Cortex 59: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
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I'm Ike hi are you ready to be proactive
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and sharpen the saw to synergize our
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win-win solution today's the day today's
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the day seven Habits of Highly Effective
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People there was there was a couple of
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things that I was interested in talking
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about today one was you're surprisingly
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compelling 24-hour death stream oh did
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you like that yeah I did like that very
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so you had a new video in the CGT be
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great doom and gloom series that came
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out I think of it in my head I feel like
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it was very optimistic but okay the idea
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of living forever I'm not sure if it was
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supposed to be in a way that I was
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completely comfortable with but you you
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going alongside this video was a 24 hour
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livestream of an accurate representation
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of how many people died on earth in a
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day and it was fascinating it was like
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on in my house for like 45 minutes just
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in the background like I started
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watching it and then I just kind of
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walked away from the TV and it was
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playing and like I look back it's like
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5,000 I was like oh no that's enough it
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was it was too much to come back and see
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the numbers just getting bigger and
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bigger a little pile of skulls getting
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bigger and bigger yeah it was good that
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was a great idea it's one of those
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things that actually it end up coming
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out of a technical limitation so I have
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this idea originally of like okay I like
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this idea of this 24 hours of death as a
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visual representation of what's occurred
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like how do you how do you convey the
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magnitude of this thing because if you
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just you just say a big number like it
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means nothing
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to people whereas I feel like oh but
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together a little video like this it has
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more of a chance of having an impact you
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know any exactly that way that that you
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say like you start watching it and then
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you come back later and it's like oh my
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right eye well while I was watching the
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dish's 10,000 people died right yeah and
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so it's it has it has an impact it drove
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it home right that it was like I could
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just watch this mesmerizing animation
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where someone was getting their head cut
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off every time every second and they
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were bursting into flames I think this
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is what was occurring oh my apologies
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let's get the clothes of deaf correct I
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guess yeah but say I had this idea like
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okay I wanted to do this and you know
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we're like putting together like this 24
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hour long file and go to upload it to
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YouTube and I get a great great YouTube
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error message which is surprise videos
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are not allowed to be longer than 12
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hours mm-hmm it's like huh
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that's interesting because I know for a
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fact that there are videos on YouTube
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which are hundreds of hours long like
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there's there are definitely videos that
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are super long but it turns out that at
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some point in the past YouTube made a
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decision that they had enough of this
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tomfoolery with long videos and they
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decided to reduce the the absolute limit
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down to 12 hours which is also longer
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than any video and YouTube should be
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twelve hours is too long like why I mean
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I know you've found a reason for it
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right I was gonna say I have a very good
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reason why I would like a video that's
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longer than twelve hours thank you right
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but it shouldn't be because no one's
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watching that but actually I'm
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interested to know what your retention
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graphs are like on those videos well we
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can get into that later but so anyway I
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was I was super annoyed about this
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because I was like goddammit like I
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don't want to I don't want to break a
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thing up into two parts like I know that
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I'm going to have to break it up into
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two parts but then I feel like that it
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makes it not as as good when you're
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uploading it for the first time and so I
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was spinning this around in in my head
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and then like talking with some people
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a few people mentioned the suggestion of
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actually like hey can you get around
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this by live-streaming the thing and I
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was like wait a minute yes there is
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there is no limit on how long a live
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stream can be so that's what I ended up
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doing was okay I can get around this
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technical limit by making it live and
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then as soon as I realized that I
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thought oh it actually works better if
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it's live it's way back because people
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can't skip ahead alright like people
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can't just jump and it's buzzy yeah
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right there is this thing that this is
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what I found so compelling about it
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there was a thing on the internet that
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was showing me how many people were
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dying like it's morbid but like a car
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crash television right like you kind of
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you know it's there you can't help but
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mmm-hmm right and I kept checking in
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every now and then just to see how big
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the pile of skulls was like it was you
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know and like and I kind of had it in my
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mind to make sure to look before I ended
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right like I kind of I knew it sighted
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it around like 11:00 a.m. my time or
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something so kind of it was like 10:30
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or whatever and I just checked it and it
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was like old man but like it it kind of
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had that effect of it of like there is
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this thing that's happening which is
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showing this how can I not
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at least look at it so I think they
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worked really well it's a great idea
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well yeah I'm pretty pleased with the
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way that came out in the end I think
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that ended up being like much more
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interesting than the video itself in a
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way I was just doing this this live
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stream so I'm pretty happy with the way
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it with the way it came out yeah I liked
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the video but I was more interested in
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the in the live stream part like that
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was more exciting to me
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yeah the live stream part is definitely
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the more interesting part and and yeah
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so it was I'm still annoyed that I
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wasn't able to upload the whole thing as
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one continuous file so I did have to end
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up uploading there like the final
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conversion has two pieces I thought you
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could set a live stream as a video like
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you can just have it available you can
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but it will only save the last four
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hours oh that's silly yeah so we just
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also interesting when I realize like I
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know people do 24 hour long like charity
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fundraisers and it's like oh okay so
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there's just no record of that there's
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only a record of the last four hours of
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that because yes that was originally my
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thought was I was like hahaha
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fooled you YouTube like I'll just save
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the live stream and then ended like no
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it's not gonna work it only saves the
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last four hours but yeah so anyway this
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is just an interesting case of a an
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annoying technical limitation that I
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still genuinely wish wasn't there but
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that nonetheless ended up turning into a
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thing that is more interesting than it
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would have otherwise been so I feel like
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that it worked out in the end yeah
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because if you published the video I
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would just skip to the end right yeah
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everybody would have yeah but speaking
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of the audience retention graphs there's
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a there's a very funny thing in those
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audience retention graphs because there
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are little Easter eggs throughout the 12
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hours I think there's something like 20
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little Easter eggs that occur and when I
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loaded up the audience retention graphs
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you can see the spikes no areas where
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all the Easter eggs are how are people
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finding them
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well I think what's happening is someone
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sees it and then they jump back a couple
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seconds to say hey what did I just see
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that thing that I thought I saw right
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which then double counts the audience
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retention in that spot and then people
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leave comments I just saw Nicole are
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jumping to those locations but it is
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hilarious on the audience retention
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graph you can see spikes for exactly
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where every single one of the little
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Easter eggs are so that's one morning
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like there's like hey why the one at
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5:57 have a hound and why 7:51 did they
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have a briefcase I like the supposed to
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really needed to like they were upset
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right like why why the why questions are
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great and it is funny cuz when the
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livestream first went up I did I didn't
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enjoy all the comments where people were
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saying things like what does it mean
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like what does it mean I'll leave that
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for you to speculate speculate away
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about what if that's on you to work out
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it's very profound but you've got to
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figure it out yourself I'm looking at
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these now I've got sucked into the
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comments I want to see these two eggs
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like we got a podcast a record last year
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unless we record for 24 hours which I
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don't think it's a good idea remember
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then we won't be able to post it on
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YouTube unless we live stream at 24 hour
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long cortex which is not gonna happen
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Mike do you know that you have become an
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animated character on the internet
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finally right finally yeah that I have
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waited for a cartoon for years finally
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there is a cartoon of me since I was a
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kid I wanted to mike the cartoon and we
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have it now there's a fantastic I found
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this in the cortex subreddit um the
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person who created this video posted it
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hm butit is their YouTube channel I'll
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put a link in the show notes and they
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are putting together some fantastic
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cortex animated videos which I am
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enjoying immensely and I wanted people
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to see them because I think it's really
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great and that there's one of the
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previous episode there's one of some
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classic moments from all the episodes
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and I love seeing stuff like this and
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they really make me laugh and I enjoy
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them immensely and you really like being
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a cartoon character I love being a
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cartoon character this person has an
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almost spooky ability to capture
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movements that I think I
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make the way the way they animate my
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movements when talking to you is a lot
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of how I imagined they actually are so I
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think it's brilliant the one of these
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that I think is probably the best
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version is from I think it was our very
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first episode where we're talking about
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the screen screens and home screen icons
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and the the way they animate you when
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you're when you're asking about what I
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think about your home screen I think
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it's just it's just perfect yes people
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should go take a look at it like I think
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if there's but whether or not the way it
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is animated is the way it happens like
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it adds something to the audio which
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makes it sound like that's the way that
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it happens so it's it's really well done
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I'm always incredibly impressed by the
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way that people make these types of
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videos like I watch some for some of my
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favorite shows mm-hmm you know that
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there are some fantastic animated videos
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for my brother my brother and me oh yeah
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and it what I love about these types of
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videos is the way that people hear a
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thing they hear a thing but the way they
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interpret it adds so much more to it
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people are gonna be there I'm gonna be
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doing a signing at pod Con oh yeah so
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you're gonna be there at a booth yeah
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both people are gonna bring up things
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for you to sign maybe I don't know what
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that would be I guess what do I sign
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Mike Hurley merchandise people's iPods
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yeah so I'm gonna be their sign their
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December 10th it's gonna be at pod Con I
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is is what I'm getting it here and I
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see me please do and I'm gonna have I'm
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gonna make this poster print for people
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that come there will be a poster that I
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will sign and give to you are you
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bribing the people Mike it sounds like
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more of an incentive oh it's an
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incentive incentive there will be a
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poster that I'm currently working on
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with a very talented artist and I may be
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able to share the artwork beforehand
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just because I think it's probably gonna
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be amazing it's this person's awesome I
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people who are going to be showing up to
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see I was thinking about like taking a
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couldn't use it for anything like my
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say you know the amazingness that is
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gonna be bestowed upon you right that
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you will get okay I'm gonna suggest a
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different tack uh-huh you should take a
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picture that just shows them a corner of
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the poster yeah that's good I like that
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so you can understand how great it's
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gonna be but you don't get it I'm trying
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to help you I like it
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bribe the people to come Mike so this is
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this is my suggestion show a corner of
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the poster I will do that but yeah I'm
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genuinely very excited for pod con
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to exist for a while and the schedule
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involved in a few things so mm-hmm but
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yeah if you're gonna be there please
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come to my signing you'll get a poster
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and it will make me very happy signings
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man like if you have a dollar signing
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you have write something like that
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technically yes that there was there was
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there's one case where I ended up doing
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it was it was a very special set of
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outside and do signings we're not gonna
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look like sad sad OHS who are just all
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are on our own but if you're at a big
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audience is going to be at like the
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core-tex
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audience like you know it would be a
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long line if everybody was was going to
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a mic signing but the question is how
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many are going to pod con and so I
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that's understand right like I can
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understand cold sweats in your hands
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right where it's like like mic mic could
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fill a stadium full of people that we
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got all the core-tex people there but
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how many go to pod con right
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knows like what it's going to look like
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desire to bribe slash encourage people
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to go so I think that I think that's a
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good method tease the people with the
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excitement of what they get it a mic
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signing and to any cortex listeners if
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you go into pod con make sure to see mic
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make sure to bring your beard oil this
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book called the seven Habits of Highly
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it up this morning and yeah it's it's 25
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million copies sold and it's something
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like one of the top 20 best-selling
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business books of all time it's it's a
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next seven Habits like this is like an
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entire empire there are many spin-off
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around it like it is it is a big thing
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what I want to do is I want to go
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these books gave you that yeah like I
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frog there's a whole bunch of books that
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getting things done a long time ago
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so yeah reread the book finished it not
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30 minutes before we started recording
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today so I finish it yesterday
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yeah just like just like homework in
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real life where if a thing had to get
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like man I timed it right down to a 30
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minute buffer of when I could finish
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this book and I got it done just on time
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let's just pull back the cone a little
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bit more we're recording this episode
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like three days later than we were
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supposed to I wouldn't have got the book
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done in time so I was kind of pretty
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happy about that yeah yeah that is that
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travel plans that messed up our
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recording schedule but it was also a
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thing I like happy for her and they ever
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gonna finish this book in time I had
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like seven hours to go Davis it's long
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it's really long it's really long I want
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bad as I thought it was going to be I
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those frustrations in a bit more detail
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but I was not infuriated listening to
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this book like I was the e-myth
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revisited which by the way if you've
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never heard that episode of the show
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it's one of my favorites
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yeah yeah it's it's it's a it's a really
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good one to start with if ya if you're
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like recommending people come to the
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show like I think that's probably a
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great starting spot even if people
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haven't read the book I'll put a link in
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the show notes to that episode it was
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episode 21 January of last year I
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thought it was longer than that but yeah
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journey of last year episode 21 the myth
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revisited I recommend that one if you've
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not heard it I'll actually say if you
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recommend someone for the show but
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anyway I actually found this book
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interesting at times and sometimes
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useful in a way that like a myth I took
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one thing from it there was one thing
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than that I can actually was reading it
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can be like okay I know why this got as
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popular as it did like I have a lot of
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problems with it
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but on the whole there is good
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information in this book and it isn't it
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isn't infuriating like I wasn't
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screaming at my phone like I was when I
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was listening to e-myth yeah you you
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were really frustrated I hated that book
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it was it was everything I don't like
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about that type of thing that book had
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oh but like you know I couldn't I would
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have to take breaks right like if I was
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gonna sit down and listen to it for
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three hours I had to take a break like
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every 45 minutes cuz it there's just
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only so much of this I can take
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nonsense for a while right and I can I
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haven't it to like chill for a bit but
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I've found this one I was like going
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like I'm making more notes than I
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thought I would make mostly for me so um
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this book I can see why it is a big
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thing I can see why it why people really
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really like what it has to say hmm
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that's interesting to hear because part
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of my memory of the book and one of the
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reasons why I didn't feel like I wanted
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to read it again is because my my review
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when people have asked me about it has
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always been it's one good idea in a
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thousand pages this this was my memory
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read it again and see like does this
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hold up or does this not hold up and
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upon rereading this book
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I feel like this book defeated my soul I
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feel really huh beaten down from reading
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this book so I feel like we're having a
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little bit of opposite reactions with a
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myth and this one because a nemeth I
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felt like like I kept was defending
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there's some good ideas in here right
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think you could play the audio book of
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of this as a method of torture right to
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just make people divulge information by
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just looping it in their cell over an
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interesting okay I will say like there
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is a huge chunk of this book that I
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think is pointless yeah I mean as with
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all these books it could be dramatically
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shortened oh yeah oh but more but more
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than that like so even though this book
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totally defeated me I also have the
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understanding of like I I can see why
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this book was such a such a mammoth book
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like like a Rorschach test like people
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will it's so they in so many places that
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read into it their own their own
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situations but that like the amount of
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actual actionable material struck me as
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like incredibly small and and when I
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felt like I was reading was a like a
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Productivity book Markov chain like like
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this is just like an automatic AI
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generated endless string sentence of
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words in a Productivity book that your
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brain is constantly struggling to pull
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meaning out of and to find connections
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to and it just never ends okay just goes
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on forever and when I say that this book
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defeated me that the thing that was has
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like I started reading the book and I
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like read up to habit number two which
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from from before and then I realized
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like I'm reading this book but the
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reading is in quotes where I'm just
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pressing forward on the Kindle like not
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not even skimming but it's just like
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flip flip flip because my brain is this
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like trying to get through this thing
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like hey
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just let's just turn some pages and then
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we'll focus on the words in a little bit
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it's like oh god I can't stand this so I
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always make fun of you for reading the
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audiobook but I had to buy the audiobook
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because I was aware that at a certain
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point like I I physically cannot read
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this book there is there is no way I can
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force my eyes to look at the words and
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have them and have the meaning go into
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my head it was just completely
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impossible so I switched to the
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audiobook which I never recommend people
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do for this kind of boto and then I felt
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like I was being brainwashed for six
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more hours so it's like I I feel like I
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have come out of an experience somewhat
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traumatized and I'm gonna I'm gonna give
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a no recommend to this book but I'm very
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happy to talk about some of the habits
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and the ideas that are contained inside
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of it but I I cannot think of a book in
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the genre that I can now say that I like
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less than this book a kiss book is the
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worst book it's put a pin in that for
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one second because I have a theory but I
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wanted to say about the audiobook mm-hmm
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I know that the audio books are torture
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but the reason I do it is because I can
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integrate it into my life right yeah
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yeah I don't have to like take the time
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to sit and read the book because I don't
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do a lot of sitting and reading time in
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this way right but like I can be
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traveling as I have been and listen I
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can be playing stardew valley and listen
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so that's why I do this right like I I
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do that because it I can integrate the
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audio book into my working life and
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personal life
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easier than I can the physical book or
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oh yeah yeah I completely understand
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that and that's what I was doing as well
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like I've been I've been traveling a
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whole bunch and so it's like okay great
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while I'm standing on line at security
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right I can hear about how we're gonna
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synergize our plus-one ideas and it's
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just like I was no longer reading the
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book I was simply not listening to the
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audiobook and so what I ended up the
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final the final stage in my journey of I
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have to read this so I can talk about it
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at least a little bit on a podcast was
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no joke
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listening to the audiobook while looking
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at the Kindle version was was the only
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news it was like the only way I could
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force the words to mean things in my
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head because I was aware I guess after a
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while even with the audiobook it's like
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I can't I can't listen so I had the
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weird experience towards the end of
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audiobook cranked up to like two and a
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book while the audiobook is playing in
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my head so that that's how I finished
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the book this morning so here is my
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theory I have a theory about this which
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I kind of decided on pretty early and it
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helped me get through this book okay
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this book was published in 1989 right my
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theory is part of the reason that at
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first I was finding it infuriating and
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why I believe you find it infuriating is
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this book feels like you take every
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other productivity book ever written put
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it into a blender and seven habits pops
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out and I think it's the reverse of that
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this was the book the start at a lot of
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this stuff so so many of the things that
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feel like tropes of terrible business
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books because you've heard them a
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million times because of this one so
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like as when I started thinking about
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that I approached this book differently
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I was giving it more leeway because this
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book isn't trying to be annoying I am
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annoyed by this book because every
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marketing book business book a
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management material ever made since 1989
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is trying a ripoff the seven habits and
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when I kind of this is my theory when I
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was able to accept that I was able to
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give this book more leeway and that's
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why I think I wasn't someone oyd about
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it ya know you're totally right about
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that IIIi think that that's not a theory
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that that might as well just be like an
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accepted fact in the universe right that
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this like when you this is this is the
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book that had to introduce the idea of
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that that raises the idea of synergy in
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the language right it's the first book
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that starts talking about all of that
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stuff and Mike if my comparison for this
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think of the the animated version of
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ghost in the shell as a move
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audiences to watch because it's set up
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every single science fiction trope for
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the next thirty years so when you watch
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the original it feels like this thing is
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incredibly unoriginal because you've
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you've seen all of the spin-offs and all
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of the versions for the next 30 years on
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it like without a doubt seven Habits
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reading it now has that problem and
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you've read so many more of these types
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of books than I have so you have read
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this book a hundred and fifty times but
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my problem with it isn't that like it
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isn't it isn't just that it's like yes
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this this is this this endless blender
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of random sentences from other books
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because I was also thinking that very
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much while I'm reading it it's like okay
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this is the foundation of it but it
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still felt like even even with that in
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mind like when he's talking about these
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various things there's just so little
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there or the like the ideas don't even
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make sense like his his whole chapter on
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I just I pick up pick up on synergy just
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as an example right because this is like
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idea that has infected the business
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world or people are always synergizing
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their global strategies right but even
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even that whole chapter is like even
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here his eye his concept of synergy it's
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not like oh the original person had a
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great idea and it has it isn't it has
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since been distilled down to a
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meaningless jargon word it's like no it
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was born as a meaningless jargon yeah
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like he's using it wildly and
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consistently in a way that makes no
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sense across a whole bunch of different
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analogies so so that's why I don't feel
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like ah this thing was the thing that
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started it and it got mutated over time
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it's like it was it was born in this
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inconsistent horrific way yeah so yeah
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there are so many buzz words and phrases
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in this book he creates the by the end
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of it you feel like you're in a bowl of
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soup like so I've this is this is from
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habit 7 this was a note that's this at
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the end right so I've made this note and
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I say by the point in this book there
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are so many buzzwords that he uses that
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it is almost impossible to distinguish
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them from each other right yeah so I'll
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give a few of these when we may talk
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about them emotional bank account PC
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balance intra dependence interdependence
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personal renewal daily private victory
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synergize win-win solutions by the end
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of the book he is throwing these words
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like candy and to the point that you're
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like does this word actually exist I
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believe by the end of this book that the
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word intro dependence existed because
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it's like I've heard it so many times
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now that it must be true and it is the
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intro dependence is the idea of working
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with others so instead of being
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independent you're interdependent
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it's either inter or intra I also
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couldn't understand it because here's
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another thing I have a problem with
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basically all business books I'm almost
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convinced this is my lover of my
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theories coming out of this book I am
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always convinced that audiobook
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narrators are the people narrating
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audiobooks this one is narrated by
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stephen r.covey the guy who wrote the
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book that they pronounce words weirdly
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just to make sure that you're paying
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attention yes yes there's a few of those
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in here or it's like this is a normal
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word dude in a way I've never heard
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before he goes rooms it's like the
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longest word with a V in it it's like I
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don't understand what you're doing like
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they said some words that nobody says
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them like this I am convinced that they
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do this just so you pay attention
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because you're like I don't understand
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the word that he just used it's my
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blowing a couple of months so I'm now
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getting worked up now so here a couple
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more frustrations about this book the
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first habit begins at two hours and 22
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minutes in I have the unabridged it's
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again don't know why I do this but my
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version includes a foreword which is
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mind blowing Lee just up in the
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stratosphere where he's talking about
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his son and I just can't believe it's
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true like like with many of these
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stories there are many stories in this
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book where I'm like okay coffee that
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does that didn't happen something like
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that may have happened but that didn't
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happen and the idea is that his son was
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failing in everything he was terrible at
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terrible F athletics just couldn't get
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anything right in his life they started
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to apply the seven Habits to him before
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they became the seven Habits right like
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they just tried to change their behavior
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and he ended up being the most popular
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kid in school homecoming king twice
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grade-a valedictorian and the captain of
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the football team right anyone the Nobel
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no I did a little bit of investigation
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and his son was a successful American
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football player mm-hmm but I don't
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believe the rest of it like I can't
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maybe he was all of those things but
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beforehand was not failing unpopular and
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couldn't run but like I just can't in my
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mind believe that this is true and the
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thing is they may be true if it is
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whatever but when you read these books
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you like this can't be because you know
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there are lies throughout this book he
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also found a magical hotel by the way
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which is like well oh my god yes I have
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that highlighted we can get to that
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but yeah this is one of the things that
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I didn't remember about the book at all
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and I was astounded on there on the
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reread is everything relates to his
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children and his family it's it was
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astounding how much of this book is
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focused around marriage yeah so many
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things like this is a business book but
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like honestly the major focus of these
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seven habits is applying them to your
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family life and I was like what is this
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book like this was it was so different
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to what I was expecting in that way
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everything is to do with his family even
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like delegating his son to mow the lawn
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right like oh my god the mowing the lawn
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story yeah but but this this is exactly
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the kind of thing where it's just like I
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don't I don't believe these stories that
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you're telling about your children like
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oh yeah because they're he's always
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telling stories about some kind of Leave
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It to Beaver perfect family where
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they're just they're having
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conversations and then people just
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realize oh I understand everything now
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and and like stuff just works out
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perfectly fine even when it doesn't
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there's something's I'm like it's the
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stories are crazy there's one that I
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highlighted as to me a perfect example
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like I'm sorry the this story didn't
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happen where I don't know if you
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remember this one but he's talking about
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not wanting to go see Star Wars with his
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daughter and yeah and and the daughter
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says Oh dad all right I know you don't
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like Star Wars you've slept through
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before right you don't you don't want to
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see this movie and then and then his
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daughter was like how old is the
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daughter in this story which
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she says quote but you know why you
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don't like Star Wars it's because you
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don't understand the philosophy and
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training of a Jedi Knight right what I
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said you know you know the things you
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teach dad those those same things you
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teach are the training of a Jedi Knight
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and then I said really let's go see Star
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Wars and we did she sat next to me and
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gave me the new paradigm I became her
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student her learner
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it was totally fascinating and I could
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begin to see out of the new paradigm the
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whole way a Jedi Knights basic
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philosophy and training is manifested in
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different circumstances right it's like
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this didn't happen this there's no way
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that your daughter's like let me tell
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you about the philosophy and training of
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a Jedi Knight because also like this
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movie is taking place in the 80s like
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this is this did not happen there is no
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way that your daughter was like let me
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explain to you how what Jedi Knights do
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is exactly what you do dad you're just
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like a Jedi company or a Jedi yeah we
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wanted to be a Jedi as well this is all
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about I read that story because that one
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is particularly yeah but but just
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imagine like every single page there is
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some quick story about his family and
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like learning things from his children
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or or teaching things to his children in
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ways that when you're on the 100th one
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of them like this is not believable like
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this is crazy I think the worst one for
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me is this is towards the end of the
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book he's talking about how him and his
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family took a year away to Hawaii oh my
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god yeah
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and he talks about how you know the kids
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would go to school and then he would
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pick them up on like it's got like a
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honda trail master or something trail
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cycle which is a motorbike where he said
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to all four of the family got on the
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bike and would drive like i would sit on
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my wife would sit behind me kids been
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between us and one of them when my knee
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is like wow no it's like you circus
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performers what are you doing well that
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that kind of description to me reads
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like a thing where when you're a
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psychologist and you start to unwind
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with someone false memories that they
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have knows like oh yeah we were all
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yeah it's like no that can't possibly
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have been the case right let's let's
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start comparing this against real-world
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things like there's no way that you were
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doing this in the way that you're
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describing and then he would talk about
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how they would sit on the beach and just
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talk for hours right like that every
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single day and then he's talk telling
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the story about how his wife would only
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buy Frigidaire appliances which it's a
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company right they make like white goods
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and stuff mmm and if this was apparently
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a sore spot in their marriage because
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she would insist on these Frigidaire
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appliances and for some reason this
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caused huge problems with tons of
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emotional baggage that because every
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time they needed to buy an appliance
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they had to go to the next town and they
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both were just dreading this
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conversation was coming and every time
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it came it was like the end of their
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marriage and they had so much trouble
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with it and then she happened to
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remember that her father's business was
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saved by Frigidaire how would you not
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remember that
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how would you why would you know you had
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this like undying love for this company
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anymore but one of the things I always
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projects that you have and his problems
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rich person problem so he talks about
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building your next orchard right and
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it's like well you know you need to you
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need to do all it like it is there's
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literally an example in the book at one
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point right but but what I were like
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what I will appreciate about that is ok
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he may be giving a bunch of examples but
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he works through like the specifics of
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this thing of like here's here's a thing
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whole bunch of like parables about an
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imaginary family that are vaguely
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related to the ideas that he's pushing
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in the book and it's like okay this is
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no action and if if you read the book
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what you can also see and and what
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philosophy which there's a very weird
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emphasize is this idea but I didn't
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listen today afterward I got today on
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that 7 haven't also come done I'm out
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yeah but his philosophy in large part he
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about making decisions to say to stay
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constant with your principles right like
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this is this is like over and over this
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is the drumbeat is like this the secret
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to living a good life is to have good
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principles and stick to them all right
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yeah that's the whole problem right like
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that like that's the hard thing to do is
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to make the right decisions but so many
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of these things are like you need to set
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out some some ideas and then just stick
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to them it's like dude just sticking to
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them is the hard part and what I
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absolutely love is in this ridiculous
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story where he talks about having his
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son mowing the lawn it is the author's
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once in the entire book where he
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explicitly not
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like doing something is hard because his
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kid promises to mow the lawn and then
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doesn't and then when he calls his kid
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out on it his kid cries and says oh dad
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it's so hard and his in his internal
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monologue he says like oh what's so hard
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like you didn't do anything and then he
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has one line in the whole book where he
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the principles right and then just blows
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right past it and it's like you've got a
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thousand pages upon which every page is
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just like the secret to making good
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decisions is to make good decisions and
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it's like there's nothing here like
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there's nothing here to talk about and
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it's as weird thing about choices and
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there is there is a moment which blows
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my mind in the afterword at the very end
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of the book which really sums it up
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where he's talking about choices and he
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literally literally just says something
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like if your parents abused you as a
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child that does not mean you have to
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abuse your own children right you can
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choose not to abuse your children and
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it's like oh oh is that the problem like
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people are just making them it's it's on
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my grizzy alright like oh okay it's like
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thank thanks for solving like these
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these systemic societal problems by
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telling people who do bad things not to
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choose to do the bad things right it's
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so yeah there are more examples of this
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so one of the one of the many examples
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of relationship advice in this book
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there is somebody who came up to him at
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the end of a conference many people come
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up to coffee at the end of his speaking
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engagements two stories oh my god yeah
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was this the woman the nurse like who's
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working with the old man or is this
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another one it's guys like me and my
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wife we don't love each other anymore oh
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I have that highlighted too oh my god
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it's a joke just love them but it's like
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but we don't get a you just a lot you
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just keep saying over and over again
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just love them just love them and
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they're saying that you know love is a
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thing that is constructed by books and
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it's not a real thing and all you have
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to do is be attentive and it's it's like
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some interesting stuff in this advice
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but the way that he gives it it's just
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like we just love them like he's that is
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his advice just love them you just keep
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saying over and over again until the
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scales fall from the person's eyes and
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they can finally see as part of coffees
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teaching I think this is worth reading
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word for word this this weird like how
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to love how to love your wife thing it's
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like okay listen there's like strap in
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for a moment here yeah okay you got a
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wild ride okay so so here's relationship
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advice from Stephen Covey at one seminar
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where I was speaking on the concept of
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productivity a man came up and said
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Stephen I like what you're saying but
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every situation is so different look at
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my marriage I'm really worried my wife
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and I just don't have the same feelings
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for each other that we used to I guess I
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just don't love her anymore and she
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doesn't love me what can I do love her I
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replied I told you the feeling just
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isn't there anymore love her you don't
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understand the feeling of love just
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isn't there then love her if the feeling
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isn't there that's a good reason to love
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her but how do you love when you don't
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love my friend love is a verb love the
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feeling is the fruit of love the verb so
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love her end of chapter but like but
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that that is another version of the same
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story that gets told too many times
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which is like just choose to do the
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better thing and it's like okay thanks
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thanks man I'll be sure to do that it
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that that one is that one is is just
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astounding yeah but there's many people
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at conferences and children and like
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these these are all like tropes of this
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genre but this one has so many weird
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ones and it's like by the end I start
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feeling almost personally offended by
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the constant refrain of just do the
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thing that will make your life better
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is that is not an answer like that is
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not an action right you can't like the
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way to love your wife is just love her
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right like okay
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let's talk about the habits I have more
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of these things to talk about as we go
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through by when we start talking about
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the habits Liz if we don't start talking
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about the habit whenever we will never
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stop but we'll never get to them so let
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lets let's go through that again
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I wanted to state my position I am
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infuriated by all of these things I'm so
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nemeth they were just brittle endless
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breaks here where he was talking about
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some interesting stuff and I do believe
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and or independents and then four to six
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interdependence which is working with
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putting first things first so habit one
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understanding a circle of influence and
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your circle of concern so the things
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concerned about the things that you need
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to try and change and not to just sit
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problems to happen before you take
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action you should be out there and
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taking action and a lot of it is about
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understanding the language that you use
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saying things instead of I have to do
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something you say that you choose to do
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something or instead of I wish I had
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do this and I really like this as a
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start because it was like saying to me
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the the reader think about yourself
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think about the way that you approach
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problems think about the way that you
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approach opportunities and how you refer
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to them and try and understand the
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things that you are able to change and
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the things that you are able to kind of
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influence to change and I found it to be
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an interesting way to start off and it's
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something that I know that in my life I
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there was definitely a period of time
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for me when I was in
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branch management where I was not being
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proactive and I was more focused on the
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fact that these bad things are just
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happening to me and I'm not you know and
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there's nothing I can do about it
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rather than what I ended up working out
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later was like why am I doing this I
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don't like this I need to go out and
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change something so I did actually quite
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like this it felt like a good start it
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was just a shame that it started at 2
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hours and 22 minutes yeah just a small
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note before we move on well you did note
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that the first the first habit comes in
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at 2 hours and whatever minutes when one
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of the remarks that I have here in my
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Stephen Covey business starts at exactly
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one minute until there was a little bit
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of a thing to notice that yeah it's
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interesting because in the actual book
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there's not a lot of it right because
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he's talking more about being a teacher
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because that's what he was when he was
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writing this book mostly but the
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foreword is after this book has changed
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his life and he is now a management
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consultant right so he's doing these
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seminars and stuff which he mentions in
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the book but like if I'm reading it
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correctly like it wasn't what it ended
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up becoming mm-hmm like he doesn't make
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reference to the Covey business empire
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builds based upon the 7 habits during
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the book because doesn't exist yet
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but forward is full of it right which is
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hilarious right the Clio comes right out
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of the gate but I just I thought that
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was just kind of funny and I know it's
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whatever but I also I also agree like
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the first chapter it was interesting and
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I'll say like in fairness to the book I
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think if it catches you at the right
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moment in your life I genuinely think
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that that first chapter can open up a
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bunch of people's minds to the way that
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they think about things yeah purely the
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language stuff like that surely the
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language stuff the most interest one of
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the most interesting things of the
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entire book actually for me because yeah
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really made me think about huh
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how do I say this stuff and why do I say
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it that way yeah you know like I have to
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do this why do I have to do anything I
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can choose right right and I found it
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really interesting yeah it was and it
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reminded me of a little language
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which of court was like a totally
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hopeless lost cause as a teacher but but
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when I used to have kids come up and say
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like Oh like I gave him a bad grade like
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no you earned that grade
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right or like I didn't give you a bad
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grade like you earned a bad grade just
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because again it's good paper that I
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ended up changing until it became bad
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right like that bad when you gave it to
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yeah and just like like just just
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changing a little bit of the language
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around that it's like you you are an
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active participant in this process all
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right you're you're not just sitting
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there and I'm handing out grades like
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there's a thing that's happening between
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the two of us and I do I do like I said
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I think if you're at the right stage in
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your life that this might this might
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just catch you in the in the right
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moment and I don't know I don't know
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what the timeline of this is but um I
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was just wondering because a lot of this
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reminded me of I have a relative who is
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a psychologist and works with like
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people who've been through some trauma
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and unwinding them about that and and
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talking about the process of teaching
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people to interrupt their own thoughts
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like teaching people to catch themselves
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thinking in terms of the world is doing
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something to them versus you are an
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actor in the world and and there's just
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this variant like I talked to her about
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like it sounds very interesting like the
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way that she she works with people to
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say like if you have a fear of heights
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like how do you work someone out through
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that and and part of it is like this
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change of you are you are an actor in
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the world like you are not the result of
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all of the actions upon you so it was
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just kind of reminded me about this
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thing which as I've gone through some of
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that sort of stuff and read some of his
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cognitive behavioral therapy like I
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guess that's what the times in my life
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like when I was struggling with some of
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my work stuff this was a great help to
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me was was going through some of this
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stuff because there are some very
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valuable things in that right like the
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the idea of understanding that like you
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can't control everything
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things happen and how do you react to
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them and like how do you change the way
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that you think and say stuff to be
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better in the world like it's it is a
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very powerful thing
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and when I was reading this part this
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well.when habit one was being read to me
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by mr. Covey himself I was reminded of a
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lot of these types of lines and it was
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like okay this is good that's
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interesting okay so you saw the
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similarities to that too yeah I've only
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just heard about this in like a
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secondhand way and I just think like
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okay this this sounds like a very
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similar idea and at least talking to my
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family member who does it seems like if
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you've got serious business about
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behavior change in humans this seems to
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be one of the most effective ways to go
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about it like as far as as far as we
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know right now I also I did just really
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like the I think there is a way that he
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phrased something which is a better way
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of phrasing an idea that you and I have
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sometimes spoken about like how we don't
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really follow the news right orient or
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intentionally not following a whole
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bunch of things and I'm always I'm
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always trying to encourage people to
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just sort of I don't really like be less
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aware of the world but in a sense I kind
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of been like focus on the things that
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you can do but I did really like his
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phrasing of this idea that that
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everybody has this circle of things that
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they're concerned about and that circle
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is larger than the things that you can
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influence and I did think that language
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change was is an interesting way to
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frame it because it's like oh of course
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people get trapped and caught up in
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constantly thinking about the things
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that are inside their circle of concern
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but that are outside their circle of
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influence and I just I thought like
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that's a really interesting way to
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differently frame this idea and I think
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that is also again like maybe for a
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person at the right moment that idea can
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be really liberating to recognize that
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like yes there are there are many things
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you may be concerned about over which
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you have absolutely no influence and so
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you have to make a decision about not
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obsessively thinking about that stuff or
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working to expand your circle of
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influence so that you can actually do
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something about it
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that is no longer out outside of your
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power so I I thought that was also like
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a good way to frame this concept of like
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selective ignorance in a way habit 2 is
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begin with the end in mind now I thought
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that this habit went off the rails
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incredibly quickly but turn me around so
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this habit is about envisioning what you
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want in the future so you can plan and
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work towards it
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work towards it
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and to be effect and the idea is to be
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effective you need to act based on
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principles and constantly reviewing a
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mission statement that you create so
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there are two main things in this part
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which is one the envisioning of the
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future and then the second is the
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mission statement now
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I it was really interesting to me
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because these things were both
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introduced and my mind was changed about
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each of them in a 180 so the first is
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the way he begins talking about
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envisioning your future is let's picture
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your funeral and my eyes nearly roll dry
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all my I do I had the exact same
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experience of like and he's the idea is
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what would you like to hear people say
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about you like and the idea is someone
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that you work with someone who would
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talk about your character and someone
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who would be a friend or family member
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and what difference would you like to
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have on people's lives and he says to
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work out like you know write down what
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you would want and by the end of this
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whilst he was clearly going for a shock
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factor with the let's picture your
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funeral I found it an interesting
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exercise because trying to think about
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what do I want to be thought as people
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that I work with people that I care
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about how do I want them to think of me
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like how would I want them to describe
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me it doesn't need to be at my funeral
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right but there was a bit too much but
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what Waddell and I found that it's don't
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worry Mike yeah I found that to be an
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interesting exercise that I took
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something from write like I wrote some
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stuff down and I was like I I like this
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this is a good thing to think about
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because then how does that affect your
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life and the things that you do like if
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you want to be by the end of your life
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seen as these three or four things how
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take to make sure you don't deviate from
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them I found that to be very interesting
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so beginning with the end in mind so
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setting up your plan now for how you
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want to be seen at the end I kind of
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like them yeah I also couldn't deal with
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the funeral thing so much it was silly
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yeah and for me it's it's overblown and
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we really pompous in it in a way yeah
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like oh he's surrounded by all these
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these loving people nobody nobody has a
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better thing to do on a Tuesday
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afternoon and then go to your funeral
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right it's like whatever but but it
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again it does it does have a point
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life scale is too big but it is an
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interesting question when people are
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working on projects of I kind of like to
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phrase it it like what is the best thing
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that could possibly come out of what
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you're working on right now like if like
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if everything went absolutely great
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what's the what's the biggest possible
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upside of this thing that you're working
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on and and very often like if you sort
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of think about that you can realize that
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some some projects just aren't worth
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spending the time on but but people can
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end up starting them I think because
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they're sort of skipping this idea of
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thinking about what does the final
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version of this look like so yeah I
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think the the whole arc of your life
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doesn't doesn't really work for me but I
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I think this is a valuable concept on a
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smaller scale of have a clear idea in
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your mind of what you're trying to
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achieve and and that will help direct
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your actions towards what it is you
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actually want to need to do in order to
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make that happen
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then the second part of this is the
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personal mission statement which is the
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thing that you create and adapt an
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update throughout your life to try and
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keep you on the course
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towards what you want to be remembered
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for and I was like that's an interesting
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idea until the personal mission
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statement became three - four - five -
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six - seven paragraphs long I was
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expecting a sentence or two right like a
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real kind of like a thing you could put
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on the wall and you could look at it
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every day and be like that's what I want
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to be but these patient personal mission
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statements were like novella lengths for
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each person that was talking about them
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and it completely lost me right like
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rising like Covey's not come he's not a
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brief guy right now it's not anything
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that his his personal mission statement
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would be like let's sit down and write a
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little novella but then like every
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example he was giving for these totally
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100% real people was the same right and
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it was like it was so
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referring to me because it built built
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me up right to this idea I was like I am
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on board with this this is really great
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and then it was like you've you've
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destroyed it because I don't want to
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have to sit on a beach for an hour like
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you do every year to write my mission
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statement like this is something that if
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I'm gonna do this I want it to be a
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short thing he actually at one point
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compares it in length and importance to
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the American Constitution right do you
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understand that maybe you've gone too
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far at this point right and also that's
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that's probably a big ask I like someone
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who's reading this book and is trying to
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turn their life around you're like look
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just sit down and write a constitution
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for you yeah whoa so again like I might
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take this and twist it right and and
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because I I have now the things that I
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think about right like what what do I
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want to be remembered as maybe I should
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try and turn that into something which
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is a bit a little bit more realistic for
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me so it's like this again this is why I
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am a little bit more on board at this
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book than a myth because you know we're
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not that far into it and I've come away
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with some things that was not perfect
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I actually think work pretty well mm-hmm
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you know like this circle of influence
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circle concern I think is very
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interesting and it it perfectly explains
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something that I struggled to explain to
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people same way that you do and the idea
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of beginning with the end in mind and
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kind of how you want to move towards
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creating something which can encapsulate
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that there's some interesting stuff in
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there for me before we move on Mike
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though before we get on to habit three I
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just want to pause here for a moment to
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point out that habit two is when Stephen
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Covey visits the same magic hotel yes
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that isn't even a three visitors point
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I'll actually had almost like a childish
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Glee of like oh my god I think I was
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walking through Covent Garden and I
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think I started laughing out loud when
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he when he was talking about his magic
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hotel our favorite part of the e-myth
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revisited is this hotel that the author
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goes to which is completely fictional
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exist in real life yeah I did some
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digging apparently this hotel is a chain
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and it does exist but again I don't
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believe that it goes the way that it
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does where this hotel created their own
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personal mission statement which just
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funnily enough is the same connector
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that he uses when the book is not been
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published because apparently that's the
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thing and that have literally everybody
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in the company from the housekeeping to
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the janitors to the bellboys to the
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everything everybody sat down and was a
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hundred percent engaged in creating this
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personal mission statement like don't
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lie to me tell me if this thing exists
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that's fine but it wasn't like that it
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just doesn't work like that yeah there's
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there's several things here I mean
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according to the book this mission
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statement for the hotel was the hub of a
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great wheel it spawned the thoughtful
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more specialized mission statements of
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particular groups and employees and it
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was used as the criteria for every
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decision that was made it clarified what
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people stood for how they related to the
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customers how they related to the to
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each other alright this is this is one
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of these moments and there's there's a
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example that happens a few pages earlier
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which is a similar thing which I don't
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know how to describe it but I think of a
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kind as a kind of CEO disease where okay
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let's say this hotel existed and let's
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say the hotel got everybody from the
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janitors to the CEO together and they
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did all work on a mission statement and
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some and Marana and a document was
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created I don't know about you but my
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experience doing that kind of stuff like
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when I was working for someone is that
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the rank-and-file employees are all
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thinking like this is a total BS day
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where we have to have a silly pointless
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meeting and the people on top seem to
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think that something amazing has
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occurred and as there's I could there's
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like a great difference in the
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experience of what people think is
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happening in the room right and and so
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it's like even if this happens and I
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believe it is like I just don't believe
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that the like the janitors at the hotel
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are like you know what I feel really on
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board with the value and position of
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this hotel like I just don't believe
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that I think that the janitors are busy
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thinking like man I got a lot of stuff
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to clean up today and and this meeting
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is just making me have to stay after
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hours to work longer like I think that's
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what's really happened
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when this when this occurs the closest
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I've ever gotten to this I worked for a
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company when I was in college where it's
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a big company it's a big department
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store chain in the UK where they
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distribute the company's profits to the
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employees ok right there that is
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genuinely meaningful right that's it
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that's a different thing because it's
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not like words on a page it's money in
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your pocket this is a huge company make
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a lot of money and every year every
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single person gets a bonus which is an
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incentive of their salary from
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interesting the person who is pushing
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shopping carts through the parking lot
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to the CEO everybody gets the same
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percentage obviously the amount differs
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but everybody gets the same percentage
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that percentage shrinks or grows
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depending on how well the company does
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and I saw things in that working for
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that company that I have never seen
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since like for example the last person
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who leaves the staff changing room turns
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the lights off at night because the
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electricity bill goes towards the bonus
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like little things like that where I saw
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a lot more buying in that company than
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I've seen in any other company because
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there is an actual thing that you can
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point to to show that if we all work
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towards this together we get something
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yeah that is it that is a perfect
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example of what I always feel like what
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really matters is it's not there's not
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words it's not trying harder it's a
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structure that encourages or rewards the
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actual behavior that you want all right
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and you know it in these in this book
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it's so clear that is like if you're the
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leader of a company your words are just
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our magic pixie dust that spread on your
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employees and then and then they just
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behave in ways that you want them to do
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it's like that is that is not the way it
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is and yeah your your description of
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that is interesting that's like oh look
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if you set up an actual structure that
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encourages the behavior that you want
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you're probably going to get more of the
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behavior that you want but the but the
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thing is like that might cost you in
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other ways but you can't you can't just
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say costless words and get the same
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results have it three put first things
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so this talks about the difference
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between leadership and management
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leadership in the outside world begins a
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personal vision and personal leadership
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and it also took switch all of that
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stuff leadership and management I have
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no time for I've heard too much of it I
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can't talk about it I have literally no
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personal notes about that entire part of
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the book because I could give a crap
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about the difference between leadership
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and management yeah right yeah that this
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kind of stuff is like skim skim skim but
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but for me habit 3 but first things
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first this is where when I say my review
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was one good idea in a thousand pages
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this is the chapter that to me had the
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one good idea yes and I I you know
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wouldn't you know what I'm going for I
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knew you were gonna like this right okay
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yeah so I don't know if this is here's a
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question I don't know if this is
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original to Stephen Covey like I've I
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was I was trying to do a little bit of a
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digging of digging around and it seems
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like this idea predates him but it
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doesn't matter because this is the first
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place that I came across this idea where
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he talks about time management matrix
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and the time management matrix is this
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a whole bunch
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waise and and and really really feeling
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decision about in the universe of the
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infinite number of things that you can
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book that I think benefits from he has
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conversation with someone and then the
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phone rings while you're talking to them
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like the phone is the thing that is
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also like he you know he's talking about
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work on that are not urgent but
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important are also the things that give
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you more time later because like you're
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establishing a much more solid
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foundation about how your routine and
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how your work life goes and so this to
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me is like the core of the book is this
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habit 3 and I think it's the the most
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valuable per page section of the book so
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of one of the things that comes out of
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things right from knowing that you have
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a better yes available to you yeah yeah
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being able to say no and understanding
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how they would say no and actually
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saying though but the idea of the second
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part of that which is because you know
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there are better yeses available to you
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it's very interesting to me like
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understanding and what is important to
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you so you can help better gauge
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opportunities like if you get something
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that comes to you which is urgent but
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not important
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because there might be something that is
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urgent and important that you will need
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to deal with soon and like a lot of
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these like meetings many meetings that
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might come up immediately say no to
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write the qidan maybe don't need to be
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something that you know is gonna be
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there which is important for you so the
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idea of knowing you have better yes is
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available understanding what is
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important to you and what is urgent to
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you and focus on those things and then
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finding ways to delegate and or not do
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the other stuff very powerful way of
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thinking about it and you know drawing
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that he talks about I've drawn it out in
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it's difficult to explain but simple to
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say and you can find this stuff and I'll
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find some links and put them into the
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notes so you can see what it looks like
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if you can actually see it it starts to
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make a lot more sense the rest of this
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didn't care it was just happening to me
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me about time management because the
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tools are not the same anymore and I
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know some of the fundamental purposes
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and the fundamental ideas will be the
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same but here's at points talking about
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specific functions and tools and like
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planners and notebooks it's like no like
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I might or might not use something like
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this but there are better systems out
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there now stuff like bullet journaling
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which I'm more interested in looking at
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than listening to Stephen Covey in 1989
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telling me how to manage my time I feel
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like a pre-internet age book is maybe
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not the best place to get this stuff
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ya know it's not good for this stuff and
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while I do really like that section and
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and you know it's it's maybe like three
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or four pages where he's going a few how
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to think about this then I feel like oh
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the book the book briefly elevates to
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something good and then it quickly
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descends because at the end that there's
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there's a section where where he's
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posing the question to himself about
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like but how do you know what is
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important and like well that's it that's
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a good question all right Leila how do
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you know what is important in your life
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and the answer is your principle Center
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your self-awareness and your
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consciousness
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can provide a high degree of intrinsic
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security guidance and wisdom to empower
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you to use your independent will and
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maintain integrity to that which is
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truly important that's like go to hell
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man right like there's not an aunt like
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you'll just like this is this is again
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like the recurring theme of like you'll
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just make good decisions like oh you'll
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just know what's truly it was like don't
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say anything if you're gonna say that
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because you might as well not say
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anything in a bit but yeah it the the
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after that section like the chapter
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rapidly descends and I do have to say
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we're up to we're up to habit 3 and from
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from this point on the book to me
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descends rapidly into worthlessness like
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three chapters and you could take those
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three first three chapters and decrease
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them by 75% and get out out from the
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book most of what you're going to get
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out of it okay so I'm mostly agree of
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you and I wonder if this is a thing
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about me and you as opposed to the book
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the first three chapters are focus
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mostly on working on your own skills and
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how you make yourself more effective the
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next three are about working with other
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people in what seems to be focused on
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large groups and lots of people and I
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think that there is a lot of this stuff
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which is like how are you more effective
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in a business meeting with 12 people in
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the room how are you more effective in
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doing a deal with a multinational
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corporation like things that I think
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that me and you have mostly moved away
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from in our lives because that's not the
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type of work that interests us like we
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are more focused on being independent
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opposed to being a cog in an a huge
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machine which I think habits four or
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five and six seem to focus a lot more on
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like they seem to be really focused on
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working in a corporation that's what I'm
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trying to get to with this like they
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seem to be way more folk
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on how do you become the best employee
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out of the 10,000 employees of your
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company and I wonder if maybe me and you
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don't take so much because I don't I
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didn't really like all of the stuff that
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I like is in one two and three four five
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and six there is some nuggets in there
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that are interesting but there is like
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one or two of the inhabits that are just
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completely pointless to me mm-hmm
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and I wonder if it's just something
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about how me and you think or if they
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are mostly that way I don't know yeah
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there is something to that that this is
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less focused to us it's funny I didn't
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so much get the feeling that this is
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necessarily part of being a very large
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next three is it is about working with
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people but I didn't have that feeling so
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much that it's it's like you're you're a
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cog in this machine
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maybe it's partly because he's so still
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much incredibly talking about his family
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like in win-win solutions for him and
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his wife and there is there is a
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possibility I'm applying this to things
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that I have experienced yeah that you're
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thinking of it in this way but I also I
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also think that it the the like the
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ratio of the idea to the practicality of
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it drops to absolutely nothing like the
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win-win chapter in particular this is
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habit fall think win-win yeah before
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think win-win has some of the most crazy
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stories in in terms of the way to come
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up with win-win solutions is to have a
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great win-win solution for everybody and
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and that's like just over and over again
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where it's like oh there's two people
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who didn't agree but then someone came
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up with a win-win solution right that
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that's served them both and there's
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something that to me that felts like so
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artificially constructed about these
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scenarios and it's like man most of the
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time if you're having a real
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disagreement with someone is like the
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hard part is finding a win-win solution
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is not the idea of gee I wish there is
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something that both of us could get out
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of this right like it's it's I found
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that these next chapters just have very
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very little actionable nacinda minute
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things are good when they're good and
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and do the right stuff there was a lot
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of habit for think win-win that was
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gibberish to me mostly the amount of
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different win lose lose win lose lose
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win lose there is it reminding me there
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is a scene in the office I things like a
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whole episode oh my god I was thinking
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of the exact same thing yeah I know what
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you're talking about when like it's like
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home they must have got it from this
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book I can't imagine any other way but
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it's the idea is balancing decisions and
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actions in such a way that everybody
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benefits and that relationships don't
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get damaged so you get what you want all
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relationships don't get damaged because
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you've given in to somebody else there
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is something interesting in that which
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is oh it relates to something I did we
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didn't talk about which is the emotional
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is something a part of habit 3 this is
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one of the many ideas the Covey creates
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however whilst again he goes on way too
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long talking about this the idea of the
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emotional bank account I found to be an
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interesting one and it is the idea is
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that the amount of trust that you built
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as somebody helps you work with them in
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whatever it is in your life family
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business relationships and you make
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deposits to the bank account through
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doing good things and you make
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withdrawals from the emotional bank
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account through mistakes that you make
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bad things that you do but they're just
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withdrawals because you've made so many
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deposits that they just take a little
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bit from it rather than destroying
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everything this is the emotional bank
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account again I liked it when he
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proposed it but by the end of the book
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I'd heard it too many times
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but he applies the win-win idea to the
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emotional bank account because if you
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are not thinking in a win-win scenario
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you may withdraw too much from the bank
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account because people are losing that
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kind of idea these two things they marry
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into each other in a way of trying to
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make sure you balance decisions so that
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everybody remains happy and trustful in
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a relationship of subscription mm-hmm
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but the win-win stuff it's like he could
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have actually spoken about it in five
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minutes but instead he took an hour and
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a half like there is too much stuff in
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this and it becomes baffling to under
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and by the time he's done with her like
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just like I don't I I tried and could
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not get my head around it but the idea
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effective is just if everybody wins is
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better for everybody's happiness in the
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long term like you don't run a shaft
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somebody now because later on you may
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lose their business you know and he
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gives some wild examples of huge deals
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he left on the table and then companies
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come back and give them every penny that
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they've ever made just for the pleasure
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of working with him but I will say in my
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work in my business part of what I do is
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advertising sales I have always tried to
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work in this way of like if you try and
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have a good relationship with people
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they're maybe going to be more likely to
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come back to you in the future and if
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you maybe try and squeeze every penny
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out of somebody you may harm the
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relationship like that is the Nugget
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here which is interesting but the
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problem with this habit with this
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chapter is it incredibly overblown to
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the point of almost nonsensical yes yeah
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and it's all there's also something
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about this chapter which strikes me as
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this may be unfair but it strikes me a
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little bit as like let's just teach
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murderers not to murder like I think
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people who are really focused on the
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idea of like I'm gonna I'm gonna screw
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over my business partners to get every
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last penny today like I don't I don't
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think those people you're gonna do a
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great job of explaining the concept of
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long-term human relationships I think
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people are again like in my experience
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in business as well as like people are
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already naturally on board with this
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idea or they aren't and I just don't
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think there's a lot of motion across the
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aisle on this topic so it strikes me as
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a like a somewhat pointless topic
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today's episode of cortex is brought to
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you by timing the automatic time
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tracking app for Mac hey time tracking
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we spoke about that a bunch on this show
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some of you love it
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some of you find it tricky it doesn't
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matter what it is I know that time
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tracking can be a tricky thing
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mostly for a lot of people because you
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have to start and stop timers it
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interrupts your workflow and honesty you
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often forget to do it sometimes but why
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should you be the one that has to do
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all that work timing automatically
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tracks how much time you're spending in
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each app document and even website so
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you no longer have to worry about
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starting or stopping a timer ever again
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and because timing collects more data
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than a regular time tracker is use
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extends far beyond billing hours it
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shows you exactly when you were using
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which app or website when you slacked
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off and how productive you've been so
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you know how to improve your
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productivity going forward but timing
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knows that your work doesn't just happen
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on your Mac and that's why timings
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timeline automatically make suggestions
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for filling gaps in your timeline and
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can ask you what you did offline every
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time you return to your Mac that way
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you'll never forget to enter a meeting
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again there are loads of great grass and
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chance that break down not just the apps
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that I've been using but also
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categorizations of the types of tasks
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that I will be completing in them these
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categories can be completely customized
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so when I'm for example in logic I can
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say oh whenever I'm in logic I'm editing
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a podcast and that's an easy thing to do
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and then everything that I can tag
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arises podcasts can all go into one bin
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one to one category no matter what type
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of app but it is timing can even give
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you a sense of what your most productive
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times are based upon the data it sees
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from a perspective of week days all the
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way down to hours which is awesome these
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tools are great for just entering this
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information but what you really get the
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benefit from is being able to get graphs
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and charts and statistics and figures
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because then you can use the information
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that you're logging all the information
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in time is case that is being logged
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automatically for you because it's
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awesome like that to make some real
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changes about the way that you get your
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work done you can download the free
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14-day trial by going to timing app
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comScore tech save 10% when you purchase
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and timing is also available on set app
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just check out the timing website for
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more details on that so go to timing app
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calm / cortex find out more right now
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get the 14-day free trial save 10% or
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check it out on set app as well timing
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stop worrying about time and focus on
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doing your best work instead have it 5
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seek first to understand then to be
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understood use empathetic listening to
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genuinely understand
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which compels them to reciprocate the
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listening and take an open mind to being
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influenced by you mm-hmm okay so if I
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was gonna say the one interesting thing
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in this diagnosed before you prescribe
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that's all this needs to be he explains
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it pretty well with a nother ludicrous
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example of how likely everyone in his
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town was a football game and his
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daughter was sick and she was a newborn
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and there was meta it's like it was this
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wild thing that explains the idea of
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before you try and tell someone what to
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do listen to them first right yeah
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that's kind of it yeah but it is
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massively overblown ethos pathos and
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logos comes up at one point I ain't get
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what that was all about the OL idea of
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empathetic listening is interesting you
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know you you mimic what somebody says
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rephrase it reflect the feelings right
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so like you listening to what people are
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saying you're showing them that you're
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listening by repeating to them what
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they're saying is cetera et cetera
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there's some interesting stuff in there
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but this has one of the most overblown
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examples that he gives I've been saving
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for this moment she's way mature he is
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talking to his son about being a
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mechanic I got okay do you remember this
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one I'm trying to I'm trying to remember
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because this one was one of the like I'm
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skipping the fastest through here
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because I know it's like yeah I'm on
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board with the idea of trying to
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understand someone before you before you
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do these things and I was I was having a
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hard time so start start me with the
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mechanic story because I'm not
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remembering it off the top of my head so
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he he's saying about I think he I don't
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remember if he's saying this is his son
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or he's just creating an example right
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of and I think he might mention this at
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one point about a kid who yeah he he
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does actually say like this is one he's
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just posing an idea here right I think
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that maybe imagine is something a kid
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who comes to their father and doesn't
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want to go to school anymore and says I
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don't want to go to school anymore and
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he plays out his conversation it plays
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both sides there's conversation and the
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kid is like I don't want to go to school
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and it does like what we work for
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to send you to school and like set
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researcher and he's playing not only
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both of these people but also this like
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Greek chorus of explaining the
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imagination and mind would about people
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were feeling at this moment of lightning
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and then and then he plays it again but
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speaking both as the PAS as the child
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but also was the child's in a monologue
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at that moment of being like he doesn't
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want to listen to me wide right why does
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he hate me and then plays this other way
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of like if you did it with empathic
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listening how it would improve the
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situation to the point where the kid who
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doesn't want to go to school because
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he's talking about like there's a friend
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of his or like a friend of a family
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who's become a mechanic and they've done
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well and they didn't go to school why
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don't I do that this is like how the
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first two examples of this goes and it
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has like being a mechanic is ridiculous
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you need to go and be a lawyer I don't
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know why coffee hates mechanic so much
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but apparently does really hates
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mechanics it's very strange almost as
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much as he hates television also very
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strange like he's talking about like oh
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don't be a mechanic and then it gets to
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a point where the final way with the
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father is using empathic listening the
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kid is explaining oh but you know I want
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to be a mechanic and the kids and then
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the dad's like but does Joey have such a
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great life and the kids like I don't
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know to the point where the kid also
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hates mechanics and he loves school it's
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like this isn't how this conversation
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would go it genuinely ends though with
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him saying hmm
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owning up to the fact that this is
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probably not how this conversation with
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God like that's how he finishes this in
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a 20 minute thing and he's like I know
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it's like I have created this example
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and I know maybe this isn't how we'll go
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and there are a bunch of different ways
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that it could go but this is how
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empathic listening might help like oh my
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god this is so ridiculous that he can't
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even finish it by owning like by like
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owning it he has to loan up to the fact
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that this is probably not how this
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conversation would play out like why are
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we doing this then this this was one of
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the most wild in the book like I really
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unlike listening to
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this and just being confused at the
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understand what's happening here like
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being like a weird a weird confusing
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masses like is there some kind of art
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book like I don't I don't get it habit
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six synergize oh this is maximum crazy
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this is maximum crazy in the book this
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an amazing way because here Stephen
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is the result of all the things that we
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have talked about before and so it's
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like you know all these buzz words like
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we're bringing them all back people like
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and they're all gonna be in a row and
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we're gonna talk about all of them
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together and and this to me this chapter
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is maximum crazy like his definitions of
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synergy his stories there's one story at
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the end that I particularly like but but
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yeah this this one is this one is rough
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I think there is not a single sentence
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no value in the entire chapter so the
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idea of habit six is to combine the
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strengths of people through positive
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teamwork so as to achieve goals that no
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one could have done alone all right
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it's not compromised by the way
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compromise is not synergy no no
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compromise is not synergy compromise is
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one plus one equals one and a half Mike
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okay let me try to explain this I don't
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know how I'm going to be able to so
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apparently synergy is when the whole is
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greater than the sum of its parts in
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synergy you could get one plus one
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equals three or as he says one plus one
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equals ten or ten thousand or 50,000
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what are you doing like if you lost your
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mind why are you saying these numbers
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but compromising is not synergy it is a
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lower form of win-win if you compromise
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it's like one plus one equals 1.5 which
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to be honest still sounds pretty good
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because it's you know like whatever but
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one plus one equals one point five
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one but synergizing is one plus one
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equals three
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now dear listener if you do not
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understand this that's fine because I
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don't either
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I don't know what the difference is and
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I've and I've listened to the whole book
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just to be I mean just to be clear quote
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synergy is the essence of
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principle-centered leadership it is the
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essence of principle centered parenting
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it catalyzes unifies and unleashes the
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greatest powers within people all the
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habits we have covered us prepare us to
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create the miracle of synergy which
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which is just like algebra new algebra
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rules and yeah it's the the chapter is
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amazing he's really obsessed with the
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idea of constantly referring to one plus
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one equal in some other number like this
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is this is his constant go-to with what
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synergy means in this chapter - one of
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my one of my favorite little stories
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here which is it's almost like the
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checkmate meme on the internet like it's
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like happening in real conversation
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where I don't know if you remember but
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he's he's talking to a guy who's like
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doubting the concept of synergy so again
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as with all of these stories it's
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somehow it's somehow quickly turns to
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marriage and family everything is
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marriage and family but so some someone
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is doubting that this this magic of
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synergy exists - steven covey oh god I
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just remembered it yes so good yeah and
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so so I think he turn he turns to the
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guy and and the book says like I looked
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at the two of them so it's the guy and
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his wife yeah cuz yeah that this guy is
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having that they're having problems in
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their relationship and for some reason
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so he meets this guy obviously at the
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end of a conference and he invites
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coffee to go to lunch with him and his
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wife so he can listen to the way that
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they communicate yeah yeah right and and
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don't have a whole lot of tolerance for
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words like a lot of weird 1980 science
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about the concept of left versus right
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brain beautiful under how you'd feel
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about that yeah he's like he's a really
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left brain person that used a really
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right brain person and like this is a
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weird idea that still still infects
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educational pedagogy today and like all
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of the stuff that this is based on is
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non replicable in his nonsense oh it's
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like okay whatever so but so steven
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covey like professional psychologist PhD
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like oh these these are his aligner he's
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like oh these are these are two half
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bringing people living together like
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that they're having a hard time talking
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and he says like you guys need to be
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more synergistic in there and they're
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saying I don't understand what you mean
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by by synergy and so the again
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resolution to fix this guy's marriage
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here's how it goes
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Stephen Covey says do you have any
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children
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I asked yes - really
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I asked incredulously which feels a bit
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presumptuous there he's and then super
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so Stephen Covey says how did you do it
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and they said what do you mean how did
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we do it
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you were synergistic I said one plus one
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usually equals two but you made one plus
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one equals four
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now that's synergy the whole is greater
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than the sum of the parts and it's like
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you're just counting things like it's so
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yeah well it's not like these people
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they can't communicate they struggle to
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communicate they seem to kind of not
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really like each other very much anymore
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yeah for some reason you fixed it by
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saying they hate kids ten years ago like
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I don't understand right the solution
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yeah so this this this is just maximum
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crazy in this chapter like it doesn't
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make any sense like in his mind people
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can only have children if they're in a
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healthy functional relationship yeah
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that that is like that is a good way to
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put it like he's he's like but your
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children are here like well I don't
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understand that what why do you have a
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problem don't you understand that if you
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have children that shows that you're
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you're great together it's like I don't
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know man even from your telling of this
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story it sounds like maybe they should
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get divorced like for the minuses like
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can he do one minus one equals negative
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B a plus like somehow in his mind one
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minus one would be 2 million or
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something yeah toughing hates math like
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he hates TV he at some point goes into
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this run and I don't know where exactly
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it is mm-hmm he is talking about how TV
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is mostly bad for us and there are some
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educational shows that are good and we
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watch 40 hours a week of TV somehow
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in his household they watch seven hours
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a week and everybody is happy with that
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like not really sure why he gets into
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this but like he seems to feel that like
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TV is a plague on society it's very
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strange yeah yeah they're a bunch of
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just digs out of nowhere at TV oh I
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actually think it is in habit 7 which is
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called sharpen the saw so habit 7 is
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about the continued improvement of the
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other habits so it is taking everything
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that you have making and continuing over
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your life to build and renew resources
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energy and improve your health to create
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a sustainable long-term effective
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lifestyle and you have to be able to
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sharpen the saw and make your life good
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so you can live the rest of the habits
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and it brings it all together and this
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is broken down into three major parts
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which is physical renewal which is
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exercising something kind of referred to
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as good service which can be considered
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as prayer or meditation or helping in
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your community and mental renewal which
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is reading this is where he talks about
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the problem of TV because he believes
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that people should be reading all the
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time right yeah yeah it's the reading on
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there yeah I had nothing about this one
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this one I it was just because by this
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point the technical debt that he is
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created with the phrases and the
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buzzwords is almost monumental oh yeah
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there was a point in this book where
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it's like you just said 50 words and I
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think you created 15 of them like I
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don't understand what you're talking
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about anymore because intro dependence
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and interdependence you use both of them
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and I sometimes don't know which one
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you're talking about at this point and
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he's trying to sum up too many things
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that he's created yeah it it doesn't it
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doesn't work anymore
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it's like TLDR go to the gym and take
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care of your mind yeah yeah like that's
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that that's the end of it with no real
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practical advice on anything and it's I
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think there's actually a very
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interesting question around this this
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idea which he doesn't touch it all but
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it's like you could have a much more
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interesting conversation around this
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because I feel like this is
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a thing in them in the modern world
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which is the concept of burnout like
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people never taking time you know it to
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have breaks or to regenerates
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intellectual capital like or build
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themselves back up but it's like there's
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there could be something interesting
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here about constantly working is
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depleting a resource and you you have to
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be aware of rebuilding that resource in
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times off it is like there's no
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discussion of that it's just continually
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additive like you you're you're adding
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all of these habits and all of these
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activities into your life and they're
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like and now on top of it like we're
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going to add all of this community
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service like and you're also going to be
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reading and you're going to be going to
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the gym and it just at this point it
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almost feels like overwhelming the sheer
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number of things that a person would
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have to do to maintain all of this so
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yeah it's there could be a good idea
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here but this this chapter is like it is
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at the end and you just feel like I
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can't I can't go on alright please
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please just please make it end please
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make it end and that is it that's the
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seven Habits I maintain I want to summer
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I want to maintain III did find use in
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this book and I get excited to talk
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about the bad things cuz it's funny
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right to talk about the terrible things
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with you but I do think there are some
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interesting things in this book that I
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am gonna take with me you know the idea
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of be thinking about being proactive and
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understanding the language that I use
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and how it affects things thinking about
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how I want to be remembered
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thinking about training made me create a
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personal mission statement and what that
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might look like as a way to sum up how I
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want my life to go before me thinking
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about things that are important and
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urgent and how I delegate and the
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emotional bank account like these are
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things that I find genuinely
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thought-provoking um in a way that a lot
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of these business books don't have the
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ability to make me think about so many
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things as this one has done mmm
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so I having read this book I can see why
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it had been so popular because there are
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things in here that are interesting
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thirty years later to me right this book
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is thirty nearly thirty years old and I
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think that there is some genuinely
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interesting stuff in this book
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but there is also as of all of these
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books a lot of nonsense just real
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nonsense but and unfortunately these two
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ideas are not real these two things are
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not really mixed together it's like the
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first half is good and the second half
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is crazy which is you know they didn't
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mix it up so it kind of lost me yeah
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yeah I I have to hard not recommend this
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book to anybody I just think for anybody
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who is trying to improve their life it's
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just it's too much to slog through it's
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it's too incoherent and while this is
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the foundation of very many of books in
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this genre I think you're probably
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better off picking up you know something
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that is written that is more modern
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which may be ripping off the ideas of
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this book but but doing it in a more
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coherent and constructive manner so as I
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just I cannot recommend this one because
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the crazy is just it's too much and the
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book is so long it's such a big ask to
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have somebody go go through with it I
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just I can never imagine a situation in
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which I would recommend to anybody to
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read this book like again I haven't read
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anything further there are more books in
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this idea like created by the Covey
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company that could be better right like
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they could be more updated they could be
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more abbreviated which might be better
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but yeah I agree that like I said there
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are interesting things here I recommend
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trying to find something that builds
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upon some of the habits you know maybe
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finding out a bit about them honestly
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you've probably got a lot of what you
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need from us talking about it for you to
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decide if you think any of these things
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are interesting to you and then maybe
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try and find things offshoots of it
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maybe just focusing on some of the
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specific habits because it is really
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really long and there is a lot of it
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that really doesn't need to be there and
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that with all of these books it is what
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makes it hard that they are filling
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pages a lot of it is just genuinely
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pages need to be filled and they're
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filling them and you can feel that there
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are times when you could just really
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feel like he's hitting a workout for
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this chapter
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because there's just like I don't know
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why you're talking about this anymore
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so they're I don't think he's hitting a
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word count right this to me again just
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it just it just reads as like a Markov
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chain generator that people just didn't
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didn't shut off soon enough right and
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it's like oh we got a thousand changes
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right of this thing and ship it all
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right like whatever it because it
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doesn't matter because it's like it's
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it's fractally self-similar at a large
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scale in a small scale like it's it's
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all the same throughout the whole thing
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it doesn't matter just ship a thousand
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pages of it so yeah there are books
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where I definitely feel like oh I can
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see how you turned your interesting
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article into a paperback book that
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you're now going to sell I and there's
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like then you can feel like okay you're
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obviously just padding here but but this
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this i think i think we're getting pure
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covey here III think there was no point
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where he was like I need to hit that
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word count I feel like he he had this
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book flow through him and it and it came
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out into the world Mike do you want to
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close out our discussion on the seven
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Habits of Highly Effective People with
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the music that was played in the seven
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Habits of Highly Effective People I
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think so because we had to listen to it
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a lot so I think our listeners should
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have to get it just at least once just
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so they can understand the sacrifice
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that we made for them so yes here is the
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music which punctuated almost every ten
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minutes it felt like of the seven Habits
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of Highly Effective People
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