'm not on my own.
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I'm a little raw right now.
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- No, I totally get it, I totally get it.
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And if it hadn't been a friend who I feel like
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is not a very airy-fairy person,
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suggesting it quite strongly,
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I think I never would have tried it in the first place.
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Because like, I'm not gonna sit down and write
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three things that I'm thankful for.
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That's dumb.
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But like I said, like comically effective,
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comically effective at kind of changing your mental mindset. So yeah, it very much works.
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I'm going to have a book recommendation for you, Myke, at this point. I know you don't like books.
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You're adding something to the work pile. I know that I'm adding something to the work pile,
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but listen, never has a more perfect moment come to recommend something and
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We don't even have to commit to it being Cortex Book Club.
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I'm just going to mention it on the show.
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And if you read it and we want to talk about it, then we can talk about it.
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We don't have to do it. There's no obligation here whatsoever, Myke.
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I'm only ever going to read this if it can be a work thing, right?
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Okay, I'm just going to continue talking.
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read books now for work. That's the only reason that I would read any book now is to do it
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for work. So, yeah. Is it Triggers by Marshall Goldsmith?
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Yes, yes. So you saw this in the show notes document. This has been here for a while and
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I've been waiting to bring it up because on my last graycation, a different good friend
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recommended this book, which the title of it makes me laugh. It's a book that has a
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subtitle which is also very self-help-y about creating behavior that lasts becoming the
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person you want to be. Everything about that sort of repels me from the cover of the book.
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Oh god, it's a leopard changing its spots.
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Yeah, I know, right? Did you get that? It took a while, right, for the visual metaphor
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there to work its way in. I know. I was looking at that for a while and I was like, what the
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hell is this cover? I don't understand. But yes, the cover literally has a leopard changing
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its spots. But I read this on my last graycation, which was also at an undisclosed location
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in Fino-Scandia, and I thought it was pretty good. Like as far as business books go, I
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think this one was pretty good. And what I specifically wanted to do was let it sit for
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a while and see if future me was still thinking about it as a thing to come back to and the
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answer to that has now been yes.
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Like I've left it alone for a while and I still keep thinking about it which means okay
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I want to actually reread it and think if there's anything here to extract for me and
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it the most actionable stuff is directly related to things that are very similar to doing a
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daily journal.
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So if you are trying to do a daily journal, if you're trying to figure out the edges of
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what that might be, this is the book to read to see if there's anything in here for you
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that might be useful.
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And I want to reread it to see if there's a way that I can modify my much more intensive,
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pensive bookend journal into something that's more like a daily action plan bookend journal.
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So I am going to reread this. I suggest that you might want to listen to it on audiobook.
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And if you want to, we could talk about it on a future show, but there's no pressure,
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Myke, because I refuse to add any more work to your big work pile.
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No, let's do it. Let's do it next time. Let's do it. Okay. All right, cuz it's not that long
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It's it's a six hour audiobook, which is about a third of what we usually do
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So like I feel like I can knock that out by next time. All right, so next episode
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Grey, the drought is over. Oh yeah?
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The year-long drought of no new Myke Hurley vehicles.
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So sad for the internet. It's come to an end and I have a new show
00:43:31
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that I'm very excited about and I want to just tell our listeners about it so they can go and
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check it out if they want to. It is called "Playing for Fun" and it's hosted by Tiffany
00:43:43
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Arment and myself. It is not the big project that I've been teasing. That is still in the offing.
00:43:51
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This is the problem when people know that you're working on some kind of big project.
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Is that they think everything is the big project, right?
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Oh, he just tweeted. Was that the big project? No, it was not.
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I've been working on this tweet for four years.
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I'm still, the big project is still kind of like being slowly chipped at every few days I will have
00:44:14
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a thought or like an idea and like I'm just ever so slowly fleshing that out as to see if it's a
00:44:19
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thing that I'm going to do. But this is a project that I'm very excited about. Every episode me and
00:44:25
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Tiff pick a video game and we just talk about what we love about the video game. Nothing else.
00:44:32
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no bad stuff, just the good stuff. It is a fun, happy, positive show about things we love. We
00:44:39
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don't talk about industry news. We don't necessarily focus on the biggest games, the biggest games
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right now. We just pick a game that we love and we talk about it and we just talk about what we love
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about it. And it is a show that is bringing me a lot of happiness because that's all it's about.
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it's just about happiness. And I feel like I get to talk about all of the things that I love.
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I've built an incredible job for myself in that I just talk about things that I like,
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the things that I'm passionate about, the things that I enjoy in life.
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But I tend to talk about them from a critical perspective. So with all of the things where
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where I'm talking about Apple stuff, for example.
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Or even on this show, I like to talk about working.
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It's just a passion that I have.
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It's a thing that we both share
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in just liking to talk about work.
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I also talk about bad things,
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like feeling overwhelmed, right?
00:45:40
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- But this show, Playing for Fun,
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we only talk about good things,
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so it only makes you feel good.
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- You're never gonna criticize a video game, Myke?
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- Never. - That's not what this show's about.
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I have another show about video games where I criticize video games.
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This one is just about good things.
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So you can find it at relay.fm/playingforfun or any app that you use or any service that
00:46:05
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you use, you should be able to find it there.
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It has the best artwork and music of any show I have ever been a part of.
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It is next level good.
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So if anything, just go check out the artwork.
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So yeah, it's called Playing for Fun.
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Please go and listen to it.
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Even if you don't like video games, because you might just enjoy hearing two best friends
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talk about something that they enjoy.
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Like we have listeners of The Pen Addict that are like this.
00:46:33
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People write into us like, "I don't care about pens.
00:46:35
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I just like hearing the two of you talk about something that I don't understand."
00:46:39
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So yeah, go and check it out.
00:46:40
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I just wanted to spend some time promoting it.
00:46:43
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Well, if you do like video games, you should also listen to it as well.
00:46:47
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Because whenever Tiff has guested on the ATP podcast, and she talks about video games at
00:46:53
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the end, I've always thought she should have a podcast where she talks about video games.
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She plays a lot of video games.
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She's pretty hardcore.
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The way she plays games is crazy.
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She's so much better at video games than anyone I know.
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It's almost embarrassing.
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It's she's she's very hardcore and I've always enjoyed it when she's on ATP talking about
00:47:14
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games I thought she's talking about games more so you should go listen to it plus Tiff
00:47:18
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has a great podcasting voice she should do more podcasts so I'm glad she's doing another
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podcast with you.
00:47:23
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All right let's talk about some Year of Order and some so this is part of my year of branching
00:47:29
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out by the way both of those things that we've been talking about today I should have framed
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it as such but both the journal and the new show that's part of branching out because
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These are new things.
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These are things that I haven't done before
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and I'm branching out by doing those.
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So that's actually part of my year of branching out.
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- See, this is the nice thing about year themes, Myke,
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is they can be inclusive or exclusive
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as you desire them to be, right?
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I love the year themes.
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They should have these fuzzy boundaries.
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So much better than goals.
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Goals are dumb, themes way better.
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And also, okay, so let's be real for a second.
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If you set a good theme, literally anything you do can be applied to the theme.
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So you always feel like you're progressing.
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Yeah, exactly.
00:48:17
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I've just made a new show.
00:48:18
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I've done this many times, but it's part of my year of branching out because it
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wasn't something I did last year.
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So I've branched out, but I could also say, oh, it's nothing to do with the theme,
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but I'm going to say it is part of the theme because then I feel like I'm
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progressing something in my life, which is great news.
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It's fantastic to have in the back of your mind.
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I went through a box with a bunch of computer cables in it
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and got rid of the ones that I don't need.
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Year of order.
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- Advance the yearly theme.
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I have brought order to the box.
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- Yeah, this box, more ordered.
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- Oh, the cutlery's out of place.
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Let me bring year of order to the cutlery drawer.
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- Order, order in all things big and small, Myke.
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Right, it's great.
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- I may leave the house today.
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It is part of the year of branching out.
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I think that's stretching a little bit.
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Obviously, I'm bringing order to the drawer.
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But yeah, I mean, that's well within the confines.
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Yeah, for sure.
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I guess going out for your snow day, the snow day is big enough to, I think, to be your branching out.
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Yeah, that's good.
00:49:17
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Yeah, I think so.
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Snow isn't normal.
00:49:20
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No, it's not normal in London.
00:49:23
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So again, themes, big thumbs up, goals, thumbs down.
00:49:27
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So what's going on in the year of order?
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Okay. I'm back with OmniFocus. That's, that's what's going on right now.
00:49:43
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I've actually been talking to your co-founder of relay FM,
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Steven Hackett about this on iMessage a bunch,
00:49:50
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which is the cycle of task management apps of going through these regular
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cycles of one to the other, to the other. It seems like Steven's in,
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in the bit of a, he's in a bit of a transition as well.
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So we've been talking about it a bit and I knew this was going to happen and
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I feel like I have,
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I have mentally settled on a metaphor to try to
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describe this process.
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And I think it's a bit like a forest fire where what
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happens in life is you start out with things really simple.
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Like I'm always telling people, "Hey, when you're getting started with task managers,
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just start with a piece of paper.
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You don't even know what you want.
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You don't need to get distracted by any of the complexity, and paper is fine.
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So just write down things that you want on a piece of paper."
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And then eventually you realize, "Oh, you know what?
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I don't want to keep rewriting these recurring tasks.
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Let me try to find something."
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And so you go to a simple task manager, and then you realize there's limitations in these
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simple task managers, and you go to something a little bit more complex, and you keep stepping
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it up and then you do have something that is very complex and then I think just like
00:50:59
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what you're going through now I personally find that at some point I feel this sense
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of vague overwhelming that's hard to pin down feeling like oh I have a whole bunch of things
00:51:14
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to do and that's when the forest fire comes through and sweeps it all clean right and
00:51:19
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you just and then you start over you're like you know what I'm just gonna be here with
00:51:22
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with my iPad and my virtual paper and I'm going to write things down like this for a
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little while. And I feel like it's a healthy cycle because when the fire sweeps through,
00:51:33
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part of what happens is it's a way of discarding a whole bunch of tasks that you were never
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going to get to anyway.
00:51:40
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I really would love a nicer metaphor than the one you've chosen upon.
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What about tides? Isn't that less aggressive? I don't like forest fires here. Can't we call
00:51:55
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it like just like the tide comes in and it sweeps everything away from the beach? It's
00:52:01
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No, Myke, you with your happy fuzzy life and your happy fuzzy podcasts. No, it's a forest
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fire. Because look, I think it's appropriate because it's very easy in your life that I
00:52:13
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I feel like the little tasks, they grow up and around,
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sort of just like in a forest,
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like the forest becomes too dense.
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And also, the forest fire, you have to realize,
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like the forest fire is healthy for the forest.
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Right, we're not talking about like,
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oh, some guy in California throws a cigarette
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out the window and the whole state burns to the ground.
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They're like, oh, this is,
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I'm talking about like a forest fire
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out somewhere in like Montana or Wyoming, right,
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where it's part of the life cycle of the forest.
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and it's actually required for seed pods to germinate, this kind of thing.
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So I feel like at the beginning of the year I went through the forest fire when I was on the
00:52:51
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graycation and I stepped up to using things which I totally loved and definitely highly recommend,
00:52:57
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but I knew I was eventually going to go back to something more complicated and then Omni wrote
00:53:02
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their blog post about what their plan for the rest of the year is and I do like some of the things in
00:53:07
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there and I thought, okay, things is kind of running up against the limitations of things.
00:53:14
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And I also do have to say, I really appreciate it.
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I wrote the developers one particular question about like, oh, could they change a thing?
00:53:21
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And what I really love is unlike most developers who will say, oh, we'll put that on our list
00:53:26
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for consideration.
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Things wrote back and said, no, we're never going to do that.
00:53:31
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I was like, great, I'd rather know.
00:53:33
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I'd rather know that you never know.
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- Because now you know that there's no point waiting.
00:53:36
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- Yeah, exactly.
00:53:38
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And so some of the limitations and things
00:53:41
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just became too limiting as I'm back into the regular cycle
00:53:46
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of like regular podcasts and regular work
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and a whole bunch of other stuff, I need something more.
00:53:50
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So anyway, long story short, I'm back with OmniFocus
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and so that's what I've been using
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for the past couple weeks.
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And almost certainly for the next six months
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it's what I'm going to be using for a while
00:54:04
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and then the forest fire will sweep through and everything will start all over again.
00:54:07
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So I've been thinking about this because, you know, alright, so I will tell you right
00:54:11
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now I'm playing with things because they just added this new automation system and
00:54:16
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it's really interesting and I'm kind of just toying around with it. Like, I think
00:54:21
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that ultimately it probably won't make me as comfortable feeling as Todoist does, but
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I'm just playing around with it because there's some stuff that it can do which I've wanted
00:54:32
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to do with a task manager for a while, but it didn't exist until now, so I just want
00:54:38
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to see what that's like. So for example, one big project that I have is this show, and
00:54:45
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posting this show just from a point of like when the edit is complete is a two-day process
00:54:51
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full of lots of things that need to be taken care of. And we're using something incredible
00:54:59
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that our friend Federico Vitici came up with,
00:55:01
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which I will link in our show notes.
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He created this natural language passing system in workflow
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that can hand over a full project into things,
00:55:13
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but it has, and I've been adapting and tweaking
00:55:15
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with the workflow to the point where I can get
00:55:19
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headings in a project, which I've never seen before
00:55:23
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in any task manager.
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So just like headings, one that says audio,
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one that says video, one that says posting.
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So it separates out the projects.
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I think I mentioned this last time as these non meaningful dividers that things
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Which is lovely,
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which is absolutely lovely because it can break a project up visually rather
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than just this like sea of items that look exactly the same.
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Yeah. It's so nice. In OmniFocus,
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there's a way that I can kind of trick it,
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which is to have these fake sub projects and then have things listed under these
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fake subprojects and those aren't real projects in the system.
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But I don't like the lack of clarity,
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where when I'm looking at the list,
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I have to remember, "Oh,
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that's not really a subproject,
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it's just a thing that I've made so I can
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group a bunch of similar things together."
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It's one of the very nice things
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about things is the visual look of it.
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When I first saw the headings,
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I thought, "Oh, this is dumb.
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I'll never use this."
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Turns out, actually one of my favorite things in that app.
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the headings is great and it's so visually nice.
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So like I've been playing around with this project,
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this list of tasks and grouping them out and using
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some of the, there's a tool in Workflow called
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Magic Variables, which was basically making variables
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like a construction set. And it means that someone like
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me can use workflow more simply.
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So what I've been doing is when I set the task,
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when I say I want this project to begin,
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what I want is for times to be entered into a to-do
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manager that are relative to the time that I started the project.
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So I want to be able to start a project and be like,
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this thing needs to go off half an hour from the point that I begin.
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And no other system that I've been able to use has been able to do
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this. So I thought to myself, oh, I can do this in Workflow because I can go into Workflow and I can
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say by using their kind of date tools, what is the current time, add 30 minutes to that time,
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and then I can drop it into Federico's Workflow as a magic variable. So it can look at the time
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that I've selected and been like 30 minutes from now. Right. And I've been able to piece that
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together. And so I'm playing around with this. It's just like, what does that look like? So then
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I end up with this multiple day project with everything broken out which is all time relative
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from this is exactly what I've wanted for this specific project which is posting this
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show which is one of the larger projects that I have purely because there are a lot of little
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pieces to it that I don't want to get wrong so I have like I don't do this for other shows
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because the process is more simple and it's more streamlined and it's easier to repair
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if something goes wrong. But with our show it's a little bit more tricky because there's
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also like all of the YouTube stuff and you know like if there's something wrong in the
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audio it is way harder for me to fix than with my other shows that are just audio right
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because I would also have to change the video and like I just so I like to make sure I've
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got absolutely everything 100% taken care of before I do anything. So it's a huge list
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the tasks and it looks like with this things automation I can create a
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templateable project that I can run which will be in a much nicer state than
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anything OmniFocus has given me and todoist has given me because I've built
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these projects in both of these other apps but I've never been fully happy
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about it and it looks like that things can do that and I don't know what this
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is gonna mean for me but because I'm still playing around of it. On this point
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And the reason I was laughing about all of this is I think I have come up with like a grand unifying theory about to-do apps.
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No to-do app will ever be perfect because it is impossible to meet the specific requirements of an undefined user base.
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Everyone uses their to-do app slightly differently, even if they follow a system like GTD.
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GTD. Everyone has their own preferences. So like it is impossible to create a
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perfect to-do app because nobody can ever be satisfied. Because no one is ever
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fully satisfied, when a new app comes along there's always the promise of
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maybe this is the perfect one and that's why you move to it. And you just keep
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doing this in the hopes that over time something will become perfect. But the
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funny thing is it never will.
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- Yeah, I mean, this is why I've always said
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like the market for to-do apps is infinite
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because everybody thinks about things in different ways.
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But there's even more granular problems.
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Like one of the things that has been on my mind
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in my move back to OmniFocus
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when I'm getting the heavyweight stuff set up.
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Like I always feel like going to OmniFocus
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is bringing in the big guns.
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Like we're serious now
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and we're heading into a real serious phase of work.
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- But there's a, so here's the thing.
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Even an individual user who has a clearly defined idea,
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so OmniFocus for me has my projects in it,
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so things like posting podcasts and videos
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and other clearly work-related stuff.
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I have a constrained use for it.
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I know how to use the system.
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Everything is great.
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But even then, you don't always want your to-do app
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to have the same behaviors at different times.
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And so for example, when do I want OmniFocus
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to alert me about something?
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When it's due ahead of time?
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Like, and right then and there,
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that immediately throws you into all of these problems
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of, well, the app is designed to set alerts
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when a thing is due.
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So you have to build your whole system around the concept
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of okay, if I want alerts, I need the due dates to be
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when I expect the alerts to be, right?
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And this is just like behavior in a single app.
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And to-do managers are always going to run
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into that problem of you have to adapt yourself
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a little bit to however they think of things.
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Like when I was using the Things app,
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I was very aware of, okay, I need to build my system
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around the way they manage the today and the anytime lists.
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And it's like, oh, okay, this is great, this is fine,
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I can get this to work,
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but you're always gonna run up against a moment
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where you feel like, oh, but I want this thing to appear
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in the today list in a way that the app
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is never going to do it.
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So even within a single app or within a single user,
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you're going to want inconsistent behaviors
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that are impossible to program for.
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of like, oh, I do want alerts on deadlines,
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but not for these tasks, right?
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But I do want them for those tasks,
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or I want an alert for these things,
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but I don't want to put a deadline on them, right?
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So it's just a, it's a fundamentally impossible area.
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And this is one of the reasons why for years now
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I have actually used multiple to-do apps
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because I try to categorize different sorts of activities
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that I'm looking for.
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And this is why the longest running one now
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is To Do For Me, the number two D-O,
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where I use that for what I think of as my starting the day
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and ending the day in other routines
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because I can have that app act the way
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that I want these particular kinds of tasks to be.
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And that app happens to be really great
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at the ability to say, sort of reset a day,
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where it's like, oh man, I've totally blown off
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all my routine stuff, but I just want to press two buttons
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to like reset tomorrow and 20 things just work.
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It's like, that's great, that's totally fine.
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It works because there's a constrained set
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of things in that app, and they're quarantined
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from OmniFocus, which is a different kind of thing,
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where like, resetting a day is a fundamentally
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impossible thing to do.
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So even if you're willing, like me,
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to go to the mental effort of saying,
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I'm going to division certain kinds of tasks
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that make sense to put these ones over here
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and those ones over there,
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you still always run into this problem of,
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we kind of want to do managers to read our minds
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and show us exactly what we want to see
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when we want to see it
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in a way that is impossible to programmatically define.
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Gray, let's do some ask cortex questions. I need to lighten this mood a little bit.
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I need to go out into the world and pick some questions from our listeners to help
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me right now. Does that sound good?
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>> If questions from the listeners will help you, Myke, let's do questions from the listeners.
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- Grey, it always helps me. And the first one comes from Chad. And Chad says, "If you were
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applying for a new job today and had to update your resume, what fonts would you choose?"
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- Do you have like a preferred font for stuff? - Well, no. What my brain was just mentally
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rolling back there is realizing that the last time I put together a resume, I was doing
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it in LaTeX. I don't have any idea how I would reset...
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What is that? Is that like a letterpress? What is that?
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Okay Myke, anybody who's done a PhD, they will know what LaTeX is.
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Oh, look at you! Um, if you'd have done a PhD, then you'd know.
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Because obviously you don't know Myke, you didn't do a PhD.
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Well, I didn't do a PhD either. Right. Just to, just to be clear here,
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closest I got to a PhD was dropping out of a master's course in economics.
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Sorry, Dr. Gray.
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I came across it because when I was a physics student,
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the people who were doing the PhDs introduced it to me and they're like, Oh,
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Hey, here's this thing that you can use to write papers.
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And you actually hit precisely what it is.
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It's, if you think of the monk
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who is manually typesetting a book,
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LaTeX is the computer version of this.
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So I would say it's like a,
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think of like Markdown.
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Make Markdown 10 times more complicated,
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but it has a whole bunch of commands
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that allow you to produce a thing
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that looks like it has been professionally typeset.
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Latex is a thing that will produce just beautiful,
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beautiful looking documents.
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- How is this spelled?
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- Capital L, lowercase a, capital T, lowercase e, capital X.
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- So why do you say it latex?
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- Because I get nervous about how I'm supposed to say it
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because in my head, I would always call it latex,
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but then people would tell me
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that I'm pronouncing it wrong and I think it's supposed to be lay tech and I've heard
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people say LA tech. I've heard a million different things, but all I know is if I ever say it
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out loud and I say latex, then the people who are actually doing PhDs start scoffing
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and they're like, Oh, okay, well you don't really know this thing. But anyway, the reason
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I was mentally rolling it back is because I would just use a ton of the defaults in
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this markup language so I have no idea what font that would have picked when it was spitting
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out my resume.
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So I don't know, I don't know, Chad.
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I would pick a safe font.
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I think that's what I would do.
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Something nice and safe.
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But presumably in this scenario I would be applying to a school and you just want to
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convey safety and boredom in that resume as someone looking to get another physics teaching
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So you're gonna be like Ariel Calibri or Times New Roman?
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Yeah, Times New Roman, yeah, that's probably which way it would go, yeah.
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What about you, Myke?
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Uh, Jokerman and Comic Sans, let's really just wrap this one up.
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Uh, no, uh, I have two...
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That I like? I think that's the right phrase.
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Yeah, there you go, right, yeah, trying to figure it out.
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That's like me, yeah. How about this, Latex? I don't know.
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I'm saying that typeface. I like Gotham and Futura
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Mmm, and they're good. They're good the fonts that I like
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Gotham I think medium I like my favorite so I would try and find something within those typefaces
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to use in Futura and Gotham because I like them and
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Especially Gotham, it can look just relatively normal looking.
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Like Futura in many styles can be like a little bit too much, right?
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You kind of look like you're really going for a thing.
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But yeah, they're my two favorites.
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Although I am very, very partial to a font in Google Docs called Creepster,
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which I use quite liberally in our show notes document,
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when there's a thing that we have to talk about that you don't want to talk about.
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So like business stuff is all written in the creepster font,
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which is basically this like bloody dripping thing.
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- Scary Halloween font. - Yeah, I love it.
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- Yeah, right. - That's my favorite.
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- So you'll put that at the top of our shared document
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and it will just say Q3 scheduling, right?
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Because you know that I don't wanna talk about it at all.
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- Yeah, it's to convey that everyone understands, right?
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It's like, this is scary stuff, but we have to do it.
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Nathan asked, on the topic of the Year of Order,
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I'd love to hear an update on how both of you deal
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with email these days,
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especially with helping your assistants.
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Have either of you tried services like Missive
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to let assistants triage your inbox?
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- I don't really wanna talk about email because--
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- Oh good, because I have another email question
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for you next.
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I will just say that like you are feeling overwhelmed.
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This one of the things that for me triggered the idea of I need a year of order is that
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my year of redirection left.
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I'll put it this way.
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It left all of my communications with the outside world in total chaos, including my
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Uh, the number of times I opened my email last year was very, very few.
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And so while I have many sub projects that are going on in the year of order, I want
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to set up my physical space and then I want to work on my routine and get that really
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narrow down.
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But one of the things immediately after that is I need to work my way through this terrifyingly
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large communications backlog that I have on many fronts across many things.
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So I don't really want to talk about email now.
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I'm going to have to deal with that at some point later.
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A couple of days ago we were talking and you kind of mentioned in passing I haven't looked
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at email in months and I just there is like a part of me that's like I can't believe that
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that is true.
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Like you can't mean that like absolutely right?
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Well I mean sometimes websites will send you verification codes through your email and
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you need to click on those right and so yeah I've opened email for that sort of thing but
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as we have discussed as we have discussed in the past though almost almost everything
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that is of any importance to me now either people just know to contact my assistant director
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because it will get them vastly faster turnaround than trying to contact me directly or it's things
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through Slack. So part of this is a structural problem that I try to limit how much time I spend
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on administrative stuff and so Slack and things coming straight from my assistant are much higher
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up on the queue of importance and so the hit rate in email has gone way down but
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I do really mean it that is I have not I have not looked at email in any
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meaningful way in a very very long time I have an enormous backlog of who knows
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what in there and it's it is time to it's time to get out the shovel and go
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through that at some point in the future but not not today not tomorrow but you
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know, later. There are so many things that me and you agree upon when it comes to getting
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work done, but our approaches to email are polarizing.
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I think about that every time I see an email notification on your watch. I just want to
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be clear. I totally know that that works for you, and it clearly does, but it makes me
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sort of smile on the inside every time that we're together in person and I see a little
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and there's the email notification on your watch.
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And it's just like, this is one area
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where we live very different lives.
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- If I use the application airmail right now,
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like to do apps, never fully satisfied
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of email applications, but I have it set
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with all of the preferences on my iPhone
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and even on my iPad, that basically an inbox,
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like a list of email, you can kind of see
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in like an inbox view, maybe about seven
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or eight emails at a time.
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kind of like at one time.
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If I have to scroll that list, I'm very uncomfortable.
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So at a given time, there is typically never more
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than eight emails in my inbox.
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And they're not being hidden,
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like they're being one way or another dealt with.
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We have very, very different approaches to email.
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It's really very different.
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In regards to sharing email with people that I work with,
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I would like to try and find a system for this eventually,
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because right now it's a lot of forwarding going on,
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which is not ideal really.
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- Right, and it's also with the situation I'm in,
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the way that I've got things working for me,
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it also wouldn't work for me to share my email inboxes,
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and there'd be way too much discussion
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about what email needs to be dealt with by who.
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I want to be able to find an application or a service
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where you can kind of like assign email,
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but I haven't been happy with anything
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that I've seen so far.
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Maybe one day I would like that.
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But the triaging of my inbox is currently served
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by my Apple Watch, that is my triage.
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Assistant is my Apple Watch.
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And then Neelesh asked,
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"How do you manage your personal business email?
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Do you separate them across different applications
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or do you keep them all in one app?
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Do you use unified inboxes?"
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I'm just assuming that like it's all goes in one huge bucket for you and it all is not
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Yeah, that's correct.
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One gigantic unlooked at pile.
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Even when I've been more on top of my email in the past, I've never really found the hassle
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of multiple inboxes worth it for me.
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Again, that's a side effect of the way I have structured my businesses, but I've just I've
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never found the payoff to be worth it.
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I have everything all go into one place.
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going to find inbox one application personal business email because honestly like email
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that is personal is not personal. Really. Like all of the email that I get that would
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be deemed going to a personal account. It's still like transactions and things that need
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to be checked upon. You know, like it's never really like my buddy sending me an email.
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People don't email me like they have other ways to contact me. Right. That like it tends
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to be all work no matter what email address it's going to.
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This one comes from Raphael.
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Grey has commented a couple of times about taking note of every idea that he has so he
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can get them off his mind and deal with them later.
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How does Grey deal with having ideas in bed right before sleeping?
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Does he pick up his phone and take notes or does he just let it go in hopes that he remembers
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the idea the next day?
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Okay, this is going to be really unhelpful, but I fall asleep very fast.
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So I get into bed and then it's morning.
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So this is not a problem that I really have to deal with.
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You made a disgruntled noise there, Myke.
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I'm guessing this is not your situation.
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No, it's not.
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My situation is I have to just wait until I can't be awake anymore.
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And so I do things.
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That's why you go to sleep?
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Yes, that's why I go to bed at like 2am, because it's like, body can't sleep.
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I like sleeping, hate going to sleep.
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Once I'm sleeping, it's awesome, don't want to stop it.
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But the act of like, going to do it, I hate it.
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So like I just would do things until I can't be awake anymore.
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There's like this weird thing like in my mind I feel like I'm just kind of just wasting
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time like I might as well just be reading Twitter for an hour and wait until like my
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eyelids are starting to close.
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I think everything in my life that would be deemed unhealthy, the way I approach sleep
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is the least healthy part.
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Like it's really bad.
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I can see though that it sounds like you and my wife are using the same sleep strategy
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which is only when exhaustion grasps you by the throat
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grips you and you cannot escape
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or is that like "I'm a little sleepy" I lay down boom almost immediately I'm asleep
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I'd hate that I would hate that
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well luckily you don't have to suffer from that Myke
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yeah or sleep next to you I guess because that would also drive me mad
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Yeah, let's not do that.