00:00:00 ◼ ► No you go in practicing I think today I was like Don't blow it don't blow it. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/0">TS</a>]
00:00:07 ◼ ► So I have learned my lesson from last time and I realize we have to start with follow up from episode two. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/7">TS</a>]
00:00:15 ◼ ► Yes but how can we. Again we've got the same problem as last time. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/15">TS</a>]
00:00:18 ◼ ► Yes but we but we also have the same benefit as last time which is I have edited the audio and have been displeased. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/18">TS</a>]
00:00:25 ◼ ► So I don't think that's ever going to change but go on then what were you displeased with from episode to episode two. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/25">TS</a>]
00:00:32 ◼ ► We talked about copyright and I opened by saying how I found my own copyright youtube video. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/32">TS</a>]
00:00:39 ◼ ► The argument was unconvincing to me at the end. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/39">TS</a>]
00:00:41 ◼ ► Yes And I think if you you know I'm imagining because these still haven't gone live we haven't gotten feedback. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/41">TS</a>]
00:00:47 ◼ ► But I'm imagining that if someone is hearing that there's then expecting that I'm going to blow them away with a rock [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/47">TS</a>]
00:00:55 ◼ ► solid hour long pieces that is like the perfect convincing argument for why copyright has to be limited [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/55">TS</a>]
00:01:03 ◼ ► and I think the last show was not that at all. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/63">TS</a>]
00:01:08 ◼ ► and I thought I'm still not convinced by what I have no idea just not completely clear on your position you know [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/68">TS</a>]
00:01:15 ◼ ► there's nothing wrong with that. You just kind of a bit in the wilderness that makes me angry just because. Well why. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/75">TS</a>]
00:01:25 ◼ ► Well I am very open to changing my mind I know what my position is on this [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/85">TS</a>]
00:01:30 ◼ ► and I'm just continually frustrated by my seeming inability to articulate a clear consistent message on why copyright [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/90">TS</a>]
00:01:40 ◼ ► So we collected the copyright video again we're going to be asked again now what I know having bit of a winch that [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/100">TS</a>]
00:01:48 ◼ ► you're not happy with my follow up is convincing this of previous podcast [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/108">TS</a>]
00:01:54 ◼ ► and given that a thumbs down that is that is a follow up I am not impressed by my own. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/114">TS</a>]
00:02:00 ◼ ► Argument again on the same topic. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/120">TS</a>]
00:02:03 ◼ ► So I wanted to just follow that up and get so anyone listening to Episode three before the recent episode. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/123">TS</a>]
00:02:09 ◼ ► You're basically saying don't listen to it to say it. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/129">TS</a>]
00:02:12 ◼ ► No no do this and to write because I want you to listen to it [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/132">TS</a>]
00:02:16 ◼ ► and then maybe we'll figure out some sort of feedback form. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/136">TS</a>]
00:02:19 ◼ ► Hear what people have to say about I would be curious or feedback because this is is a totally different format. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/139">TS</a>]
00:02:25 ◼ ► This isn't I'm just sort of showing up and we're talking about stuff [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/145">TS</a>]
00:02:28 ◼ ► and it's not super prepared so I'm very curious to see how people react to this. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/148">TS</a>]
00:02:35 ◼ ► And since this is our third episode [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/155">TS</a>]
00:02:37 ◼ ► and probably the last before it goes public I would be very interested to hear what people have to say about the first [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/157">TS</a>]
00:02:45 ◼ ► three in particular so OK Second second piece a follow up for me and also about copyright. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/165">TS</a>]
00:02:51 ◼ ► Yeah it is I did the same thing again which is I said something that I didn't mean to say [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/171">TS</a>]
00:02:59 ◼ ► and listening to me say it in the audio is incredibly frustrating. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/179">TS</a>]
00:03:02 ◼ ► So first time I called the Economist newspaper The Economist magazine [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/182">TS</a>]
00:03:07 ◼ ► and in this one something that really bothers me is. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/187">TS</a>]
00:03:12 ◼ ► When you talk about newspapers taking our videos and uploading them to other people sites [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/192">TS</a>]
00:03:18 ◼ ► and I use the word I used to describe that was stealing. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/198">TS</a>]
00:03:24 ◼ ► And I try so hard not to use the word stealing because I don't think that that that is a fair word to use that is a [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/204">TS</a>]
00:03:33 ◼ ► more harsh word than what it really is you know it should be infringement. They infringed on my videos. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/213">TS</a>]
00:03:42 ◼ ► But in the in the heat of the moment it's so hard not to say stealing even though if I was if I was writing an article [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/222">TS</a>]
00:03:50 ◼ ► I was writing a script for a video I would never let that slip in there I would never say stealing. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/230">TS</a>]
00:03:54 ◼ ► But isn't that just because you're being a bit wishy washy and like when you hear a policeman interviewed on. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/234">TS</a>]
00:04:00 ◼ ► News that have a say. The robber ran away as I always say the suspected offender decamped in an easterly direction. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/240">TS</a>]
00:04:06 ◼ ► But aren't you just being a bit soft I mean is it not actually stealing I think it isn't stealing right because if it [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/246">TS</a>]
00:04:13 ◼ ► were it would have been like a hierarchy of crimes. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/253">TS</a>]
00:04:17 ◼ ► Stealing is the worst thing that infringement because stealing implies that the newspaper not only copied my video [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/257">TS</a>]
00:04:25 ◼ ► but they also took money right out of my wallet [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/265">TS</a>]
00:04:29 ◼ ► and in infringement means that you know because of their use of my video I may have lost out on earnings from those [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/269">TS</a>]
00:04:38 ◼ ► those views right or from licensing fees but that's different from actually a gun minding my own business [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/278">TS</a>]
00:04:44 ◼ ► and suddenly I'm down money because of their actions. For that I think I really do think it's. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/284">TS</a>]
00:04:53 ◼ ► Because copyright is kind of getting everywhere. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/293">TS</a>]
00:04:56 ◼ ► You know it affects more parts of technology I think I feel like it is important to try to establish in infringing as a [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/296">TS</a>]
00:05:05 ◼ ► word to use to describe a particular kind of activity it is not stealing. It's not the same. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/305">TS</a>]
00:05:12 ◼ ► So OK that was that was my second point. OK are you bullied clarify for you but that is clarified. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/312">TS</a>]
00:05:20 ◼ ► You know I think you're being a bit overly cautious but you know that's one of your defining quality. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/320">TS</a>]
00:05:26 ◼ ► OK and I'm comfortable with that and you make you case. Yes thanks let's take anymore feedback. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/326">TS</a>]
00:05:31 ◼ ► Well I don't have this next one exactly feedback but I want to tell you that I took your recommendation [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/331">TS</a>]
00:05:36 ◼ ► and I watched the people vs George Lucas movie get here we could review a quick review I would say it is enjoyable [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/336">TS</a>]
00:05:46 ◼ ► but it is also terribly uncomfortable to watch because it might strike a little too close to home you know because it's [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/346">TS</a>]
00:05:55 ◼ ► these interviews of people who are getting really obsessed with Star Wars and who were really. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/355">TS</a>]
00:06:00 ◼ ► Nerving out over a whole bunch of details [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/360">TS</a>]
00:06:03 ◼ ► and watching that kind of thing it just makes me feel like do I look that ridiculous when I get upset about this. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/363">TS</a>]
00:06:09 ◼ ► I too have gotten into like heated arguments over minute Koreans and the way the film is edited. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/369">TS</a>]
00:06:16 ◼ ► Like it's it's edited in a way to make it seem really comical [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/376">TS</a>]
00:06:20 ◼ ► and that's why it's also sort of uncomfortable to watch is because like I'm seeing the person on on on [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/380">TS</a>]
00:06:25 ◼ ► and on the film talking about how medical Marines just changed the whole nature of the Star Wars universe [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/385">TS</a>]
00:06:31 ◼ ► and they're really earnest you know but it it is cuts to be a funny movie. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/391">TS</a>]
00:06:36 ◼ ► So that's why I would say it's it's really uncomfortable to watch but also also in Dr. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/396">TS</a>]
00:06:42 ◼ ► I said I'm not sure that something I mean it's been a while since I watched [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/402">TS</a>]
00:06:47 ◼ ► and watched highly sure I agree I mean there are a few people who I guess are having fun poked at them when they [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/407">TS</a>]
00:06:52 ◼ ► when they go really over the top and you know dress up as Chewbacca to go to the movies and [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/412">TS</a>]
00:06:57 ◼ ► but I don't always think those people that are really passionate about the film and talk about Mad Koreans [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/417">TS</a>]
00:07:01 ◼ ► and all that. I kind of think maybe so myself and I didn't mind so much but. Two points. It's an interesting point. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/421">TS</a>]
00:07:11 ◼ ► Yeah I definitely I enjoyed it and I'm glad for the recommendations [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/431">TS</a>]
00:07:15 ◼ ► but I would say that it was it was similar to the Trekkies documentary is this the same kind of thing [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/435">TS</a>]
00:07:22 ◼ ► but for Eric Wright I haven't watched that one yet maybe that's my homework. Yeah I would recommend it. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/442">TS</a>]
00:07:27 ◼ ► I would recommend it but for me it's that same kind of like enjoyable [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/447">TS</a>]
00:07:31 ◼ ► but slightly uncomfortable because maybe it hits a little too close to home. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/451">TS</a>]
00:07:36 ◼ ► But anyway so that was I was a little thing I want to follow up on. Thank you for the recommendation. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/456">TS</a>]
00:07:41 ◼ ► Grange great you have to watch that Bobby Fischer chess one I've been recommending to you [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/461">TS</a>]
00:07:45 ◼ ► but I'll say that as homework another day is on my list as I was talking mentors to watch. Great follow up is that it. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/465">TS</a>]
00:07:53 ◼ ► Yeah I think that I think that that's up at this time. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/473">TS</a>]
00:07:55 ◼ ► That's that's good but I don't think I have too much follow up I have. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/475">TS</a>]
00:08:00 ◼ ► I have listened to a podcast number two and that I think I have any follow up. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/480">TS</a>]
00:08:06 ◼ ► What to pay to stop listening and complaining and then decide what to do. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/486">TS</a>]
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00:09:16 ◼ ► and they're very easily customizable so you can tweak it to look just however you want. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/556">TS</a>]
00:09:22 ◼ ► And once you've done that kind of like magic it also just looks great on mobile devices to where websites can tend to [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/562">TS</a>]
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00:10:49 ◼ ► What are we talking about what what what what's on your mind. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/649">TS</a>]
00:10:53 ◼ ► So today I think the thing that I kind of want to talk about [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/653">TS</a>]
00:10:56 ◼ ► and this might be very scatterbrained So what we'll see how it goes. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/656">TS</a>]
00:11:00 ◼ ► But the thing that I want to talk about is something that has been sort of loosely on my mind for the past two [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/660">TS</a>]
00:11:07 ◼ ► and a half maybe three years and it is the notion of work life balance class balance. Yeah I am. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/667">TS</a>]
00:11:19 ◼ ► I must say this scares me because I'm not a good person to talk to about work life balance. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/679">TS</a>]
00:11:27 ◼ ► I mean I'm I'm notoriously by those around me I think I'm very bad at this I think talking to me about where life [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/687">TS</a>]
00:11:33 ◼ ► balance is is like talking to the Cookie Monster about healthy eating and I know I'm not good in this area. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/693">TS</a>]
00:11:42 ◼ ► You feel that your your work life balance is unbalanced. It is severely unbalanced in favor of work really. Yes. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/702">TS</a>]
00:11:50 ◼ ► How many videos have you put up on You Tube I think it's getting towards about two thousand. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/710">TS</a>]
00:11:56 ◼ ► It is a lot it is a lot of video and how many I have to preface this with. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/716">TS</a>]
00:12:00 ◼ ► It active how many active channels which you say you have that active really active ones. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/720">TS</a>]
00:12:06 ◼ ► It's about half a dozen but I do have a debt I don't have a bad Doesn't that I think pop videos [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/726">TS</a>]
00:12:12 ◼ ► and I'm bringing a couple back to life in a moment. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/732">TS</a>]
00:12:14 ◼ ► But anyway yeah I have I have a lot of things on the go [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/734">TS</a>]
00:12:19 ◼ ► but you know that's not why I have a bad work life balance I think if I had just one You Tube channel I would probably [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/739">TS</a>]
00:12:27 ◼ ► have a bad work life but you think it would make no difference. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/747">TS</a>]
00:12:30 ◼ ► You were just there there would be two thousand videos on that single channel of the supposed to spread it spread [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/750">TS</a>]
00:12:35 ◼ ► across a half dozen Quite possibly I think I mean I think I work a lot because I enjoy it a lot. But anyway. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/755">TS</a>]
00:12:43 ◼ ► Do you have a good work life balance. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/763">TS</a>]
00:12:51 ◼ ► but I'm I'm I'm coming at this from the perspective of I think that the whole notion of work life balance is kind of [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/771">TS</a>]
00:13:03 ◼ ► I'm I I don't think that this is an achievable thing in the way most people mean it [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/783">TS</a>]
00:13:11 ◼ ► when they're talking about work life balance. You're going to have to elaborate. OK. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/791">TS</a>]
00:13:19 ◼ ► when people are talking about work life balance they're kind of talking about you know having it all right you have [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/799">TS</a>]
00:13:24 ◼ ► this this great personal life that is fulfilling with family and friends and activities and hobbies [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/804">TS</a>]
00:13:30 ◼ ► and you are also a person who is excelling in your job right you're doing great work. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/810">TS</a>]
00:13:37 ◼ ► And I think that people like to talk about work life balance [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/817">TS</a>]
00:13:42 ◼ ► and trying to achieve work life balance because that it is an amazing ideal. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/822">TS</a>]
00:13:47 ◼ ► It's like the platonic ideal of what you want your life to be. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/827">TS</a>]
00:13:51 ◼ ► But I think that that scuttles to the side difficult decisions that have to be made about. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/831">TS</a>]
00:14:00 ◼ ► Now you're going to spend your time [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/840">TS</a>]
00:14:01 ◼ ► and your energy so that that that is the kind of basis of the argument that I kind of want to make today. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/841">TS</a>]
00:14:08 ◼ ► So I'm trying to be sure to be clear here you are are you talking about the amount of time you dedicate to work versus [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/848">TS</a>]
00:14:17 ◼ ► your life or how successful you can be at one you know you can either be a rubbish friend and family member [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/857">TS</a>]
00:14:24 ◼ ► and a brilliant new chamber a bit of a media to You Tube or and a family friend man. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/864">TS</a>]
00:14:32 ◼ ► I lay out my analogy partly because this came up with another You Tuber who we know recently [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/872">TS</a>]
00:14:37 ◼ ► and a lot of times people start out sort of not believing me on this [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/877">TS</a>]
00:14:40 ◼ ► and then by the end they can sometimes can convince themselves I want to lay this out [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/880">TS</a>]
00:14:44 ◼ ► and my the analogy that I make is this right let's you know you as a human are able to produce a certain amount of [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/884">TS</a>]
00:14:53 ◼ ► energy and activity sort of like a motor and just for simplicity [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/893">TS</a>]
00:14:58 ◼ ► and math sake let's say that your output is one hundred watts of effort at any particular time. Yeah. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/898">TS</a>]
00:15:06 ◼ ► And I think that basically the whole scope of human activity falls into the four possible categories that are before [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/906">TS</a>]
00:15:15 ◼ ► you like for one hundred watt light bulbs. OK. And those four light bulbs are labeled family friends health and work. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/915">TS</a>]
00:15:27 ◼ ► OK And so from my perspective I really truly believe that this analogy is basically true that you have a hundred watts [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/927">TS</a>]
00:15:39 ◼ ► of power that you need to make decisions about how you're going to distribute them across all four of these light bulbs. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/939">TS</a>]
00:15:47 ◼ ► And so you can have all four of them on at twenty five watts each which is not really great for any of them in [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/947">TS</a>]
00:15:54 ◼ ► particular. Or you can start making decisions about where do you. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/954">TS</a>]
00:16:00 ◼ ► We want to either focus your energy [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/960">TS</a>]
00:16:02 ◼ ► and then of course that also means making harsh uncomfortable decisions about where you're going to cut from these [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/962">TS</a>]
00:16:11 ◼ ► various light bulbs so that yeah that's that is that is my kind of my kind of statement [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/971">TS</a>]
00:16:18 ◼ ► and I often get people arguing against me that that that's not true at all. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/978">TS</a>]
00:16:24 ◼ ► To go with that analogy the the criticism I think that would be made of me is as follows. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/984">TS</a>]
00:16:33 ◼ ► There are people in my life a belief that I should devote my my motor to my work. Lightbulb. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/993">TS</a>]
00:16:40 ◼ ► Ten hours a day and have it Sean brought into everything I can and then switch that off completely [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1000">TS</a>]
00:16:46 ◼ ► and switch on those other light bulbs and stop worrying about them. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1006">TS</a>]
00:16:50 ◼ ► But if you have a poor work life balance you are never willing to switch off that work like the hope [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1010">TS</a>]
00:16:56 ◼ ► and that's my problem I can never switch that live off whether I'm just thinking about it I'm thinking about what I [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1016">TS</a>]
00:17:02 ◼ ► want to do tomorrow how I want to change a video or I'm sneakily checking You Tube comments and things like that. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1022">TS</a>]
00:17:08 ◼ ► So I'm happy to go with your lightbulb [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1028">TS</a>]
00:17:11 ◼ ► and note that I think my definition of work life balance is not how much Gulotta give H.B.O. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1031">TS</a>]
00:17:20 ◼ ► It's just should you switch certain bulbs off at certain times. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1040">TS</a>]
00:17:25 ◼ ► Why it is that what you're saying he's saying to us which these ones are for [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1045">TS</a>]
00:17:28 ◼ ► and it sounds like you're more saying I'm going to have my work shining seventy five percent [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1048">TS</a>]
00:17:34 ◼ ► and my family wanted ten percent and that is apparently at these levels as yet host to switching them on and off [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1054">TS</a>]
00:17:40 ◼ ► but this goes to one of your videos that we were talking about the sort of the sum of an infinite series [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1060">TS</a>]
00:17:45 ◼ ► and they have an infinite series of ones and zeroes right that you take the average of that is serious. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1065">TS</a>]
00:17:51 ◼ ► Yes as I was called and there is yes. OK And Thompson's length is also the analogy. OK tonsils. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1071">TS</a>]
00:17:57 ◼ ► Look it up on the edge that people are not in the file. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1077">TS</a>]
00:18:00 ◼ ► Preferably Yes I'm sorry I'll record that now [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1080">TS</a>]
00:18:04 ◼ ► and I don't know a number of people don't use the Internet go to you know dot com slash number five hundred. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1084">TS</a>]
00:18:13 ◼ ► So the way I'm going to get around your argument about the switching of the motors thing is I'm just going to project a [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1093">TS</a>]
00:18:20 ◼ ► typical week as an infinite series of weeks [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1100">TS</a>]
00:18:22 ◼ ► and reduce your switching to an average if you see what I'm saying right so OK you know you are spending one hundred [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1102">TS</a>]
00:18:30 ◼ ► percent of your eight hour day on work [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1110">TS</a>]
00:18:33 ◼ ► and one hundred percent of the eight hours after work on a family that averages out to be fifty fifty that gets on I'm [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1113">TS</a>]
00:18:41 ◼ ► doing away with your one hundred percent of a thing in a particular time. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1121">TS</a>]
00:18:44 ◼ ► It is very difficult sometimes to let go of work in moments when you should. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1124">TS</a>]
00:18:51 ◼ ► Yeah right that is that is not an easy task to do and I have definitely come across that as well. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1131">TS</a>]
00:18:58 ◼ ► It's it's impossible to watch T.V. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1138">TS</a>]
00:19:02 ◼ ► With my wife and not to some extent be thinking about potential things that I could do in video [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1142">TS</a>]
00:19:09 ◼ ► or if we're watching something even moderately interesting I could maybe this could be a video [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1149">TS</a>]
00:19:14 ◼ ► and then you're not fully there and it's hard to be present. Absolutely one hundred percent of the time. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1154">TS</a>]
00:19:21 ◼ ► So my argument is that even if you even if you could make a switch between fifty percent work in the day fifty percent [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1161">TS</a>]
00:19:30 ◼ ► If you are choosing a fifty fifty distribution and now you have allocated zero percent to friends [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1170">TS</a>]
00:19:37 ◼ ► and zero percent to health. Yeah right. So you still have to. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1177">TS</a>]
00:19:42 ◼ ► You still you have to do this negotiation between views for areas [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1182">TS</a>]
00:19:47 ◼ ► and I think it is it is uncomfortable to try to think about your time [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1187">TS</a>]
00:19:52 ◼ ► and attention in these ways because nobody wants to give up on any of those categories. But I think I think. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1192">TS</a>]
00:20:00 ◼ ► It is best to make really clear decisions about what are you going to try to do. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1200">TS</a>]
00:20:06 ◼ ► How much are your friendships worth to you. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1206">TS</a>]
00:20:08 ◼ ► How much is your family worth to you how much is worth work work worth to you and make decisions about that. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1208">TS</a>]
00:20:16 ◼ ► And I guess one of the reasons why it's it is just been on my mind in particular this month is because I've been really [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1216">TS</a>]
00:20:25 ◼ ► aware that for basically the past two years my health light bulb has been at literally zero nothing at all done in the [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1225">TS</a>]
00:20:36 ◼ ► realm of health and that was a very conscious decision [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1236">TS</a>]
00:20:41 ◼ ► when I was starting my You Tube career like I was actually thinking about it in terms of these four categories [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1241">TS</a>]
00:20:46 ◼ ► and I had discussions with my wife about it [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1246">TS</a>]
00:20:48 ◼ ► and it was like we're just going to kind of ignore the health one while we're in this sort of rocky transition to self [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1248">TS</a>]
00:20:56 ◼ ► employment. So you kind of said to yourself you know I'm not I'm going to not eat well or X. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1256">TS</a>]
00:21:03 ◼ ► or You know I exercise and you made a conscious decision to stay [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1263">TS</a>]
00:21:07 ◼ ► and let things go away from you just sort of said I'm doing you know I'm going to be unhealthy that that is exactly [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1267">TS</a>]
00:21:13 ◼ ► right. That was that's extraordinary isn't it. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1273">TS</a>]
00:21:17 ◼ ► But I mean I am unhealthy I am that person so I always tell myself I'm not going. OK OK right. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1277">TS</a>]
00:21:24 ◼ ► But so this is this is exactly what I am. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1284">TS</a>]
00:21:27 ◼ ► I'm very interested in sort of the science around decision making and cognition. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1287">TS</a>]
00:21:34 ◼ ► And there's a lot of evidence that points to those kinds of thoughts in the back of your mind that sort of like feeling [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1294">TS</a>]
00:21:41 ◼ ► guilty that you are not acting in a healthy way that that really erodes decisionmaking in other areas over a long [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1301">TS</a>]
00:21:50 ◼ ► period of time and so I can honestly say that it was kind of it was kind of a liberating experience to be able to say. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1310">TS</a>]
00:22:00 ◼ ► Look I'm just going to this lightbulb is going off at some point in the future we're going to reevaluate that situation. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1320">TS</a>]
00:22:07 ◼ ► And for me that is now this time you realize this isn't a good thing that I look like. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1327">TS</a>]
00:22:14 ◼ ► Like deciding to do something that's bad doesn't make it good for you so you can make you make it sound like a crazy [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1334">TS</a>]
00:22:27 ◼ ► person. You are the one making the venom not me not my regular lineup. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1347">TS</a>]
00:22:35 ◼ ► What I mean is is that I was I was choosing not to feel guilty about a lack of exercise or particular food choices. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1355">TS</a>]
00:22:44 ◼ ► I wasn't making a positive decision that said you know chocolate cake every day all day. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1364">TS</a>]
00:22:50 ◼ ► Right that's a different kind of thing. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1370">TS</a>]
00:22:52 ◼ ► But if if I was just grabbing like some junk food for a snack I wasn't going to feel guilty about that. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1372">TS</a>]
00:22:58 ◼ ► And but that doesn't stop those calories going in your body or developing or white going on you know not at all right. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1378">TS</a>]
00:23:06 ◼ ► I totally agree right and that is that is like a consequence that has to be paid for a particular decision. Yeah. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1386">TS</a>]
00:23:14 ◼ ► And also over roughly the past two years so we're talking like my huge career I would say that my. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1394">TS</a>]
00:23:23 ◼ ► A friend light bulb has been turned down to maybe like five percent of energy which is shamefully low [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1403">TS</a>]
00:23:32 ◼ ► and I feel guilty about not having spent enough time with people that I would want to spend time with [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1412">TS</a>]
00:23:38 ◼ ► and also my wife what my wife lightbulb has been lower than it should have been right sort of the family light bulb. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1418">TS</a>]
00:23:46 ◼ ► Yeah but that was all because I was putting a lot of energy into the work [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1426">TS</a>]
00:23:54 ◼ ► and I honestly don't think if I hadn't made the conscious decisions to take her. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1434">TS</a>]
00:24:00 ◼ ► I'm down putting energy into these other areas and not feeling guilty about it. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1440">TS</a>]
00:24:06 ◼ ► I'm not sure that I would have been successful on You Tube in the necessary time frame [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1446">TS</a>]
00:24:14 ◼ ► and I don't think that my decisions are necessarily good advice for generally for people to take right on. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1454">TS</a>]
00:24:23 ◼ ► I'm not sitting here and advocating everybody should put all of their energy into work [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1463">TS</a>]
00:24:28 ◼ ► but I was in a particular situation where I Needed You Tube to become self-sustaining within a particular period of [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1468">TS</a>]
00:24:36 ◼ ► time and I don't think if I had divided my mental [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1476">TS</a>]
00:24:41 ◼ ► and physical energy across a whole bunch of fields that that would have happened in the right time frame. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1481">TS</a>]
00:24:48 ◼ ► OK that is kind of my thought but I'm not. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1488">TS</a>]
00:24:53 ◼ ► My point is that I think under certain circumstances it is helpful to think about things in a very conscious very [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1493">TS</a>]
00:25:00 ◼ ► deliberate way and to eliminate guilt in other areas of your life. If you need to focus on one area very intensely. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1500">TS</a>]
00:25:12 ◼ ► Well I'm not buying that you're not buying it tell me want to buy. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1512">TS</a>]
00:25:17 ◼ ► Well I understand the logic of what you're saying [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1517">TS</a>]
00:25:21 ◼ ► and it sounds familiar to some things that I say in my life you know I often make the argument that my obsession with [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1521">TS</a>]
00:25:27 ◼ ► work is the reason I've enjoyed a modicum of success with my work [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1527">TS</a>]
00:25:32 ◼ ► and that's kind of what you're saying you're saying you know because I've devoted so much energy to work I've become [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1532">TS</a>]
00:25:41 ◼ ► But I think deciding not to be guilty about neglecting important things doesn't change the fact you are neglecting them [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1541">TS</a>]
00:25:51 ◼ ► and when you neglect things you hum them. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1551">TS</a>]
00:25:54 ◼ ► Yes So if you have a car and you decide not to service or to pour oil in or anything for a while but you make. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1554">TS</a>]
00:26:00 ◼ ► A conscious decision not to feel bad about that. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1560">TS</a>]
00:26:03 ◼ ► That doesn't mean that eventually the engine is not going to seize up and the car will break [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1563">TS</a>]
00:26:08 ◼ ► and I think if you neglect your health [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1568">TS</a>]
00:26:13 ◼ ► or you neglect your relationships just because you're not feeling guilty about it doesn't mean you're not damaging them [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1573">TS</a>]
00:26:21 ◼ ► and I think that is what people like us should bear in mind [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1581">TS</a>]
00:26:25 ◼ ► and I find this very funny because I often have conversations like this with fellow You Tube is [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1585">TS</a>]
00:26:30 ◼ ► when I see how obsessive they are and I say you know what you should think about the other aspects of your life [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1590">TS</a>]
00:26:35 ◼ ► and the funny thing is I then don't practice what I preach [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1595">TS</a>]
00:26:38 ◼ ► and I'm probably the worst offender preaching preaching is not going to do the processing. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1598">TS</a>]
00:26:42 ◼ ► So I don't think I'm being highlighted is one of the not I [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1602">TS</a>]
00:26:45 ◼ ► but I think I think what I just said I think just because just because you're conscious of that neglect [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1605">TS</a>]
00:26:51 ◼ ► and you've made a decision to neglect it doesn't mean that neglect couldn't be harmful. Do you disagree. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1611">TS</a>]
00:26:59 ◼ ► and it's one of the areas where I think that analogy with light bulbs doesn't pan out perfectly because I can't I can't [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1619">TS</a>]
00:27:10 ◼ ► remember where I first heard this analogy [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1630">TS</a>]
00:27:12 ◼ ► but talking about interpersonal relationships as kind of like bank accounts in the sense that you know if you spend [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1632">TS</a>]
00:27:19 ◼ ► time with someone you're kind of investing into this friendship bank account and there may be times [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1639">TS</a>]
00:27:25 ◼ ► when you're not available or you're not being a good friend [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1645">TS</a>]
00:27:28 ◼ ► and you can kind of draw to some extent on those previous investments. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1648">TS</a>]
00:27:33 ◼ ► But at some point the bank account runs out right [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1653">TS</a>]
00:27:36 ◼ ► and then it is a redeemable at that point right you reach like friendship bankruptcy. Yeah. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1656">TS</a>]
00:27:42 ◼ ► And so I I am totally with you on this. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1662">TS</a>]
00:27:46 ◼ ► and I think that part of making hard decisions in life is coming to grips with areas in your life which you're sort of [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1666">TS</a>]
00:27:56 ◼ ► willing to possibly have damage happen. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1676">TS</a>]
00:28:01 ◼ ► when I was focusing mainly on You Tube You know I'm going to probably through the course of conversation have a bunch [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1681">TS</a>]
00:28:09 ◼ ► of numbers that don't add up to one hundred percent. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1689">TS</a>]
00:28:11 ◼ ► But but let's let's just say that basically like eighty percent of my effort was on work [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1691">TS</a>]
00:28:19 ◼ ► and sort of twenty percent was on family you know because right I I am very happy with my marriage [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1699">TS</a>]
00:28:28 ◼ ► and not willing to risk long term damage to the marriage. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1708">TS</a>]
00:28:34 ◼ ► Yeah right and so that lightbulb can't be zero because that like that is consequences that I'm not willing to accept. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1714">TS</a>]
00:28:43 ◼ ► But in a in a period where I have a lot of a lot of things that need to get done in a limited amount of time [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1723">TS</a>]
00:28:49 ◼ ► and energy to do them if I'm not willing to make any sacrifices on the family side of things [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1729">TS</a>]
00:28:54 ◼ ► and I need to have an enormous amount of energy into the work side of things. Something has to get cut. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1734">TS</a>]
00:29:01 ◼ ► And that's that's where I sort of find this this analogy is useful [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1741">TS</a>]
00:29:07 ◼ ► and in the thing precisely the thing you sayings vs the thing that you think is the impossible dream is to be hugely [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1747">TS</a>]
00:29:15 ◼ ► successful at work and maintain those other. The aspects of life. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1755">TS</a>]
00:29:22 ◼ ► Hugely successful is what yeah to the best friend in the world to the best has been in the world to be a rich athlete [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1762">TS</a>]
00:29:28 ◼ ► with incredible Six-Pack and making the best videos in the whole world. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1768">TS</a>]
00:29:32 ◼ ► Yeah it's physically impossible to do everything. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1772">TS</a>]
00:29:35 ◼ ► I honestly think that that is the case now that there are some people who have great success in very many fields [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1775">TS</a>]
00:29:43 ◼ ► and I'm always very interested to read about people who have become successful and what they get up to. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1783">TS</a>]
00:29:50 ◼ ► But I think that that is that is definitely the case you can't be the best friend in the world all of your friends [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1790">TS</a>]
00:29:57 ◼ ► and the best husband and the best at work. An incredibly healthy all the same time. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1797">TS</a>]
00:30:02 ◼ ► Yeah of course you can't that's what's called balance work life balance right as you decide how much weight to [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1802">TS</a>]
00:30:09 ◼ ► apportion to the different things right. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1809">TS</a>]
00:30:11 ◼ ► But I guess I guess what I'm saying is that apportioning equal balance to all things ends up in kind of mediocre [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1811">TS</a>]
00:30:25 ◼ ► results in all of them. Yeah and I think that that is totally fine. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1825">TS</a>]
00:30:31 ◼ ► Right I do not begrudge anyone who says I twenty five across the board. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1831">TS</a>]
00:30:35 ◼ ► I think that is a totally reasonable decision that you think it leads to mediocrity. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1835">TS</a>]
00:30:41 ◼ ► I think it is very hard to be exceptional if if you are dedicating equal energy across the board. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1841">TS</a>]
00:30:48 ◼ ► But I also think that that's that is perfectly reasonable to do. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1848">TS</a>]
00:30:52 ◼ ► You know it's you know it's just a very I think people should just be aware of the decisions that they're making. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1852">TS</a>]
00:31:00 ◼ ► and so if you if whatever the field of work that you're in if you want to try to be incredibly successful at that field [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1860">TS</a>]
00:31:10 ◼ ► you're going to have to make in the beginning difficult decisions about what other parts of your life [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1870">TS</a>]
00:31:17 ◼ ► or you're going to cut. And I get. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1877">TS</a>]
00:31:21 ◼ ► I don't know if it's frustrated but when people talk about you know wanting to do something but not not recognizing [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1881">TS</a>]
00:31:31 ◼ ► or not being willing to give up other areas of their life that's that's sort of frustrating for me to observe [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1891">TS</a>]
00:31:37 ◼ ► and I think that that thinking about those areas very consciously is helpful. Right. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1897">TS</a>]
00:31:42 ◼ ► You know if if you're not willing to make the sacrifices then I think you should also not feel guilty about not doing [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1902">TS</a>]
00:31:49 ◼ ► whatever it is you want to do right becoming an Olympic skier. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1909">TS</a>]
00:31:52 ◼ ► Don't feel guilty that you're not working on your Olympic skiing if you've made like a twenty five percent across the [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1912">TS</a>]
00:31:58 ◼ ► board decision for how to allocate your energy. No pain no gain. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1918">TS</a>]
00:32:02 ◼ ► Yeah I guess so but I like this decision matrix I like no pain no gain is vague right. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1922">TS</a>]
00:32:09 ◼ ► Like no nurse this isn't matrix is really specific and easy to understand here. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1929">TS</a>]
00:32:15 ◼ ► Here's a board here's some dials if you want to turn up any of the one dial all the other dials turn down right now to [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1935">TS</a>]
00:32:21 ◼ ► decide where you're going to go with that. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1941">TS</a>]
00:32:23 ◼ ► And again as it has been on my mind this month in particular because I do I do feel like I have finally gotten to the [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1943">TS</a>]
00:32:31 ◼ ► stage where I can turn down my business dial a little because I need to turn the health dial back up [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1951">TS</a>]
00:32:42 ◼ ► and I have been very aware of that this month where. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1962">TS</a>]
00:32:46 ◼ ► He's now sort of changed my diet to try to be healthier and I've taken out more time to exercise. He joined a gym. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1966">TS</a>]
00:32:53 ◼ ► Well actually I have I have yes I have joined a gym is the short answer is this the first time you've ever joined a gym. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1973">TS</a>]
00:33:00 ◼ ► No it is not the first time I ever joined a gym because I used to join a gym and then feel badly about not going [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1980">TS</a>]
00:33:07 ◼ ► and prior very very prior to my You Tube career I used to have a more across the board setting of my priorities [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1987">TS</a>]
00:33:15 ◼ ► and I used to like cycle around London all the time [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1995">TS</a>]
00:33:17 ◼ ► and I used to have no engaging hobbies unlike all of that just went away. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/1997">TS</a>]
00:33:22 ◼ ► You know as as You Tube took up more and more time so when you would like that [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2002">TS</a>]
00:33:26 ◼ ► when you were more across the board were you happy. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2006">TS</a>]
00:33:32 ◼ ► OK that's a difficult question to answer because the straight up answer is yes [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2012">TS</a>]
00:33:40 ◼ ► but I can also say that I was always trying to do additional work on the side which might be something that we talk [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2020">TS</a>]
00:33:50 ◼ ► about more in detail in the future [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2030">TS</a>]
00:33:51 ◼ ► but I had like a number of little side businesses that I was trying all through my professional life. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2031">TS</a>]
00:34:00 ◼ ► And you know I was I was dedicating to them perhaps an insufficient amount of time to make them successful [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2040">TS</a>]
00:34:09 ◼ ► And that's because I was busy going around London on my photography hobby right taking pictures of all kinds of stuff [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2049">TS</a>]
00:34:16 ◼ ► like if you look me up on flicker like you can see a record of all of these pictures that I took [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2056">TS</a>]
00:34:21 ◼ ► and then you can see that it just abruptly stops. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2061">TS</a>]
00:34:25 ◼ ► And that's and that's partly because I just have not had time or energy for photography hobby. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2065">TS</a>]
00:34:30 ◼ ► Now that you've tweeted us. Yeah you know for this past couple years you've been you choose I'm ashamed. I hear yeah. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2070">TS</a>]
00:34:39 ◼ ► I would say that I am I would say without a doubt I would rather be where I am now [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2079">TS</a>]
00:34:45 ◼ ► and having to kind of claw back some of the damage that was caused from ignoring my health for a while then be where I [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2085">TS</a>]
00:34:54 ◼ ► was before with a more even balance across the board. You are a man of science that a man of logic. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2094">TS</a>]
00:35:02 ◼ ► Surely you don't think it is a good way to live to neglect your body for two years and then fix your body up [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2102">TS</a>]
00:35:09 ◼ ► and neglect something. Surely you must see that that's not the ideal way to operate. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2109">TS</a>]
00:35:17 ◼ ► I think I see the problem there is with your your word ideal and I like I totally agree. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2117">TS</a>]
00:35:27 ◼ ► I would rather have the level of fitness that I had five years ago. Then the level of fitness that I have now. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2127">TS</a>]
00:35:36 ◼ ► and I think that I would not be where I am today if I had not made decisions about sacrificing time particularly in [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2136">TS</a>]
00:35:45 ◼ ► health. You know and also when the friends category. Right. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2145">TS</a>]
00:35:48 ◼ ► But ideally I would not want to do that like I sit here today [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2148">TS</a>]
00:35:53 ◼ ► and I can say that I am like genuinely sad that some friends that I used to be in touch with more that I'm not in touch. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2153">TS</a>]
00:36:00 ◼ ► It's now and that's a very hard thing to ever fix. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2160">TS</a>]
00:36:04 ◼ ► But I guess the ideal test for the thesis you are putting to us today is to look at the most successful people in the [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2164">TS</a>]
00:36:11 ◼ ► world and say that a fat divorced and have no friends. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2171">TS</a>]
00:36:18 ◼ ► That is an excellent question because on that because on the same as you [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2178">TS</a>]
00:36:22 ◼ ► and because I have you know I neglected my health and relationships because of my obsession with work. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2182">TS</a>]
00:36:31 ◼ ► I kind of justify it the same way you do and I say well any success I've had is because of it [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2191">TS</a>]
00:36:38 ◼ ► and I don't know if you if you spent two hours a day or less thinking about work [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2198">TS</a>]
00:36:46 ◼ ► or switched off your computer earlier and went out with your mates and went for a run would you not be successful. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2206">TS</a>]
00:36:55 ◼ ► Really this gets into some complicated things about the nature of work [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2215">TS</a>]
00:37:01 ◼ ► and the kind of work that I think we do in that that many people who are self employed do it necessitates that that [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2221">TS</a>]
00:37:12 ◼ ► particular lightbulb is turned up higher than it would normally be. Yeah. And so I agree with that. I agree with that. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2232">TS</a>]
00:37:20 ◼ ► You know for example I have spoken with a number of friends who are not self employed [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2240">TS</a>]
00:37:26 ◼ ► and the general consensus of what everybody loves about the job is that [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2246">TS</a>]
00:37:31 ◼ ► when the workday is over they don't care anymore. Yeah it doesn't matter. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2251">TS</a>]
00:37:36 ◼ ► They don't have to think about it anymore because they'll go in tomorrow and then the work will be there and they [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2256">TS</a>]
00:37:41 ◼ ► and they are paid to work a particular period of time and then days over and it doesn't matter anymore [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2261">TS</a>]
00:37:47 ◼ ► and that's a huge psychological relief that you give up if there is theoretically always something more that you can be [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2267">TS</a>]
00:37:54 ◼ ► doing. And the other thing those people forget is like I have a lot of friends that work in. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2274">TS</a>]
00:38:02 ◼ ► But if the camera breaks that's someone else's job to fix and if we're not to go out [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2282">TS</a>]
00:38:07 ◼ ► and if the computer stops working that's the I.T. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2287">TS</a>]
00:38:09 ◼ ► Department and someone else does this and but when you work on your own and everything is your problem. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2289">TS</a>]
00:38:16 ◼ ► Yeah and those problems never go away. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2296">TS</a>]
00:38:18 ◼ ► Yeah this is again first world problems rather well so we are one people businesses. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2298">TS</a>]
00:38:24 ◼ ► But my my point is that you know I don't know exactly where this number is [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2304">TS</a>]
00:38:29 ◼ ► but I think if you are a one person business of any kind in order to keep that running I don't think you know just to [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2309">TS</a>]
00:38:37 ◼ ► pick a number that the work lightbulb can ever be below fifty watts. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2317">TS</a>]
00:38:42 ◼ ► Right it can't be below sort of half your energy no matter what you do because everything is your responsibility you [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2322">TS</a>]
00:38:48 ◼ ► know in a one person business so one thing I want to come back to this analogy and I know I know that at the start [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2328">TS</a>]
00:38:54 ◼ ► and then you pulled a grandee series on me in coming back would may have it [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2334">TS</a>]
00:38:58 ◼ ► but the thing I think is the debate to be had for people like us is can do we switch the bulb off. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2338">TS</a>]
00:39:07 ◼ ► Do we switch the work of seven pm or eight pm and switch to the wife you know your wife Bob on all your friends album. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2347">TS</a>]
00:39:17 ◼ ► And can you ever turn that work bulb off because that's the thing that's put to mail all the time by my math the [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2357">TS</a>]
00:39:23 ◼ ► critics in my life it's not that I work too much. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2363">TS</a>]
00:39:26 ◼ ► In fact said to me I work more hours if you want to wake up early or work like I don't mind but have a stop time [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2366">TS</a>]
00:39:34 ◼ ► and partly that's for maintenance of your relationships and your friendships and your health. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2374">TS</a>]
00:39:38 ◼ ► Isn't that the argument that's put to me again I'm making other people's I don't know here is that doing that is good [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2378">TS</a>]
00:39:44 ◼ ► for your workers well it gives you kind of a refresh that's healthy to stop thinking about work for a while and [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2384">TS</a>]
00:39:51 ◼ ► when you're talking about these light bulbs you know I'm sort of imagining even [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2391">TS</a>]
00:39:55 ◼ ► when you're at the movies with with me to see G.P. Greyer. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2395">TS</a>]
00:40:00 ◼ ► In mates at the pub that your work will be stewed dimly on you know ten watts [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2400">TS</a>]
00:40:05 ◼ ► and the thing I think may be healthy is switch that powerful together if you can. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2405">TS</a>]
00:40:10 ◼ ► Well I think the thing that I'm about to say you will sympathise with which is that I do not really have the ability to [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2410">TS</a>]
00:40:16 ◼ ► do that at this stage. Yeah right I I am not quite able to do that. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2416">TS</a>]
00:40:22 ◼ ► I'm I'm going to guess I'm going to make a guess about a personality here [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2422">TS</a>]
00:40:25 ◼ ► but I'm going to guess that you are not a person who plays video games. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2425">TS</a>]
00:40:30 ◼ ► I am not OK today many years ago but I just can't get into them anymore. That's true. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2430">TS</a>]
00:40:35 ◼ ► Yeah so I'm still the person who plays video games. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2435">TS</a>]
00:40:38 ◼ ► OK And IMO I am very much aware that one of the reasons why I do still like to play video games is that it's one of the [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2438">TS</a>]
00:40:47 ◼ ► very few activities where I can say that I'm genuinely not thinking about work. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2447">TS</a>]
00:40:55 ◼ ► I will play and it is totally absorbing and I feel like I don't have. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2455">TS</a>]
00:41:02 ◼ ► Any kind of work thoughts going on in the background and that that is enjoyable [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2462">TS</a>]
00:41:06 ◼ ► and is one of the reasons why I don't have benches on Reddit in a few places but almost always a day [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2466">TS</a>]
00:41:12 ◼ ► or two after I release a video which is always a huge push at the very end to get that done. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2472">TS</a>]
00:41:19 ◼ ► I basically take two days and I'm not doing anything I'm just going to sit here on this computer [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2479">TS</a>]
00:41:23 ◼ ► and just play a game you know for the next day or two like this is this is my weekend now [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2483">TS</a>]
00:41:29 ◼ ► and I have to like reset my brain. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2489">TS</a>]
00:41:33 ◼ ► but I find that the no other activity would do that even if I preferred that it would you know if if I took like a mini [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2493">TS</a>]
00:41:39 ◼ ► holiday with the Mrs I would still be kind of thinking about you know what are all the comments that are coming in [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2499">TS</a>]
00:41:45 ◼ ► where did it get linked to how is it being received. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2505">TS</a>]
00:41:48 ◼ ► God what's the next thing going to be the next thing right which is always a huge concern of course now the very irony [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2508">TS</a>]
00:41:54 ◼ ► of this this whole situation is that the games that I play. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2514">TS</a>]
00:42:00 ◼ ► Most all of variation of some kind of work simulator I do not play like a first person shooter games [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2520">TS</a>]
00:42:08 ◼ ► but I play a game that's in the same category right here in the G.P. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2528">TS</a>]
00:42:12 ◼ ► Grew the bigger the game where you have to make a You Tube video before time runs out. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2532">TS</a>]
00:42:17 ◼ ► Yeah it's like you know Sim City you are the MER right. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2537">TS</a>]
00:42:20 ◼ ► Or symbolisation you're in charge of this whole civilization now micromanage a hundred cities right. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2540">TS</a>]
00:42:25 ◼ ► Or the one I've been playing recently which is very good I recommend is prison architect [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2545">TS</a>]
00:42:30 ◼ ► and like you're in charge of a prison right. You have it it is very good. When I found recently is very engaging. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2550">TS</a>]
00:42:38 ◼ ► But that's my only escape from thinking about work to some extent at any time is basically by playing a virtual work [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2558">TS</a>]
00:42:48 ◼ ► game which I am sort of aware is is a strange thing to do [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2568">TS</a>]
00:42:53 ◼ ► but it really does it just it like it absorbs that part of my brain completely and like here's some pretend work. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2573">TS</a>]
00:43:01 ◼ ► and that's the only kind of way that I can get a break from thinking about my actual work to some extent all the time. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2581">TS</a>]
00:43:06 ◼ ► Let me ask you this and I have to if it's too personal just tell me but it begs the question [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2586">TS</a>]
00:43:10 ◼ ► and those around you you know family friends loved ones and all that. What did they think about your work life balance. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2590">TS</a>]
00:43:19 ◼ ► So I would say speaking on behalf of my wife. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2599">TS</a>]
00:43:29 ◼ ► and I think there is there is no way that I could have gotten through this sort of period of trying to become self [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2609">TS</a>]
00:43:37 ◼ ► employed and working on You Tube if it wasn't for her incredible understanding [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2617">TS</a>]
00:43:42 ◼ ► and I am very lucky that I married a woman who is very perfectly happy with time to herself [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2622">TS</a>]
00:43:52 ◼ ► and also is really aware of needing to to kind of leave me be at certain very intense work. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2632">TS</a>]
00:44:00 ◼ ► Periods so for a sort of reference it earlier but whenever a video comes out the sort of three [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2640">TS</a>]
00:44:08 ◼ ► or four days prior to that are the busiest I ever am because I'm just doing all the animation and those are huge [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2648">TS</a>]
00:44:14 ◼ ► and this is this is not an exaggeration. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2654">TS</a>]
00:44:16 ◼ ► Those are usually four days of I wake up and I'm animating or editing the audio until I fall asleep [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2656">TS</a>]
00:44:22 ◼ ► and I sort of do that four days in a row and my wife knows she's just not going to see me during those times [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2662">TS</a>]
00:44:29 ◼ ► and if she does see me I'm not a very chatty person. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2669">TS</a>]
00:44:35 ◼ ► and I think if I had if I had married somebody else I think that could be really bad for a relationship over the long [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2675">TS</a>]
00:44:42 ◼ ► So I I think it depends a lot on who you surround yourself with [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2682">TS</a>]
00:44:48 ◼ ► and some people are going to be OK with kind of disappearing for long periods of time [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2688">TS</a>]
00:44:53 ◼ ► and sometimes it's not OK And I think I probably I don't want to get into too in specifics [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2693">TS</a>]
00:45:02 ◼ ► but like one of the more difficult times was that I usually spend the summers with my parents in North Carolina. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2702">TS</a>]
00:45:09 ◼ ► So I go to the states and I visit them. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2709">TS</a>]
00:45:11 ◼ ► And this last summer the whole suburb will project my sort of fund raising project. Yeah. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2711">TS</a>]
00:45:18 ◼ ► They happened to coincide with the time that I was spending with my family you know for a dedicated several weeks. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2718">TS</a>]
00:45:25 ◼ ► There's a big overlap in the Venn diagram. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2725">TS</a>]
00:45:27 ◼ ► Yeah and normally you know my parents don't live here and so I'm very glad [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2727">TS</a>]
00:45:32 ◼ ► and I feel very fortunate that I can go see them for several weeks at a time [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2732">TS</a>]
00:45:37 ◼ ► but that stubble period just happened to be an incredibly intense period of work. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2737">TS</a>]
00:45:46 ◼ ► Yeah that just soaked up all of my time and so I was in a I was in America you know maybe it was for for six weeks [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2746">TS</a>]
00:45:53 ◼ ► and you know four and a half five of those weeks I was not really available to the people around me. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2753">TS</a>]
00:46:04 ◼ ► but that's that is a totally difficult time because in my mind it's like OK we're here I'm supposed to be turning up [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2764">TS</a>]
00:46:11 ◼ ► the family light bulbs to like very high right. I'm physically here it's a dedicated strength at such a time. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2771">TS</a>]
00:46:18 ◼ ► Yeah but such is the nature of work that sometimes it will it will invade those times [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2778">TS</a>]
00:46:24 ◼ ► and there's just nothing that you can do about that. And yeah it's it can definitely be very hard. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2784">TS</a>]
00:46:31 ◼ ► Do you ever wish you were back you know nine to five or something on that. No I don't I don't. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2791">TS</a>]
00:46:39 ◼ ► Even with all the even with all the trade off that I've had to make I'm very happy to be where I am now. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2799">TS</a>]
00:46:48 ◼ ► But it's I think it's just it has been difficult [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2808">TS</a>]
00:46:51 ◼ ► and it has shaken my faith in the existence of a real work life balance. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2811">TS</a>]
00:46:56 ◼ ► Even though I'm sort of trying to even out those knobs to the best of my ability at this stage at least with regards to [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2816">TS</a>]
00:47:05 ◼ ► the health knob of turning that one back up a little bit put into the gym lift weights run. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2825">TS</a>]
00:47:10 ◼ ► I'm just I can't imagine you in the gym just if you may for just a second but what do you think I do in the gym. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2830">TS</a>]
00:47:17 ◼ ► I definitely think he'll listen to podcasts. I don't I don't listen to pod briefly. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2837">TS</a>]
00:47:22 ◼ ► Yeah he must have some kind of electronic device involved somehow [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2842">TS</a>]
00:47:26 ◼ ► and you know of course of course right on there with my i Phone I'm keeping track of everything on my i Phone in the [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2846">TS</a>]
00:47:30 ◼ ► listening listening to terrible usually electronica kind of music. None yet that surprises me. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2850">TS</a>]
00:47:42 ◼ ► and you should use the kind of I can imagine you getting into the weights I can imagine you just in some pretty heavy [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2862">TS</a>]
00:47:50 ◼ ► weights lifting weights yes. Pretty heavy no one at this stage but yeah that's that's what I'm doing I sort of. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2870">TS</a>]
00:48:00 ◼ ► As you can imagine I spent a lot of time trying to research making changes to a more healthy lifestyle before I decided [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2880">TS</a>]
00:48:10 ◼ ► It's like well I don't know anything about this right let like let me actually research stuff [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2890">TS</a>]
00:48:17 ◼ ► and I came I came basically to the conclusion that if you if you want to try to turn around things in a relatively [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2897">TS</a>]
00:48:24 ◼ ► short period of time the best way to do it is with strength training which surprised me because I would have been the [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2904">TS</a>]
00:48:31 ◼ ► You know being like stupid sexy Flanders' I'm running on the treadmill [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2911">TS</a>]
00:48:36 ◼ ► and turns out like no that doesn't really help you in a shorter term right that might be good in the long term [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2916">TS</a>]
00:48:42 ◼ ► and then the second thing is they get all of these crazy diets all over the whole world of all of these variations of [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2922">TS</a>]
00:48:48 ◼ ► things that you can do I feel like well what are some what is science have to say about this [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2928">TS</a>]
00:48:53 ◼ ► and the thing that is common to like every crazy diet in the whole world is basically hey you know all those [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2933">TS</a>]
00:49:01 ◼ ► Don't eat them right there like the worst possible thing that you can eat [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2941">TS</a>]
00:49:05 ◼ ► and so basically those are the two changes that I made like I'm trying to do weights at the gym very very slowly. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2945">TS</a>]
00:49:12 ◼ ► and I'm trying to cut carbohydrates out of my diet which is way harder as I said I was very high because they're also I [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2952">TS</a>]
00:49:19 ◼ ► say yummy but they're oh so everywhere. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2959">TS</a>]
00:49:21 ◼ ► Yes that is that is the thing is is I never quite realize how much I eat that is basically pasta or bread but that [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2961">TS</a>]
00:49:28 ◼ ► but this is where like just to briefly touch on that analogy again. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2968">TS</a>]
00:49:31 ◼ ► I am super aware of this month that while I've been making this transition my my energy [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2971">TS</a>]
00:49:38 ◼ ► and my ability to do concentrated bursts of work is much lower [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2978">TS</a>]
00:49:44 ◼ ► and that's partly that's partly why I'm very happy to be doing this pod cast with you because it's a different it's not [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2984">TS</a>]
00:49:50 ◼ ► as as incredibly intense as making the videos is [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2990">TS</a>]
00:49:54 ◼ ► and I've also totally cheated by picking an easier topic for myself to do. Hopefully. By the end of this month. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/2994">TS</a>]
00:50:01 ◼ ► But I'm again I'm really consciously aware that since I have I have upped the health percentage one of the consequences [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/3001">TS</a>]
00:50:08 ◼ ► of that might be I might not get a video out by the end of January which if I had not made this decision. [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/3008">TS</a>]
00:50:15 ◼ ► I'm pretty confident I would have a video out by the end of January but there like there are tradeoffs in life [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/3015">TS</a>]
00:50:20 ◼ ► and this is this is one of those tradeoffs that I have to up the health the health percentage [<a href="https://overcast.fm/+BgMW5b0oY/3020">TS</a>]